Post # 1
That is my question. I had the most horrible dream about SO last night and I wonder if my subconscience is to blame! So here’s the Dream:
SO’s Mom passed away (she’s his only family aside from an Aunt and Uncle who live about 40 mins away, and he lives with her) and he feared that he was going to lose the house so he ran away. My parents and I searched for him and for some reason we hid money in cereal boxes at Grocery stores in the areas we searched (in many different states) I was in a grocery store in GA (SO lives in NY and I live in NJ) and I spotted him, and he saw me and instead of a happy reunion, he bolted. I followed him out to the Parking lot and saw him get into a beat up old car, not his usual SUV, and I stood there calling his name and crying but he just stared at me.
I woke up crying. It took me a little while to calm down but I started to think about why I would have a dream like that. I’m wondering if it has to do with a fear that he will run away from marriage (he hasn’t given me any reason to fear this, but it’s a fear I’ve had) so my question to you bees is has anyone had a bad dream while waiting? Is it just a fear?
Post # 3
I did. I dreamt we were “talking” and he said he wasn’t sure about the future (or something along those lines). I woke up with a start, crying 🙁
I don’t know if it means anything though.
Post # 4
I occasionally have bad dreams related to our relationship when I am having more anxious frustrating days. It just means your waiting mind is stressing you. That’s all.
Post # 5
I had an awful dream about our relationship the other night. I’m pretty sure it was from hanging out with this friend of mine who is having problems. All her negativity worked it’s way into my brain I guess…I don’t give too much importance to dreams, they only mean something if you think they do.
Like gramgeek said, it’s just stress making your dreams go wonky.
Post # 6
Maybe your subconscious is worried about financial stability? I mean, losing a house, hiding money, a beat-up old car replacing his nice car… those all sound like money-related issues, maybe?
I haven’t had any bad dreams, just weird ones. In one I was pregnant and gave birth in the middle of a busy street and he caught the baby. In the other I was just hugely pregnant and we were walking in the woods naked. In another, he proposed to me in the kitchen right before I left for work. All very odd and implausible scenarios!
Post # 7
I get panic dreams sometimes, and they make me upset as I dream that my SO is not really going to propose at all, and I always see myself as this older lady, still not married and with no chance of marrying or having children as I am too old – nightmare!
Post # 8
I dreamed I went back to my ex (who proposed about 6 months before we ended things all together, it was a final attempt to save things, which was a bad idea anyway..) I went back to my him crying and begging him to take me back bc I wanted security, a marriage, a family, and once he was willing to try that with me.
Talk about disturbing, I felt sick when I woke up and all day after that everytime the dream came to mind. I normally share dreams that are unusual or bother me with the SO but I just couldn’t put him through that. I don’t think he would have understood that I no way want to be with my ex, or anyone but him. It’s just my subconscious working out my frustrations in a safe way I suppose.
Maybe that’s the case with all of us, it’s on our minds so much, even when we sleep, so the result is upsetting dreams.
Post # 9
On my worst waiting days I had a few dreams where I got shot. In one of them I knew I was going to die and simply felt resigned to my fate. It was not fun. Also have had a few dreams where bad things have happened in our relationship. They’re just dreams. Some dreams may be your subconscious telling you things, and some dreams can just feel like a weird drug trip.
Post # 10
I occasionally have dreams where an old boyfriend shows up and I have to choose between him and my SO. There have been a few times where I don’t choose SO and I think it’s because I’m so uncertain of our future.
Post # 11
They’re just dreams. Some dreams may be your subconscious telling you things, and some dreams can just feel like a weird drug trip.
haha I couldn’t agree more! This must have been a weird drug trip dream lol.
Post # 12
I have really terrible dreams about him too…. I’m soo glad I’m not alone! Thanks for posting this, I feel less crazy!
Post # 13
I’ve been having a lot of bad dreams lately ABOUT waiting, lol.
A few nights ago I dreamt that SO proposed to be with some kind of cheesy big plastic thing that looked kindof like a Ring Pop, lol!
Then last night I dreamt that SO gave me a ‘proposal I.O.U’, with a picture of a ring and saying that as soon as he can afford the ring he will propose to me. Then throughout the rest of my dream I kept seeing friends and coworkers that I wanted to tell that SO and I were engaged, but I never could because I realized that we werent anymore engaged after the I.O.U. than before… I woke up this morning extremely poorly rested, and sad 🙁