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If you think it does than you guessed right!!!!!!!!!!!! And guess who is wearing it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!NOT ME!!!!!!!!!! MY FMIL IS WEARING THIS TO MY WEDDING!! She went to Neiman Marcus to get a dress so her personal shopper helped her pick out a dress, and no and behold it is a freakin' wedding dress with a TRAIN, oh and it is champagne which is the color my dress is!!!! OH and it is skin tight too! I am so upset!
P.S. On Nicole Miller's website this dress is called the "Stretch Metal Bridal Dress", and she (FMIL) thinks it doesn't look like a wedding dress. I hope no one has to deal with what I am dealing with.
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I personally dont like it, if your going for a simple look there are many other more beautiful materials. I mean unless you really like this one, then GO FOR IT! :)
How awful! I am so sorry that you have to deal with this. Is there any way that your FI can talk with his mom about her choosing another dress?
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Disneybride2be, it is not for me, you didn't read the posting, it is for my FMIL, which is even worst.
OMG, im soooo sorry i just read the post you wrote, okay now i understand what you mean i thought you wanted it for you!!! Dont worry I dont like the dress at ALL, its ugly, you will look stunning in your dress. Is your dress similar to hers???? Or is it a ball gown?
I just don't understand why a mother (in-law or not) would want to do this! Is she generally clueless about this kind of stuff? And is there any way your FH can talk to his mom? Maybe he can convince her to return it? Good luck!
Wow - if it is of any consolation, very few women have the figure to carry off that dress. On the wrong woman it will look like two pigs fighting in a blanket (think of the wedding in Steel Magnolias).
yikes. what does your fiance think about it? Maybe she's oblivious to the fact it's the same colour as your gown?
I would say something, it would enrage me not to.
Definitely a wedding dress. You (and your FI) should explain to your FMIL what color the MOB and MOG wear...Sorry you have to deal with this!
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I think the dress does not look like a wedding dress, but the fact that it is called a bridal dress by the designer and the dress is the same color as your dress, I am on your side. I did ask my husband his opinion and he said he also did not think it looked like a wedding dress (I had not told him my opinion at the time), then he got really mad at me for asking him to look at a dress while hockey was on (he missed a goal).
although rather wrinkly... being in the same colour screams at me that the woman is trying to take some of the limelight
goodluck with this one
Oh goodness. Sorry you have to deal with this. I think it looks too much like a wedding dress for the MOG. Will your FI talk to her about it at all?? Good luck! don't let to stress you too much , no one will be looking at her.
Yikes! I voted right after I looked and the photo and read what you typed. Um yeah, I'm thinking she needs another dress.
Ya, Just to let you know girls this is what 2,000 dollars gets you from Nicole Miller's Bridal Collection. My FMIL does have a great body and she does look good in it although she walks like a penguin because it might fit her too good! When I saw it last night for the first time I couldn't say anything when she walked in the room, very awkward silence. I then asked "Is that a train on the back" and I know I didn't ask nicely.
UGH.
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Wow, that is really bad. At least everyone at your wedding will see it for what it is -- poor taste.
perhaps the personal shopper misunderstood her and thought she was shopping for HER wedding not HER SONS wedding! Try not to let it bug you, she is the one who will look rediculous - everyone knows only the BRIDE wears a bridal gown to the wedding!
Your post just made me think of one that was posted earlier today:
http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/she-bought-a-50k-dress-to-upstage-the-bride
Wow...!! That sucks!! What does your FI say about it? Can he talk to her and politely (or in whatever tone will get the point across) ask her to buy a different one? I feel for you sometimes I feel that my FMIL might show up in something that resembles a wedding dress too.
If you're going to be upset about this on your wedding day (should be your best day EVER!) and I'm sure it will still be eating at you, you should ask for advice within his family. Someone needs to tell her! It not only looks like a wedding dress it IS a wedding dress.
Good Luck!
Wow...just wow. Before I even read your post I looked at the pics and thought "Oh totally a wedding dress. Maybe not the prettiest dress, but if she likes it she should wear it." Then I read the text and my mouth literally fell open. You HAVE to say something to her. Or have your FI. Personally, I like to fight my own battles but everyone is different. Either way, this will bug you for the rest of your life if you let her wear it. Maybe she "just doesn't know" proper protocol, but I don't have that much faith in mothers of the groom. I hope this gets resolved. Gosh, what did your mother say when (if) you told her?
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ACK. TOtally inappropriate. WTF is running through her mind?! Does she literally hate you like nobody's business? What does your FI say?
Somebody needs to grab that dress from her and hide it. and REFUSE to let her wear it that day, I don't give a flying monkey poo how much it cost and how skankalicious it looks on her. I don't care how great her body is, totally not OK for a MOG.
I would have come right out and said, "wow. Totally not ok. it looks like my dress. same color, too" and let my FI make her get rid of it. If it was champagne and your dress was white, I still wouldn't be a fan, but i'd go "eh" because at least it isn't white...but if your dress is champagne....holy crappolies.
YOu have to live under a rock to not know better, or be that ignorant of a person. Geesh. I wish you luck, keep us posted. WTF is WRONG with people?!?!?! Ugh. I'd stage a dress heist if I were you
Worst case scenario, she wears it and everyone talks about her lack of manners and how unclassy it is. I'd warn her of that, too..maybe she thinks the gossip will be good, not bad. Nobody likes to be talked bad about!
Wow. It does look like a bridal gown. At the very least, a bridesmaid gown. What is she thinking? Ok, she's not. Well, does she have a daughter or a sister that can gently explain the etiquette? Or can you maybe giver her an etiquette book that explains why the dress is a no no?
Oh no! How terrible. I agree with @tessabella76 - is there someone who can gently explain to her this is a BAD idea???
Whoa, that's completely not okay. What is she thinking? Especially since it's the same color as your dress? I'd put my foot down. I know a lot of people feel like things like this are best left to your FI since its his mom... but I'd want to say something myself. Not saying you should be aggressive and rude about it, but definitely point out that it's the same color as your dress and looks very very bridal, etc etc.
OMG! Wow, have you asked her to look for a different dress? Can you FI talk to her? Can your mom talk to her? Can you call up the personal shopper's manager and make note that the woman chose a bridal dress for a mother of the groom dress??? Wow.
@niki I'm laughing out loud at your FI's reaction to asking him about a dress during hockey.
Wow. First, let me say, that even if she has a nice body for someone her age, this still isn't going to look good. I don't like the wrinkliness, and as it sounds like it's almost too tight, that won't look good either. (Especially for someone her age.) She will look like a fool.
I am dying to know how your FI feels. And also if she is clueless? Trying to feel young again? Trying to upstage you? Doesn't like you? Did she not have a wedding, and this is her big chance to grab some attention? Also, $2000 for a MOB dress is a lot. I know you can find some pretty expensive stuff out there. But unless she's made out of money, that seems a bit excessive. (Maybe it's just me.)
Can she still return it, or has it been altered? Has she taken tags off, or whatever? I would seriously have your FI tell her that he does not want her in that dress, and to act her age. If I was him I'd say she would look silly, and all the guests will think she lost her marbles. She needs to pick a different color than you, too.
Desperate times call for desperate measures. You can hire a bouncer to keep her out if she shows up in that dress. Or she can try it on for your FI, and he can accidentally drop his ice cream cone on it. 
Good luck. Keep us posted.
PS Neiman Marcus has a really good return policy. Part of the issue with really expensive stores. Maybe you can call up the store and say, "look, some associate sold my FMIL a wedding gown to wear to her son's wedding. MY wedding. I need her to return it. What are the policies on this?" in case she goes, "oh i cannot return it!" or something. Maybe the manager will take pity on you and offer to return it. As in, the employee had bad etiquette in selling it to her in the first place? A store employee at Nordstroms offered me a white cocktail dress once to wear to a wedding and I literally went, "are you kidding me? You don't wear white to a wedding" and she was like "waaaaht?". I'd spin it any way I could.
Your FI HAS to be embarassed by this!! My mom has a nice body, too, but I'd be mortified if she wore something like this...it's very "housewives of Orange County" or something. Ugh it's so ridiculous.
Sorry I keep posting about this...I've been thinking about it all morning and how irritated it makes me that this woman will be your MIL!!! Next thing you know, she'll be trying to have your baby for you or some crap
Whether or not it looks like a wedding gown... tell her she could save money by just wrapping herself in aluminum foil. It is totally inappropriate for the MOG.
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While I see your point, I think you're over-reacting. Your FMIL went to a nice shop, asked for help, and spent a fortune on a fancy dress. To me that means she REALLY tried hard to fine something appropriate! It probably hurt her feelings when you reacted coldly to her choice. My mother wore a dress with a small train and my MIL wore a champagne ball gown. They both looked lovely and nobody confused them with me. Her dress is taking nothing away from you. Why are you so angry?
I think it does look like a wedding dress, and I'm pretty surprised the NM personal shopper did not point that out. But if she got in in champagne, I can also see how she did not entirely see that. I'm guessing it's a really formal wedding, and maybe she's not used to these things. But I can still see why you're upset. maybe the best thing to do is to give her the benefit of the doubt that she's really not trying to upstage you but rather didn't know any better. You or your FI could ask her to wear something different...and I think that's a totally appropriate thing to do.
She CANNOT wear that dress! I don't care how great her body is!
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LOL!
Hell, I'd let her wear it!
She's going to look ridiculous and dated in it. She can't help but not to!
I dunno what things are like in Denver, but here in the South, doing something that crass will getcha laughed at for a looooonnnnngggg time! 
You're the bride, and if anything, letting her wear it will show confidence and grace on your part. It will most definitely NOT detract from you. Everyone will know who the bride is, and if anything, just feel a little more sympathy for you having a MIL who is obviously monkeys**t!!
Smile and nod honey. Sometimes you can't stop someone from looking ridiculous. Just tell your FI that you have no problem with her wearing it, but that she won't be in any of the wedding pictures. Then let her make up her mind. Tell her it's bad luck to have two wedding dresses in the same bridal pictures. *grin*
Good luck!
I don't think it looks like a wedding dress. I think it looks like she is wrapped in aluminum foil. If she wants to look gross let her wear it.......It will only make you look even more beautiful.
Don't worry about her dress. I don't think anybody will be confused and think of her as the bride (unless you invited people who doesn't know how you look like). She will make a fool out of herself if her dress is more bridal than yours and if she acted as a bride on your wedding day.
And don't worry, she won't be included in all your pictures. And in your wedding album, just put 1 or 2 pictures of her to get even (just kiddingggg!).
Have you talked to anyone about this? I'd be really curious as to what everyone else thinks (as for the MOH, FI, Mom, etc)
OMG. This is terrible!!!! I think that you should DEMAND that she takes it back! What a beeotch!!
you could always ask if you could borrow it after the wedding to go as leftovers for haloween...
it's SOOOOO wrong for her to wear it, and you are obviously upset. do you want us to call and tell her she should choose something else?
love, all your future bride best friends here =)
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