- 3 years ago
- Wedding: October 2014
FI and I are getting married in October and FSIL (FI’s sister, who is a good friend of mine) is getting married the month before us, in September. I’ve posted before on how we are both using the same venue for our reception, their family restaurant, because it’s been a big tradition in their family. Plus, FMIL offered it as her gift, so it would save us a lot of money.
Fortunately, FSIL has been really considerate and is always asking me about her ideas, making sure I don’t have the same idea in mind, like colors, and things of that nature. I just cannot get into wedding planning so I have not been able to make any decisions on anything! Heck, I haven’t even asked people to be BM yet! I’ve gone dress shopping 3 times and don’t like anything I’ve tried on. I’m just at a standstill.
FI and I have been talking about this the last couple of days. He kind of feels like we have to plan something elaborate because naturally people will compare the 2 weddings especially because they are so close together. I too think he feels like because he is the only son sandwiched between 2 sisters (his younger sister is the one getting married) he gets a bit neglected.
We were planning on going on a cruise for our honeymoon. FI came up with this idea instead and I need the Bees opinions on whether this is cheezy.
FI suggested that we get married on the cruise since I don’t like traditional wedding dresses, and since he has to dress every day for work, we could have fun with it. Then when we get back, we would still have the reception at the restaurant, but instead of a “traditional” wedding themed reception, we would have a tropical/island theme. He said the restaurant hosted a charity dinner a couple of years ago and it was island themed and they had a steel drum band play for part of it. He remembers it being a hit and even the workers thought it was awesome. He talked to their event planner and she said it wasn’t too hard to pull off and she could bring in professional looking stuff so it’s not like we’d be DIYing everything. Since it is his family’s place, we pretty much have free reign of the menu too as we can have things not normally on the menu.
Here’s my concerns with this:
1. It’s in October. We live in the Midwest, so it’s fall and leaves are falling off the trees. Will it be completely dumb to have a summery tropical theme in the fall?
2. Does it look like we are trying too hard to be different from FSIL?
3. The restaurant is an Italian restaurant, but it’s not decorated like the Olive Garden. In fact, they just redecorated a couple of years ago and it’s very modern and sleek; you’d never guess it was an Italian restaurant. But, there’s obviously nothing tropical in it so would those kind of decorations look dumb? The reception would be in a private party room that has a separate entrance so you don’t have to walk through the restaurant to get to it.
4. Is the theme itself more suited for a party rather than a wedding?
It’s so funny to see my FI so gung ho about this! He is seriously psyched and think it would be an awesome reception! I told him my concerns above and he kind of brushed them off and thinks I’m worrying over nothing.
What do the Bees think? The idea does sound like fun to me but I don’t want to come across as cheezy.