Post # 1
That is, on the boards? Not as in spammers who try to pump up their businesses under the auspices of a real beehive member. But rather, as in people who raise IMHO ridiculous questions to pose to the community to get a rise. You saw this a lot on The Knot (which can be brutal), with people bringing up outrageous things like, I was a bridesmaid but was kicked out because I slept with the bride’s fiance…is that bad etiquette?
I haven’t seen much of that here at all. And I am so happy that people are not berated for questioning etiquette or not knowing all the “rules”. The reason I ask though is today I saw an etiquette post by a newbee who had specifically created an account to ask her question. I know she created the account to ask the question because her screen name directly references the etiquette situation. I got a lil suspicious as to whether or not she was real. Not that it matters, it was an interesting question that sparked healthy response.
So hive, what have your experiences been with fake bees?
Post # 3
I haven’t seen any but I haven’t been on here long…that’s stupid for people to do! I’m glad the bees on here are genuine 🙂
Post # 4
I’ve never had any experiences – but I wouldn’t mind anyone making an account to ask a question about being a bridesmaid, etc. There are lots of waiting bee’s on here & I enjoy their company! The bee’s on her are so sweet, and very honest! There better not be any fake bee’s or I’ll kick their booty. LOL jk 🙂
Post # 5
Yes, I think so. Sadly, some people actually choose to be trolls because they think it’s fun. It’s really weird…. and sad….do they list that on surveys? “What’s your hobby? Well, I’m an internet d-bag for fun.” Freaks.
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2010 - Heron Hill Winery
I just saw one post that was suspicious…http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/eat-you-heart-out-girls
Post # 7
@layla: lol “I’m a d-bag for fun”
Can’t people post things as guests if they just have genuine questions that they just want to have some input on?
Post # 8
I saw the eat-your-heart-out-girls one! I didn’t post on that one though.
Post # 9
@bluebutterfly…yep I would call that suspicious. I mean the bees first post is about how big their husbands finger is? A little odd to me.
Post # 10
Some people honestly have questions they would rather ask anyonymously. So long as a user isn’t constantly stirring the pot, then I think it’s probably isolated.
The Hostess team looks at anything supscious regarding mega-drama or vendor spam. We try to keep things positive and supportive around here, and we hope that the other bees do the same. Also, if you see a post you think is questionable, don’t be afraid to flag it for the Moderators as well. Community involvement is the best way to keep the boards an upbeat place!
Post # 11
Oh the Eat Your Heart Out Girls, post. Like anyone was like “Oh woe to me! Someone on the internet is taunting me with her fiance’s ginormous Andre the Giant hands. Why doesn’t my fiance have fat hands? WHY NOT ME, GOD? WHYYY?”
Yes, I think there are trolls. Lame lame trolls. Even if we don’t mention it outwardly, inwardly we are mocking them and pitying them for being so lame.
Post # 12
Yes there have been a few lately, plus there is a board out there that watches posts on here to make fun of people.
Post # 13
- Wedding: May 2010 - Philippe Park
@bluebutterfly I thought the SAME thing! We don;t get many trolls, but I certainly suspect a few from time to time.
Post # 14
- Wedding: October 2009 - Church Ceremony/Reception at The Waterford House
Yes, but I think the atmosphere here is much better than that of the knot. If you see a post/ poster that you think is shady you can flag it and Mr. Bee will look into it.
Post # 15
- Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion
Hmm, I thought the “Eat Your Heart Out Girls” poster was just making a joke! I don’t think we should jump to conclusions about her based on that post.
Post # 16
It seems like everyone picks up on poster who are just trying to start trouble and thankfully it seems to be pretty rare. I don’t mind when people post under a pseudonymn for topics that might be extra-sensitive or painful for them. Since a lot of bees (on the boards) get to know one another and get to know each other’s situations it might feel uncomfortable for some people to bring up certain topics on which they might prefer to be anonymous.
I had no idea the Knot had rules! I’ve only used it for photos/research, the checklist and our wedding website. Guess ignorance is bliss when you have Weddingbee!