Post # 1
Both my Fiance & I are from a small town outside of KC, MO (about 20-30 minutes depending on traffic) and are having a hard time finding a location near us to fit our budget, dreams and guest list. I have started looking at venues downtown (which I love), but my Mother keeps telling me how weird she thinks it is since our family are all from around our hometown and we’ve neither one lived downtown. I don’t see a problem with it, but she feels like it will detour people from coming. I feel like if they won’t travel and extra 20 minutes or so, they really don’t have a huge desire to be there anyway. Am I thinking selfishly or is this really out of the ordinary? Just looking for some friendly, no biased opinions! Thanks girls! 🙂
Post # 3
I think its no big dael at all! If you’re not finding a place that you love, look elsewhere and if it’s only 20 minutes away, well, that’s nothing at ALL!
Post # 4
No, have it downtown! If people dn’t come b/c of a 20 minute drive, they don’t care enough in my opinion, so they aren’t worth catering to IMO. I don’t think it’s a big deal at all. Most people don’t come across a venue RIGHT in their hometown, but within an hour’s drive anyways.
Post # 5
I think that it’s fine. It’s not like you’re having a destination wedding hundreds of miles away that the majority of your guest list might not be able to make to. An extra 20 minutes in the car is nothing really.
Then again, FH and I are getting this exact same schtick from his aunt because we chose a venue that’s in a different suburb to where we live in. It’s 20 minutes away by car but apparently too far for her to travel. Eh, if she doesn’t want to be there then she doesn’t need to be.
Post # 6
You should do what makes you happy & what you like. It is your wedding day. I live 20 minutes outside of OKC & I work in OKC. It is not that big of a deal to drive 20 minutes. If they want to be there, they will come.
Post # 7
If you love downtown I say go for it! It’s YOUR wedding! I agree with you if they don’t like your choice of location and wont attend b/c of it then they’re probably not the type of people you want at your wedding anyways! You’re not being selfish at all girl.
Post # 8
I think it’s a nice change of scenery. It makes me think that there are a lot of very local weddings in your family and taking in outside 20-30 mintures sounds like a great change! As a guest, I wouldn;t think twice about a 30 min car ride for a wedding!!!!!!! That’s nothing. I drive that far to get to work everyday.
Post # 9
Not being selfish at all. Its your day you need to have it your way. I mean people travel to destination weddings 20 mins are not that difficult to travel. Enjoy and chill.
Post # 10
20 minutes isn’t really asking for much. I think your mother may be concerned with older guests who prefer not driving downtown. But a 20 minute cab ride isn’t bad either!
Post # 11
Go for it, but I understand the flak you may get. We live in the city, but only one other family member does. Of course we’re expected to come out to the suburbs for every single family event, but everyone’s throwing a fit about coming into the city for the wedding. Go figure.
Post # 12
People travel all the time for weddings. There is no rule that it has to be in the bride’s hometown and if it isn’t, that doesn’t stop people from attending. Your mom is giving you false information and unnecessary worry.
Post # 13
I’m from the KC metro. I live in a suburb south of downtown by about 20 to 30 minutes also. I don’t think it’s a problem at all! Almost all of the weddings I’ve been to in the last seven years have either had the reception or ceremony downtown and it wasn’t an issue. Go for it! And I’m glad to see another “KC” person!!
Post # 14
My Fiance and I chose venues where we live in my home town. So we don’t have that problem, but I don’t see why it would be weird to have your venue in a down town area especially if their are no venues that you like in your home town.
Post # 16
I don’t see it as a problem at all. heck, In ATL, if you only have to drive 20 minutes, you think you’ve died and gone to heaven!
We are the home of the mega-commute. NOT fun. But we’d think that was an easy skip down the street to come to your wedding! 🙂
Hugs. They’ll get over it.