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Dear bees,
I have to ask about something that has really been bothering me for a couple of weeks.
I have seen it mentioned on at least one board post and at least one blog entry on Weddingbee that it is possible to be "too big for a wedding dress." Specifically, I've seen it posted that if you wear a size 10 or larger, a wedding dress just probably won't look good on you.
WHAT? Bees, please tell me this isn't true! I think women of all shapes and sizes should be able to wear a wedding dress.
I personally am a size 10, and reading those comments made me feel very insecure.
I am not saying that I think I am fat, but I know I am not perfect, and I know I'd like to be in a bit better shape by the wedding. But I am also 5'11", and trust me, it's hard to be a size 2 when you are almost six feet tall!
Since I've gotten engaged, I've been dreaming of my wedding day and how on that day, I will look more beautiful to my FI than ever before because I am his bride. Please tell me that this myth about wedding dress sizes isn't true!
i think you just have to find the right dress that fits your shape and style. a-line style is flattering on most women ive noticed. every woman should feel gorgeous on her wedding day.
I have never heard that before, but it is absolutely not true! I think every woman should be able to wear whatever she wants ALL the time, but especially on her wedding day. I am 5'9'' and a size 10, and I look fabulous in that dress ;) I am sure you do too!!!
PPPPPFFFFFFT NO WAY! I am definitely a big girl (street size 18) and I found a dress! Sure, I had to pay a fee for the extra fabric, and I couldn't try on the dress that I wanted because the sample wouldn't go over my hips. But I tried on enough to know what features/designs I liked and looked good on my body to know that my dress would look awesome in my size. I'm not sure about the super high end designers (not in my price range anyways), but the dresses are out there.
Oh pinkchampagne, thank you for your kind words of reassurement! I am so happy to hear that your dress is fabulous and that you feel fabulous in it! I hope that once I pick my dress, I feel the same way!
And jwinnings, you are right. I do like the look of a-line and ballgown dresses....it's just a perk that they are flattering! :)
definitely not true, but i have read some unkind comments from smaller women who had to order larger sizes due to the bridal sizes... and they irked me, but thank goodness for the little function that allows me to close the post since i don't like it :D.. coming from a size 14/16 i personally raise my finger to them (and i for once don't mean left ring finger)
eta that a-lines aren't the only option for a curvy gal... (check out the post i started a few weeks ago after reading the same bs)
@JoJo That's so great that you had such a good experience looking for dresses! I am totally intimidated by that process.
What?
I don't know where you read that! I am a size 10 and loved the way I looked in wedding dresses. You definitely have to get the right dress for your shape but there is definitely a wedding dress out there for ALL shapes and sizes!
@Cre thanks for the reply and for making me laugh! I hope that no one has meant any harm by their comments, but they do sting sometimes.
I sometimes feel so much bigger than some girls just due to height. But luckily my FI is 3-4 inches taller than me, so he has made me less self-conscious about that. I am so happy he'll be by my side forever because he always makes me feel good about myself. But that is ESPECIALLY why I want to look extra beautiful for him on our wedding day!
@Future Mrs. Martin: I know, I was shocked to see it too, esp on the 'bee! Do you have any advice from your own experience in dress shopping?
@Cre: Thanks for posting that link! I just marked it as a favorite. :)
I hope you can find something. I don't have any personal experience with the higher dress sizes but I have seen a lot of pictures of girls of all sizes in dresses that are great for their body!
@gem: i don't think they meant harm by them, but they are very sizist remarks. it's like saying something is too much like a (insert racial remark) would wear. Stings just as much, and shows what a person really thinks in my opinion no matter how nice they try to make it. I mean seriously?!
As for me I wish I was taller so my fat could be spread out lmao!! i was shocked that Crystal Renn and I wear the same size because I look like a fat and plump grandma next to her amazonian self. And at your heigth I am quite sure that you're a great and voluptous drink of water :D
Thanks Cre and MssAsB! Once I get up the courage to go dress shopping, I will let you all know how it goes. My best friend has been bugging me about why I don't want to go dress shopping, so I guess I will just have to push through the insecurity!
Flat out, the answer is no. NO. There is no woman too big to rock a wedding gown.
I'll give the benefit of the doubt to people who say otherwise and think maybe they mean giant, cathedral length gown. But still, if that is your dream, or you want a sheath, either way NO. Rock it.
I'm sure that you can find dresses that fit you pretty well. I think most of the sames are around a street size 10/12. Try to have fun with it for sure!
oh babe, i bet you will look phenomenal!!! what makes you feel sexiest in every day wear?
You bees are the best! Definitely making me feel so much better.
@Cre: In daily wear, I like clothes that accentuate my waist (but also arent too tight on tummy). And the other perk of being curvier is that you actually have a decent sized chest. I am pretty modest, so I wouldn't necessarily want something super revealing or low-cut, but I think sweetheart necklines on wedding dresses are precious!
hmmm what about .. this dress... it to me is made for women of our stature..
http://www.maggiesottero.com/dress.aspx?page=1&style=A3407
This kind of thing really bothers me. I feel as though women pick out traits that they don't have, but that other women do have to criticize in order to boost themselves up.
No one is "too fat" for a wedding dress. That is like saying that someone is too fat to get married.
I'm sorry if anyone has to deal with this. That is a terrible thing to say. It doesn't matter if you are short or tall, skinny or larger - every girl looks beautiful on her wedding day and amazing in her dress. And let's be honest, if she didn't, her fiance wouldn't want to be standing up there and giving himself to her for the rest of his life. And when it comes down to it, your own opinion and that of your FI's is the only ones that matter.
@Cre: That is gorgeous! Did you have that saved somewhere? You found it awfully quickly. :)
@Mrs. Louboutin: Thanks so much for putting this whole thing in the right perspective...the perspective of the girl who is marrying her dream guy and therefore is also that guy's dream girl... :)
@gemstone: nah, i just know too much about weddings :D.. i seriously think that every voluptous woman should choose a maggie or a corsetted back dress because it gives you the va va va voom then you said sweetheart neckline and there we go lol!! and that dress looks like it's made for a tall person
no way! I'm sorry you've heard/felt that from anyone in this community, I gotta say I disagree with the idea that anyone could ever be too large to rock a wedding dress. That's just nonsense!
I've been a size 8-12 since puberty, and personally I've never felt I was a larger woman at all. I love my body!
I do think it's probably easier for tiny, skinny girls to find dresses that flatter them and their figures, but that's no reason to get discouraged. Let your wedding stay about you -- not a comparison between you and someone more slight of stature. :)
Definitely, absolutely not.
Incidentally, it's easier for thinner brides to find a variety of dresses that work on them because, frankly, it's easier to design for their figures. Really talented designers can design for any body type, but unfortunately, there are a lot of very gifted designers who lack the resources to produce their own lines (I majored in fashion design, trust me on this).
DEFinitely not true! I am 5'11" and weare a size 12-14 and I had no problem finding a dress! Teh only issue that I had was that my davids bridal dress was just a teeny bit too short for my taste. It didn't have a train, and our wedding was on the beach so it was fine, but I would have liked it about 2 inches longer. Dress shopping was actually really fun for me, and I found several that I liked. I preferred A-line styles and felt beautiful onmy wedding day!
Gemstone, I know what post comment you're talking about, and I found it very rude. I myself am a smaller size, but she said the same things about BM's and then I really got upset. My biggest bridesmaid is a size 24!!! My cousin recently got married and she has about the same length/heighth stature you do, and she looked gorgeous in her wedding dress. It was a halter ballgown that she got at David's for an extremely low price, but I never would've guessed that. She was beautiful and I'm sure you will too!
That's definitely not true! I'm sure you'll be able to find an awesome dress that will fit and flatter you! I know I did, and I'm a 12!
As far as shopping goes Gemstone most of the samples are between 8-12. The 8s still fit they just couldn't always be done up in the back all the way but you can still get an idea of what they look like on.
I am honestly in shock that someone on these boards would have said anything like that - I have found everyone to be very inclusive of size here - I am glad that I didn't see that post.
Wedding gown shopping will be a blast - just relax and have fun!
*eyeroll* Oh lord, no. I've never heard that. Why can't people just let other people get married happily?
Frankly, I'm a little jealous of your stature! I wish I were taller so I could wear (and not get swallowed by) a big beautiful ballgown skirt. As it is, being a shortie, I had to go with something less voluminous so it didn't overwhelm me. I think any woman can look amazing in a wedding dress, you just have to find a style that suits YOU best and makes you feel wonderful. Good luck with the dress hunting, and I'm sure you will look amazing!
maybe you misinterpreted what the poster meant...maybe they meant that if you are above a size 10 the sample size dresses that are in stores don't fit/won't look good. And that may be true...I know girls smaller then size 10 that had trouble envisioning themselves in their bridal gowns b/c the sample sizes didn't fit right when they went shopping. I just can't imagine a bee writing on a blog post that people bigger then a size 10 won't look good in a wedding dress.
I don't think you'll have a problem at all! I am somewhere around a 10-12 and VERY "curvy" and was actually surprised at how most of the samples were right around my size! I have a friend size 18 or so, and while I didn't go dress shopping with her I can say that she found a wedding dress that she totally rocked on her wedding day!
I have never seen anything of that nature written on weddingbee... I can't believe someone would say that, isn't size 10 less than the American average size for women? That (saying size 10+ can't wear a wedding dress) doesn't really make any sense.
Are you sure you didn't take something the wrong way? I am not saying I don't believe you, I guess I am just saying that I can't believe someone would actually *think* (nevermind SAY) that size 10 and up would not look good in a wedding dress. Its ludicrous. I have seen hundreds of pictures on this very site of size 10+ girls who looked gorgeous in their dresses.
That is sooo not true! I'm 5'10" and wear a street size 12. I had to get a size 16 wedding dress, but DAMN it looks good! If you are a bigger size, before you go shopping call the stores and ask what size samples they carry. I went to one store without calling, and they had nothing even close to what size I wore, I walked out without trying on a single dress. I found mine at David's Bridal. My customer service wasn't terrible, but they have sample dresses in EVERY size, which is what I liked! I'm sure you will have a ball shopping for your dress! Good luck!
Honey, I'm a sive 12 and my dress looks damn good on me! Don't listen to the Nah-Sayers 
I'm also shocked that someone would say that. It's ludicrous and absolutely not true. Maybe the person was referring to sample dresses in the stores? I think a lot of us have problems looking good in sample dresses because they simply don't fit properly, whether it's too small or too big on our body.
I never heard of such a thing. Or seen it anywhere on Weddingbee.
I do know that if you are larger than the samples size at the store you'll have trouble trying things on and getting an accurate idea of what it will look like.
But I'm a size 20 and I wore a wedding dress. I got lots of compliments and most importantly, I felt beautiful.
I'm 5'9" and I'm a size 12. I found that most dresses looked really nice on me. So that statement is totally not true. But I will say that my one BM is 5'6" and a size 12 and the same did not hold true for her.
Where in the world did you hear this hogwash?! How ludicrous! You're not a size 2220103 =]. I'm 5'11" and wore a Maggie in a size 10....I'm pretty sure it fit just fiiiiine, LOL.
I must've missed this self important post where someone claims a size 10 is too big to wear a dress, lol.....
that's definitely not true! to add a different perspective, i'm a size 4 and when i went shopping there were lots of dresses i loved that when i put them on looked horrible on me because they swallowed me. when i bought my dress, i was jealous of the curvy girl next to me because she was totally rockin them. i think that there are just shapes that flatter some figures better than others.
definitely no such thing as too big for a wedding dress!
as far as dress samples go, they do run really small, and at the 5 stores i've gone too, i've only tried on 1 sample dresss that was too big (and i wear like a street size 10--i never feel particularly big in "real life"). but i found that the better stores/stores i liked more and will be buying from made more of an effort to clip me into the dress so i could still tell what it looked like, whereas the stores with worse customer service didn't even try--seriously i was holding the dresses up on myself at one particularly crappy salon while the lady fussed with the other dresses. awful customer service! also, the better stores say things like "ooh these samples are made for b-cups" (i'm a d cup) instead of "oh you're too big for the dress." some stores wouldn't let me try on mermaid gowns, which stinks because the fit actually looks better on me than a-line dresses, which just made me look boxy. the styles that i liked best were referred to as "modified mermaid," "modified a-line" or "fit to flare," if that helps your search!
so, don't lose heart or take it personally! there are absolutely dresses (and bridal stores) that will make you look and feel totally amazing and beautiful
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