(Closed) Does this make me selfish?

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

It IS your day! Of all things, you should NOT have to share your reception. AT ALL. It’s one thing if they want to do a bbq or something (but hey you DO have a job and a wedding going on, it happens–you and your new husband can always do a nice dinner with your sister and her new husband) but really, you deserve your own reception.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I don’t think you are being selfish at all! It is completely understandable to want your wedding day to be yours and your FIs day!

I think if you discuss it with your sister she would understand. But I do think that if your sister does have her reception during the week you have to make sure you make time for her wedding too!

Post # 6
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461 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I wouldn’t share it.  You’ve planned this day for you and your future husband.  It won’t be their day even if you tried to share it.  I think it’s unfair of your family to ask this of you, to be honest. 

Post # 7
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1315 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Oooh you’ve got to get this one sorted right away. If you let it go on without saying anything definite, it’ll get legs of its own and run all the way out of your control. Make your feelings known right now, (in a caring way, obv) and offer whatever help you can, but tbh it’s your sister’s lookout to make her wedding run ok at such short time.

Post # 9
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289 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

You are definitely, definitely not selfish. The fact that your so gracious about the idea that’s she’s getting married right before you even though you’ve been planning so much longer is wonderful. You shouldn’t have to share your reception!!

Post # 10
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1315 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

And tell your dad dresses are just none of his business lol!! They can tootle off and renew their vows if he wants to see that dress out again!!

Post # 11
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1315 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Good girl, just stay calm and you’ll get there!

Post # 13
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5389 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

No, you are not being selfish. You should let them know how you feel asap. What does you sister have to say about this?

Post # 14
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305 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

A wedding day is definitely not something you should have to share. I don’t think selfish applies to this situation. A wedding and the celebration surrounding it is so personal to the couple, I think you have every right for the day to be about you and your man only, even as much as you love your sis.

Post # 16
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1137 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

HELL NO.  Absolutely not.  No way.  This CANNOT happen.  If I were you, I’d be really upset at the suggestion, and if I were your sister I’d be mortified.  Honestly, I don’t get why your sister HAS to get married the week of your wedding, but that’s up to her.  But she definitely does NOT need to share your reception.  It would basically ruin it for you and it would not be any good for her either.  This is possibly the craziest suggestion from a family I’ve ever heard, and I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this.  But you need to firmly tell everyone that you’re not okay with this, and don’t budge.  It would be awful for everyone!

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