Post # 1
Hi bees! My FI have decided that we would like to tie the knot on December 23, 2015 which is on a Wednesday. Let me list all the reasons why…
I’ve always wanted a winter wedding. I love cold weather and the festive Christmas lights here in Chicago
Mon-Thursday venues are much cheaper than weekends and we are on a tight budget of about $6000 for this expensive city…
I am stuck on getting married in 2015… I don’t like how 2016 sounds despite how weird that may sound, and these coming winter months are too soon and we don’t have enough money saved
December 24 is our anniversary but I don’t really want to be married then
His OOT son and my OOT young nieces and nephews will be on winter break so they don’t have to worry about missing school.
Now, we have already received some negative feedback. My parents live in FL but they are ok And are dealing with it. The only other OOT family I have who would be coming are from MN and MT. Besides his son, my FIs family live around Chicago. We also think it would be a nice idea to have this wedding then to see family we don’t see much of around the holidays. I figure if we send STDs (haha) early enough people can plan accordingly.
We are only inviting 40ish people and are thinking about this venue below….
What are your thoughts on all this? Sorry for the long neurotic post!!
this sunroom overlooks Lake Michigan!
Post # 2
I would not attend a wedding that was 2 days before Christmas, sorry. 🙁
But if you know your guests will have no problem with it, then go for it!!
Post # 3
Wow, that’s a pretty venue! You have some legitimate reasons for scheduling the way you did. Your close family will probably be able to attend, but be prepared for friends or distant family to be unable to go because of other family obligations for the holidays.
Post # 4
Congratulations on getting married. Sorry to say I was invited to a wedding same time a year back…. And to be honest it was such a pain… We had to stay around in the area down where we live because the wedding was here … Which meant we did not get to leave till Christmas Eve to go up to our family for christmas. It ended up costing us a bomb having to wait so close to Christmas to travel. Lots of the invited guests did not come as it meant they would have to sacrific spending Christmas with their families to stick around for the wedding. Heaps of people left early and heaps of people did not drink as they knew they needed to travel the next day. I felt sad for the couple as it was a nice wedding but lots of their loved ones were not there. Christmas week is such a busy stressful time for people planning Christmas and finishing up work… And I think do as you want but certainly be prepared that a lot of people won’t be able to come.
Post # 5
My honest opinion – I think that weddings in the middle of the week are tough, even with a small guest list. Now add in that it’s a couple days before Christmas, and it gets even more difficult. A lot of people have Christmas traditions that they kept each year. And a lot of jobs only give employees Christmas day off (mine does – if we want more time off, we have to use PTO), so for a middle of the week wedding where travel is involved, that means taking at least 3 days off (one to travel there, one for the wedding, and one to travel back). Just as long as you’re prepared for people to not be there due to the circumstances…
All of that being said, it’s your and your FI’s wedding, and it should be something that the both of you want and will make you happy. The day is about you two, and if this fits your dreams and the people that mean the absolute most to you can make it, then you should do what you want! Best of luck and congrats! And that venue is really, really gorgeous!
Post # 6
Personally unless I was extremely close to you, I wouldn’t attend. Prices around the holidays for anything travel related are nuts, and it’s always so crazy around the holidays too with last minute shopping, etc. <br /><br />Although since you are having a smaller wedding and most of your guests live around the area, it’d probably be OK.
Post # 7
It isn’t just the OOT’s who may find it difficult to attend a wedding on the 23rd of December. If any of your friends or family have plans to travel out of Chicago for Christmas, it will be nearly impossible for them to attend your wedding.
Post # 8
Oh,that’s expensive right around Christmas. And also,yes a pain. Is there a reason it couldn’t be earlier in December. I understand your anniversary is the 24th but when you get married,that’s your new anniversary. Good luck!
Post # 9
If you want the best possible turnout, pick either a midweek date or a date near X-Mas, not both. Or save your money and just elope.
Post # 10
Oh my thanks on the feedback already! Maybe this date is an inadvertent way to keep the guest list low, lol.
JerNCher: we could do it earlier except for earlier in the month is still technically fall…which bugs me..(I know, I know)
Post # 11
mandipandi: Why not have it on Monday 21st? I think being so close to Christmas will make it very very hard. How about the week before Christmas? A lot of people are already out of school. Perhaps December 17th.
Post # 12
I think you should have it earlier on a date that is more convenient to your guests.
Post # 13
I definitely would not go. You may find yourself extremely disappointed by the turn out, even with only 40 of your nearest and dearest invited. Gorgeous venue, though! Best of luck to you.
Post # 14
Gorgeous venue! I got invited to an out of town wedding a week before Christmas this year, and I’m skipping. I’m saving up to get home for the holidays, and between the gift giving and travel obligations, I know money will be tight. Travel prices are higher, its more difficult to get out of work if other people are taking off early for the holiday, and it would put me travelling from your wedding to my holiday destination on Christmas Eve. For in town folks I certainly think its more reasonable, but it is just such a busy time of the year. It sounds like you don’t have many out of town guests so maybe you’ll still be ok. I hope whatever you decide turns out well for you!
Post # 15
I would probably not be able to attend a friend’s wedding that close to Christmas, but for family, with a year’s notice, I would make it work. It has been very difficult to get time off from work around the holidays with every job I have ever had. Mid week weddings would be out unless it’s in my city.
My girlfriend got married December 18th a few years ago, and it was very winter wonderland/ Christmasey. Just think of how early the Christmas decorations come out these days! It will definitely feel wintery in Chicago any time in December.
That venue is extremely beautiful, and I love intimate weddings.