Post # 1
I asked my grandmother about her wedding last night, and she said “it was the stupidest thing you can imagine.” When my grandparents got married, neither one of them had ever been to a wedding before and didn’t know what they were doing. My grandfather thought that women weren’t allowed at weddings, so he only invited his brothers and said no one else could come. My grandmother’s mom disregarded the “no girls allowed” thing, so she was there, and there were also strangers who had wandered in off the street to attend church. After the service, my grandparents went back to their apartment and she cooked hamburgers for supper, and that was that!
Post # 3
@lampshade: I”ve never heard of no women at a wedding, that’s interesting! It’s amazing how things change as time goes on.
There was an interesting moment at my first wedding. We were outdoors in Central Texas, in July and it was an unusally hot evening. I’m not sure if that played a part in it or if it was due to her diabetes but my mom completely passed out while standing and talking to some friends after the wedding. EMS came and everything lol We got a chuckle years later looking back on it 🙂
Post # 4
@TriciaG: They got married in 1961… I don’t know WHERE he got the idea that women weren’t allowed at weddings! No one else has ever heard of it either, because it’s not a thing, haha.
Post # 5
FI’s parents got married in NJ…by a rabbi who was only licensed in NY. Nobody realized until after the wedding was over. So, they weren’t officially married until a few weeks later – when they got back from their honeymoon.
I don’t know how they screwed that one up, but only a few people actually know about it.
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge
My mom apparently got so drunk off of wine that she was in the bathroom crying because she realized she had put her underwear on inside out and went the whole day like that. As if people knew her underwear was inside out lol. I believe it was my aunt who pointed it out when she went to help my mom in the bathroom.
Post # 7
This isn’t a horror story, more of a cautionary tale.
Anyone on my father’s side of the family who had the big wedding extravaganza ended up having really short or horrible marriages. We’re talking six months from start to finish for some of them. Or if it was longer, just awful with cotentious divorces.
Good thing I’m having a DW with six people total LOL.
Post # 8
My father spent the whole of my first wedding reception sneaking off to call his girlfriend from a pay phone – this was 1989 so no one had cell phones. He left my mother during the week I was on honeymoon. I’ve not seen him since.
A week before the wedding, my mother called me a ‘hyporcritical bitch’when I was trying my wedding dress on to check the length was alright after being altered. It had a lace up back, and she left me stranded in it. She had made it as obvious as hell that she was jealous of me…she was absolutely dreadful during the whole planning.
Neither of them were invited to my second wedding.
Post # 9
@lampshade: No women allowed at weddings? LOL! That’s a good one! 🙂
@Baal: That must have been terrible for you! I really hope your second wedding is a lot better than your first!
At my father’s first wedding his then-inlaws made his mother, my grandmother COOK! At her own son’s wedding! They must have thought it was okay with her because she was just a lowly working class woman. I don’t think my grandmother, or my father, for that matter, ever forgave them for that.
Post # 10
This is my cousin, not me.
Her dad (my uncle) got drunk and almost missed the father daughter dance. Then he got mad at the DJ for not playing a requested song even though he DID play it, he was too drunk to notice. Then tried to fight him over it. Got mad and drove himself (drunk as a skunk) back to their hotel 30 minutes away. What a winner.
Post # 11
@PMSJL: We have one of those too. My cousin married rather young, to a girl he had an on-again-off-again relationship with. All us cousins thought it was a bad idea, but his parents paid for this crazy huge wedding. They got divorced like 6 months later. We now refer to that wedding as “the family reunion” because it’s the last time absolutely everyone got together, so that’s the good part about it 🙂
@lampshade: Luckily, my family has had pretty awesome weddings (except the above mentioned one). I did go to a friend’s wedding, though, that felt like a mess for a large portion of the time. The ceremony was nice, but then there was a FIVE HOUR GAP before the reception. The bride and groom had both been on a mission the year before, so there were like 30 of us from those mission teams and, having volunteered for an entire year and flying out for the wedding, we were all broke. So we just went back to the hotel and sat around the lobby for FIVE HOURS. Then we got to the reception exactly at the stated time… and had to stand outside an extra 45 minutes while the staff finished setting up! And I guess no one thought to turn on the A/C through all that so we got in there and all the hot bodies made it unbearable until about an hour later when the sun went down. It was ridiculous.
Post # 12
To me, my mother’s wedding was a nightmare.
They had a backyard wedding, [and im talking seriously backyard.. they didn’t even rent CHAIRS for people to sit in]. They catered KFC for dinner [yes, KFC]. They bought a birthday sheet cake, and using frosting cross out the birthday and wrote wedding underneath.
They didn’t have a bar, they bought a keg. Yes, keg! Just a keg, no wine, or champagne, or hard liquor.
And to top it all off, guests were tapping the keg BEFORE the wedding started, so much our family were trashed before the ceremony.
Thank goodness I wasn’t born yet, if I was of an age to remember, I’d be horrified.
The worst thing about this? My mom actually wanted/pushed me to have a wedding like this.
No thanks! I mean, if that’s what you want to do.. sure go for it! But all of this seems like a nightmare to me.
Post # 13
@lampshade: my mom’s ex boyfriend showed up at my parents’ wedding and begged her not to get married. He and my tipsy uncle nearly got in a fight and had to be forcefully separated. It’s funny now but wasn’t at the time!
Post # 14
My grandmother had the priest come around and tell my mum that it wasn’t god’s will for her to marry my father as he wa a divorcee. The amusing thing is so was my grandmother! The photographer overexposed the film so they have only a few guest pics of their wedding. My mum’s parents paid for the alcohol and dad caught my mum’s step dad loading the car up with it halfway through the reception. The band my grandmother insisted they hire couldn’t play any popular standards of the time (Beatles etc).
Post # 15
@lampshade: My parents wedding, based on what they have told me, sounded like a complete nightmare. They got married in October of 1981 with several mishaps, like:
- All the photos were done outside on the waterfront. October weather in Montreal is NOT suitable for outdoor wedding photography! My mom said it was especially cold so everyone in the photos was freezing. On top of that, the photographer messed something up so they were out there for 2 hours with no coats.
- The DJ was hired by mom’s parents (okay they were paying for the whole wedding). This DJ played only a small selection of music and most of it was 40’s stuff. My uncle had gone to him with a request to hear the Beatles and the guy said “No, The Beatles are shit and I don’t play shit.” Okay then!
- My mom was late to her own wedding because her brother locked the keys inside the limo and he left it running. BOTH KEYS were in there so they had to call the limo company down there to unlock the car.
- My dad’s best man got plastered and then when he gave his speech he said dad’s ex-girlfriend would have been a better choice. Ouch! At my wedding, NOBODY is getting a single drop of alcohol until all speeches have been made, lol.
- My grandpa chose their wedding song and it was some really crappy 50’s type pop song.
There are other things that went wrong too. My parents just wanted to register at the JP but my grandma wouldn’t have any of that. She wanted them to be married in the church and have the full wedding.
Post # 16
@lampshade: My mum was two months pregnant with me when she married my dad and apparently my grandmother (dad’s mum) spent the reception loudly commenting on the fact that she wasn’t drinking and perhaps she was pregnant. They weren’t going to announce it until after the 12 week mark so the last thing they wanted was everyone staring at my mum and speculating about a possible pregnancy!
One of my cousins had an enormous pretty princess type wedding and ended up divorced within two years and owing all this money, because her husband had a gambling problem and spent all their savings while they were still paying off the wedding. That would have been horrible for her.