Post # 1
So my boyfriend and I are totally non traditional…lets just throw that out there right now lol! We’ve been talking about getting married for a long time and instead of him picking out my wedding ring he wants us to design it together. Well his plan is to save enough money to buy it this fall. Well when I was younger I went to summer camp about an hour away and I always wanted to get married there. It’s beautiful and rustic with gorgeous scenery! I decided to call just to check the price and I was informed that they were booked solid all the way til 2014 and I wanted to get married the fall of 2013:( Well a couple weeks ago she called me and told me a lady kept making promises to pay her down payment to hold her date and kept making up excuses so she said that she had Sept 14th 2013 open if I wanted it! I felt it was fate! So I booked it and now I’m on this whole wedding kick hardcore and planning like crazy! My boyfriend is excited and was happy that it became open also! But I feel stupid when I go to talk to the lady that runs the venue since I don’t have a ring on my finger! I also told a couple people and they laughed and said “you’re planning your wedding and you’re not even engaged??” Am I crazy for planning my wedding and I’m not even engaged yet or would you have done the same thing? Did anyone else plan their wedding (such as booking venues) before they were engaged?
Post # 3
I don’t think you’re crazy at all, I mean you’ve clearly already said you were going to get engaged and it seems like the place you want fills up quick so I think it is totally reasonable! Now if it was just some banquet hall and you booked it before being engaged then I would think you were a little crazy.
Post # 4
FI and I also designed our rings, and we took our time doing it – we were engaged for a little over two months before I had a ring on my finger. Some people asked about it – I just smiled and said we were designing a custom ring. You don’t actually need to tell people you’re not engaged yet.
That said, you might want to be a little moderate about how much wedding planning you actually do before you really get engaged …
Post # 5
I started before I was engaged too…don’t feel bad!
Post # 6
I’d say if it feels weird ask your BF if it’s ok to get a fake stand in ring for when you’re doing anything wedding related. I don’t think you’re crazy. I would just say you are unofficially engaged . FI and I used to like using that until we were able to get my ring.
Post # 7
We’ve been engaged over two months now. FI said I could pick out a ring, then his mother gave us one and it was up to me (with his input) to pick/design how to reset/recast it. We finally dropped it off yesterday and it will be 4-6 weeks before it’s done. I didn’t care that I didn’t have a ring originally. But then I had a “duh” moment… I have a claddagh ring I bought in Ireland which only fits my right ring finger in winter (it was 55F and rainy when I bought it lol), nice thick band, the heart is my birthstone and it has some little diamonds on the crown and hands so I’m happy wearing it since it means a lot to me (Ireland, I’m part Irish, my birthstone) AND especially what it stands for.
I think they are the perfect stand in ring, since that’s what they are all about anyhow (google it if you don’t know what they are!) and at least here in USA you can find cheap ones, my mom bought one that’s thin with an agate in it for about $70. If anyone asks just say it’s your “place holder ring” which is what FI calls it :).
Post # 8
Who the efff cares!!! If you know you are your BF are super serious, and obviously you are; you are openly planning to get engaged, get married and are seriously planning for the future. I bought my dress before officially becoming engaged because it was hitting the 6 month mark before our wedding date. Congrats on getting your dream venue!