Post # 1
So our wedding is going to be outdoors, think a mix between rustic and modern. the ceremony is outdoors and the reception is indoors. its not a SUPER fancy event but def not shorts and flip flops lol
anyways, my gown is a ballgown type dress – not at all what id think i was gona get but i absolutely LOVE it and thats what i wanted-whatever i loved. now im worried cuz it doesnt nec “match” our wedding theme as the dress is more formal but does that really matter?
Post # 3
@des1982: I struggled with this very thing for a while myself….We had a DW in St Thomas and the dress I fell in love with wasn’t your “so called” destination type of dress but I went with what I loved in the end!!
Did it match so to speak…. prob not but as a bride you never look out of place!! I have been to lots of weddings and I never once thought the the bride didn’t match. So I say follow your heart and get what you love!!
The dress looks BEAUTIFUL on you….so have no worries!
This was me on the beach in a satin dress….which wasn’t your typical beachy dress so to speak but I totally thought I rocked it…LOL
Post # 4
I think it’s beautiful and will be totally fine for an outdoor wedding!
Post # 5
I’m a firm believer in getting the dress you love! I have a 53lb drop waist ballgown… for my luncheon wedding!
Post # 6
My ceremony is in a church, but the reception is outside. My runner up dress was a huge puffy ballgown that did not fit the outdoor park reception at all. But the one I loved the most does match very well, it is light & chiffon, and will look great at both locations. I picked it because I liked it the best, not because it happened to fit the venue the best.
Your ballgown is gorgeous btw!
Post # 7
@des1982: Girl, your dress is GORGEOUS! Not a worry – I say, rock it! 😀
Post # 8
@des1982: Don’t worry, it doesn’t matter, you enjoy it
Post # 9
That dress is gorgeous on you! You are the star of the show- you will never look out of place:) I chose a mermaid lace dress for our Maui DW- maybe a short or column dress in chiffon would be a more “suitable” choice, but it’s my day and I’m wearing the dress I love!
Post # 10
Yes, my dress matches the formality of our wedding.
I don’t think it’s that big of a deal that your dress match the formality of the overall wedding, with a few exceptions:
– You shouldn’t look totally out of sync with your groom. If you’re in a big ballgown, he should be in a great suit or tux, not a button up shirt and kahakis.
– You shouldn’t have a dress that APPEARS very fancy but then really skimp on your guests. Having a dress that looks like it cost thousands of dollars but then having guests at picnic tables with plastic table cloths or not providing some sort of liquor or food… kind of off to me. If the rest of the weddig is simple for budget reasons, the dress should have the appearance of that as well. Otherwise it kind of puts guests in a “second class” position.
Other than that – as long as your guests are well taken care of and you and your groom have the same feel, I think anything goes!
Post # 11
@des1982: First of all, you look great in that dress! So at least you’ve got that covered.
My fiance and I didn’t really commit to any particular style, color scheme, etc. until I ordered my wedding dress because I really wanted it to be pretty cohesive. To be honest, though, we still haven’t 100% committed to a color scheme (or theme, for that matter). We’re leaning in the direction of enchanted forest with some vintage elements and a couple of Asian elements tossed in as well (since we met in China back in 2007) … We’re thinking of ivory, charcoal grey, blues, and greens for the color scheme. But nothing is set in stone as of right now. (By the way, I know that our “theme” isn’t really cohesive in itself, but I’m pretty confident we can pull it together since it fits our personalities really well. Oh, and we have a wedding coordinator which really helps!)
I honestly don’t think it matters too much, though. I feel like if you have your heart set on a specific venue, color scheme, theme, etc. and then find a dress that makes you feel beautiful and happy, you shouldn’t second guess any of your choices. You’ll be happy in the end that you picked what you loved most, and I can guarantee that none of your guests will be like, “Wow, her dress does not match her theme!”
Post # 12
@BrandNewBride: 53lbs in weight? Or is that some kind of dress lingo I’m not aware of. I thought my beaded gown was heavy at 10lbs but 53lb?!
Post # 13
I was worried about the same thing! I went dress shopping totally expecting to get a fit and flare in some light and breezy material and ended up with a satin ballgown with a cathedral train! Although, my ceremony is outside with a tented reception afterward the overall theme is pretty traditional so, I think I’ll be just fine. I’m just worried I’ll be hot!
Post # 14
@mstellah: My dress actually weighs 53 pounds! Before crinoline! It’s an extremely heavy draped silk taffetta with a MASSIVE 10ft train. To put it in perspective, I only weigh 126 pounds! It’s HEAVY.
Post # 15
My dress does not really match my casual, outdoor wedding. Everything I read said ballgowns are for formal, church weddings. Before dress shopping, I mentioned to my fiance that the ballgowns I loved didn’t seem like they would be very practical for our forest wedding. He replied, “None of the dresses seem very practical for outside.” So I followed my heart and chose a fancy ballgown for my dress, and long, formal dresses for my bridesmaids. I couldn’t be happier, I think everything will look great together. My only concession to practicallity was looking for materials that wouldn’t pick up a lot of redwood needles from the ground 🙂