- 5 years ago
Does your child believe in Santa?
Does your child believe in Santa?
I’m not a mom, but I do teach 4 year olds. My class is 21 kiddos strong, and all but 3 of them believe in Santa.
Yes…my kids are 3 and 1 though lol
I was raised to not believe in Santa Claus, but my FI was really into that when he was a child, so he wants our kids to believe in Santa, so I compromised with him on it that our kids will believe in Santa until 5 years old.
No. He knows “who” he is, and we have fun pretending, though.
If my DH and I decide on children we will infact allow them to believe in santa! I really don’t get why so many people these days get a wedgie over it. It’s not a big deal! When I was younger, santa was magic and it made christmas nights just like a fairytale. I honestly could not have been more excited to bake cookies with my mother late at night for santa and wake up seeing the nibbled cookies. Shopping with my parents at the mall and sitting on santa’s lap, writing him a letter, and wondering if I made the “naughty or nice” list are some of my greatest memories from my childhood. Gosh it makes me smile even now as a twenty-one year old because I truly am thankful my parents allowed me to experience the magic of santa claus 🙂
In all honesty, I’m so thankful my parents never had the “no santa claus” attitude with me or my sister. My parents were amazing and for every holiday they did something special for us. My DH and I will give our child gold coins on st.patricks day, candy hearts and chocolates on valentines day, a couple dollars from the tooth fairy, and of course..easter baskets from the Easter bunny. We will never deny our child a magical childhood.
My little one is 5 and yes, still believes in him. He asked me yesterday if Rudolf was real…was the first time he straight out asked me and I had to lie. I kind of reworded the question and then asked him why he was asking. I don’t like the lying part but I dont want to ruin it for him.
@wbg21: I am not horribly against Santa, I don’t mind that people partake in that costum at all, but my mom grew up poor and would be made fun of by the other kids that Santa didn’t love her enough to give her a gift for Christmas and that hurt her a lot, so she raised me to know that it was her giving me the presents, and that when we fell on hard times (because we did when I was a kid) there would be Christmas’ where I didn’t get anything, and she didn’t want me to think it wasn’t because Santa forgot about me, or didn’t love me.
When I was growing up I ran into a few issues with kids from school when I told them I didn’t get anything for Christmas and they told me that I wasn’t good enough to get anything from Santa, so I told them that Santa didn’t exist and it was because my mom couldn’t afford me any presents that year. Needless to say that was scandelous, and I had to deal with the consequences of that.
Now that I am an adult and I have to think about how I want to raise my kids (in the future) I would have preferred to raise them not believing in Santa Claus just in case there would be a year or two that we couldn’t afford gifts for them. I don’t want to see that heart broken look on their faces and have them ask me why they didn’t deserve any presents from Santa. However, since my FI really wants them to believe in Santa I’ve agreed to the 5 year rule, and if one Christmas before 5 years old we cannot get them presents we will sit them down and tell them why they aren’t getting presents this year and when we can afford it again we’d try and get them a small gift, or take them out to dinner/lunch to help them feel better.
@DrTeeth: I hope you two can come to something that you can both agree on. At first I had my foot down, but I realized that this was something very special to FI, so we came up with a time frame where they are young to enjoy Santa, but old enough to be weened off of the myth at the same time.
@PinkMermaid: I don’t think I get “in a wedgie” over it. 😛 It’s just not something I’m sure we’ll be doing with our kids. We’ll see later on. I think you can make holidays special without having your kids believe in Santa. I think I just have an issue with using “Santa” as a device to coerce kids into “good” behaviors. I’m not sure I want to lie to my children about something I know for a fact doesn’t exist. It just seems decieving to me and I don’t think you need a belief in Santa to make Christmas “magical.” I think we can still celebrate the legend of Santa. I remember being a kid who was really, really devestated over finding out that Santa didn’t exist and that my parents had been lying to me. Of course, this is just my personal experience, but our personal experiences do shape the way we do things, right? 😛 I’m certainly not a scrooge by any means.
@DrTeeth: If santa doesn’t will not exist in your household, then why would you even mention the legend of him? Technically that would be lying to him as well considering you would know that the legend isn’t real nor true. I think it’s silly that people say their lives were ruined because their parents had lied to them about santa claus *gasp*. I’m guessing their wont be a tooth fairy or easter bunny either..that to me would have been quite a boring childhood but to each their own though so we’ll agree to disagree.
Yep he will, he is only 15 months right now but we talk Santa up and definately will talk him up more next year!
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