Post # 1
I would like your opinions on this matter.
My FI and I are debating whether or not we want to spend money on unlimited non-alcoholic beverages for everyone. It is $10/person so it would cost us about $1500. We were discussing this with FI’s best man and he said not to do it. That everyone can drink water. I would love not to spend $1500 on drinks but I also don’t want to come off as looking cheap. I’m sure I’ll hear some, “It’s your wedding, do what you want” comments and I understand that, believe me. There’s always the option of letting everyone have water and then paying for the champagne toast. I think that could also be an option.
After you vote in the poll (you can vote on more than one option: So option 1-3 and 4-5) and if you could just explain your answer I’d be eternally grateful! What did you do for your wedding?
Post # 3
Speaking for myself personally – I would just drink water. But many people (like my FI) hate water and would rather drink juice or pop.
Will there be alcoholic drinks at the wedding?
Post # 4
Wait so will there not be any bar at all? If you already have alcoholic drinks then I don’t think you need to pay to have unlimited soda and whatnot. If you aren’t having alcohol I think you do really need to have something other than water for guests.
Post # 5
My DH, myself, and my family don’t drink. We didn’t see the point in spending the money for an open bar if only the GM were going to drink. We had a bartender and a cash bar and didn’t get any complaints.
Post # 6
I would be really disappointed if I couldn’t have a Coke at someone’s wedding. Would I drink water instead? Yeah. But i’d think it was really weird. Why can people have soda etc for mixers but not as non-alcoholic drinks? That’s really weird.
Post # 7
Is consumption not an option for the pop? I don’t think you should have to shell out for every person in attendance, but picking up the tab for those who wish to have pop isn’t that big of a deal. Are you also having a bar?
Post # 8
If I attended the wedding I don’t I would call it cheap but I’d be a little irritated that I’d be stuck with water. I don’t like drinking water with meals or with dessert I have to have something else. So I think you should spend the extra money and go with the unlimited non alcoholic drinks
Post # 9
Isn’t there something in between unlimited alcoholic drinks and water? What about soft drinks, wine and beer? Would that still be out of your budget?
Post # 10
Can they offer tea for less than $10.
I’m sorry, i think it will come off as cheap.
Post # 11
Yeah, I can understand cutting the bar, but I really think you should offer people more than water. Unless you are comfortable going into ULTIMATE budget bride territory… Then I guess the sky’s the limit (so to speak) on what you’re willing to cut. Of course, then the best thing to do is cut the guest list–which would also cut the drink bill.
Post # 12
We’re just doing water, iced tea, lemonade and coffee. I think I would try to stick some sort of punch in there if I were you. Just water might come off as a bit cheap, but I don’t think you have to have a full bar either.
Post # 13
That sounds like a LOT for non-alcoholic beverages. If we’re talking soda and ice tea and those sorts of things, please remember that at any restaurant you could get unlimited free refills for those sorts of drinks for about $2.50. Why pay 4 times that amount for the same thing? Especially when most people wouldn’t even drink enough to match the amount you paid. If you only have water available, I seriously doubt that anyone would even notice the difference. It would be very nice to pay for the champagne toast, though.
Post # 14
Spend the money to do non-alcoholic drinks. I do think it would be very odd to only be offered water at someones wedding. Even if I went over to someones house just for lunch or dinner or to hang out, if the only thing they had to offer me was water I would think that was odd and a little rude.
Post # 15
I’d cut out other things and offer your guests soda/coffee/tea etc.. if it costs an extra 10/person or I would find a new venue because that sounds really odd.
Post # 16
We had this same discussion when planning my wedding. At the end of the day if I’m paying for people to have alcohol, I at LEAST need to pay for people to have soda if they want it. We ended up working out an option with the banquet all that we will pay for the number of sodas drank up to but not exceeding the set price of unlimited soda for everyone. For us it was only $600 at maximum. If people end up only drinking water it will cost less.