Post # 1
It’s been happening to me since I started planning this wedding…
I get so overwhelmed with the all the teeny tiny details of planning that I find myself losing all happiness over the thought of getting married to my fiancé. Don’t get me wrong, I AM very happy/thrilled/excited to be married to him, but with all the planning and whatnot, I FORGET to sit back and just think and enjoy being engaged and in love.
I guess I sort of forget to be happy.
Does this make any sense to anyone?
I just remember being so much more happy before we got engaged. Now, I feel like my stress level is at a constant high, I’m so much more uptight about everything, WAY more irritable..
I just want to marry him and continue on with our lives.
Post # 3
Definitely! I would love to be married, its the getting married part that is stressful! Honestlyi its one of the only things we fight about.
Post # 4
@kerensa: Yeah, it definitly feels like that with us, too.
Post # 5
Oh my gosh, yes! I felt guilty for feeling that way, but I’m glad to know I’m not the only one. No one prepares you for the stress! It doesn’t help that I’m (a) indecisive, and (b) I care about all the small details, AND (c) my mom has been clashing with me on a lot of the planning. I’ve gotten a little better at managing the stress and calming down. I am in no way a bridezilla, but there have been times where I’ve just cried because I got so overwhelmed. Hope it gets better for you!!
Post # 6
I’ve definitely felt that way too! You’re not alone at all.
Post # 7
@KendraLeigh: I felt that way somewhere in the middle of our engagement. Then I really thought about it and said “if it causes too much stress, if it brings more drama then joy, i don’t need it.” I cut out a LOT of wedding details. Things are super simple now. It’s made the planning easier and more enjoyable, and allowed me to focus on marrying the love of my life (and our immigration issues… which aren’t happy, but necessary).
Post # 8
I know how you feel! I am a details obsessed person who may slightly be a control freak. It is hard to relax even though you know the why you are working so hard in the first place. Sometimes it can make you feel like going back in time. Just take a deep breathe and give yourself a 2 or 3 day break (if you can) from the wedding planning and head out for a nice dinner with the Fiance. Don’t even bring up the wedding…sometimes they do first 🙂
Post # 9
@marthan6: I’m having to take like, week long breaks here and there. Then one day I’ll have an idea and obsess over it for a few days, get overwhelmed again, yadda yadda.