Post # 1
My DH will become OBSESSED with something. I mean researching it every free minute. Telling me about all of the options and getting opinions/advice. Talking obsessively about it until I feel like strangling him…etc. And then when it finally arrives, he is excited for about 1 week and then totally looses interest.
I swear it’s like dealing with a 5 year old sometimes.
His most recent thing is watches. DH loves nice watches, and he’s bought himself one every year for the past 5 or so years when he received his bonus. He spends months reseraching all of the brands, reading Watch Time Magazine, visiting jewelry stores…etc before he made his decision each year. It was all he could talk about! Well this weekend he told me that he listed all 5 on sale on ebay because he “doesn’t really wear them and they just take up space.” He decided he wants to buy 1 really nice watch instead of 5 semi-nice ones. I wanted to explode!!! How can you be so excited about something and then turn around and sell it?
He also did this with his bike (researched it all winter, bought one, has been out riding twice), golf clubs, car accessories…etc.
Is this just a guy thing?? Am I missing something here?
Post # 3
My FI is the same way. I wish I would have never told him to get an ebay account…that’s ALL he ever does!!!
Post # 4
My FI is totally like that, too! He’s gotten obsessed with basketball this past year, so he’s constantly reading stats, arguing with people in forums, making COMPUTER PROGRAMS to pick his own teams, I mean it’s crazy! It’s good to have a hobby, but sometimes I’m like, “You need to branch out more,” haha.
Post # 5
@CanAmBride: OMG. Did we marry the same person?
Mine does this with everything. Took 6 months to purchase a TV because he was obsessed with the stats, prices, quality, reviews of every TV out there. We are currently getting our kitchen redone and he has been up until 3 or 4am some nights looking up stuff about fridges, stoves, etc. He actually gets stressed out over this stuff.
Some couples ban looking at porn on the computer. We had to ban looking at product reviews. He literally makes himself insane.
Post # 6
Yep. Mine is a planner. We’re 15 months out from the wedding and he is OBSESSIVELY researching which hotel we will stay in for the wedding night. I tried to distract him by getting him to look in to our honeymoon, but he is too on track.
He also gets obsessed with pop culture and politics. If he doesn’t know who an actor is or what movie a song was played in, he will research it until he is 100% sure. It drives me nuts.
Post # 7
Nooo! Oh my dang, my DH is awful for this. I tell him all the time “that’s just another phase” lol He’s the type that if he does something once, and likes it (even just a little), he has to go buy ALL THE SHIT for it.
- We went GeoCaching with friends, ONCE. DH bought a $300 GPS, we’ve used it twice in 2 years.
- DH got his concealed carry gun liscence- already owns pleennty of guns- NEEDED a new one, to conceal.. $600, hasn’t shot it yet.
- DH decided he needed a holster for previously mentioned gun, ..but it has a laser so “no holsters fit”. DH decided he could make his own. BOUGHT 27 FEET OF LEATHER.
- Liked “Walk The Line”…Bought a Banjo. Sold said banjo 2 years later because he couldn’t play it.
- Went paintballing with friends, needed to buy a $200 paintball gun, and al this shit for it($150). Gun is now on Craigslist. Never used. EVER.
Oh I could go on for days lmao, I love him but dang- let’s just try some things before we need all the equiptment for it huh babe? 🙂
Post # 8
No at all. Sometimes I wish FI would become obsessed with something and research it himself! Instead, he just hems-and-haws over it in his brain and won’t talk about it and keeps me waiting!
Post # 9
No, out of the two of us, I’m more that way. DH seems to handle it pretty well though! I don’t get as bad as some of the guys you ladies have been talking about though..at least I don’t think so.
Post # 10
I call it his rainman modes – He is useless to me for however long it takes for him to get bored of whatever it is. thankfully he has very little focus in general (this is the only time I’m thankful for that, drives me effing nuts having to be the ‘parent’ to him the rest of the time) so these spells usually only last a few days.
If only he would get in these rainman modes about something we actually need or need to plan for. grrr.
Post # 11
I’m actually more the same way than my husband. But not super frequently and I usually don’t lose interest to the point where I want to sell whatever it is.
Sometimes it’s not with material items either. Sometimes I become obsessed with researching something I find fascinating. I did it after I saw the Titanic, after we read The Donnor Party in 9th grade (I became fascinated with cannibalism – in a disgusted way, not in a let’s-try-it kind of way), and just recently I started watching Sister Wives from the beginning, so now I’m a little bit fascinated with polygamy (not trying to be offensive, just a different way of life that I want to learn about).
Post # 12
WOW, glad to hear I’m not the only one. DH definitely gets obsessed about things.
1) When I met him, he had 2 boats…a speed boat and a weekender….I’ve never been on either since we’re overseas. Luckily he sold them both…but now he talks about wanting a sailboat and how one day, we might be able to live on it.
2) He has 2 motorcycles….a fast one and our travel one….a very expensive BMW. Went to a bike show this weekend…he spent all Saturday night online looking up Harleys b/c he thinks I might like one of those more.
3) In the past two years, he’s wanted either a VW Van or an expedition vehicle that we can travel the world in. I’ve personally talked him out of buying 2 VWs since we have a 4WD SUV. He is also always trying to get ideas (mostly from Aussie campers) about the best “set up” for our SUV in case we have to sleep in the back of the SUV b/c a campground is closed…which has happened to us.
He has always wasting time looking at stuff online and doing research. Yesterday it was a combination of buying more domain names (I think he thinks they will be worth money one day) and messing with our 2 photo sharing sites and trying to decide if we need another one…which btw, I upload all our photos to…1 is plenty for me.
Post # 13
My FI does the same thing with watches. He looks at them all the time never actually getting one til it catches his eye…does he eve wear it? NOPE, it sits in a box in our room. He likes to collect them.
Post # 14
My FI goes in phases where he is OBSESSIVELY into a particluar activity…and then suddenly loses all interest. It’s to the point now where it doesn’t bother me as much because I just know that’s how he is, but it used to drive me crazy because he would try to get me all excited about it and I would kind of gradually become more interested, and then he would just drop it entirely. Gah.
Post # 15
My FI does it too! The only difference is that he is a complete miser for most of the year, but 2 or 3 times a year he will drop thousands on something he uses twice and then loses interest. It drives me absolutely insane!!!!!
Post # 16
My FI is very similar. He becomes hyper-focused on lots of different things in phases. For a while, he went through a suit phase and bought a ton, then a shoe phase (he now owns more dress shoes than I do and some of them are realllllly ugly and he knows I think so). On the plus side, FI doesn’t get rid of them after he’s done his phase. On the downside, FI doesn’t get rid of them when he’s done.