Post # 1
I know the superstition…Don’t let the groom see the dress, blah, blah, blah… I’m just wondering how many of you have shown your FH your dress. Did you ask his opinion? Did he offer any input? Or are you keeping the dress a complete secret.
When I was picking out a gown, I actually showed Jim pictures. First the pictures were just online pictures of dresses I liked. Usually he didn’t give an opinion, but every once in a while he would say something. One dress he said was too plain. One he actually gave a thumbs up to.
The first time I actually tried on dresses, my mom took pictures. I tried on one similar to the one he gave a thumbs up to and one that he thought looked plain… I showed him the pictures, and do you know which one he liked on me better… Yep, the plain one.
He hasn’t seen pictures of me in the dress I’ve chosen (I don’t have any), but he has seen pictures of the dress. So obviously I’m not keeping the dress a secret from him.
What about the rest of you? Are you getting input from you FH or keeping the dress a complete secret?
Post # 3
My FH has some odd opinions on dresses sometimes (like he hates wrap style even though it is one of the most flattering styles on me, he also hates pockets in dresses) so I did want his opinion. Whenever I had a strong contender, I either described it to him, or showed him a picture online of a similar dress. Of course he choose the reverse order of mine- even said the one I have chosen looked like a prom dress (I don’t know what prom he’s thinking of) but also said he would think I looked beautiful no matter what I wore.
He hasn’t seen pictures of the exact dress I have chosen, but I think he knows what to expect.
Post # 4
Mine has- I showed him pictures immediately after buying. I was feeling so-so about it, and I really wanted his opinion. That kind of stuff doesn’t bother me.
Post # 5
He has not seen my dress! I did tell him that it was a dress that he probably would not pick out, and that it is not a simple gown. I’m nervous, but hopefully he’ll be surprised when he sees me in it!
Post # 6
Lol! Funny that you post this. Yesterday, I put pictures on weddingbee of a my dress that I am having designed. A few minutes ago my fiance goes “Soooo is that what your dress is gunna look like?” Apparently I left it up yesterday and he saw it when he got on the computer. Luckily it was only the before of what the dress looks like now and the sketches of what it will look like. He’s like “I barely even remember it!” Riiiite!!!
Post # 7
FI has seen a magazine ad of my 2nd dress.
he actually did saw a web pic of my actual ceremony dress like a month or two before i went dress shopping after my mom sent me a random link and i forwarded it to him. i didn’t think i would actually buy that dress! but he has NO IDEA that he has seen it. i hope he still likes it.
Post # 8
Mine does. He hates it. He was there when I tried it on.. it was about the 10th one I had tried, and the 10th that he didn’t like. I just bought it anyways. What does he know… Plus, I really didn’t feel like trying anymore on.. OH yeah, and I loved it. Haha
Post # 9
My “kind of knows by default” I never showed him a picture and I didn’t want him to see it, but his mom came over and I showed her a pic of the dress and she starts going into detail describing the dress with FH right there, and I was just like “SHUT UP” but of course I didn’t say anything so FH heard, “Oh wow, is that lace on top and at the bottom” I love the bow. A-Line will look really nice on you” blah blah blah, I know its not THAT big of a deal but I was kind of bummed.
Post # 10
Mine hasn’t seen it. He’ll like it or he won’t, we’ll see. It’s a one shoulder dress so it could go either way.
Post # 11
Mine hasn’t seen it but then again I haven’t made it yet….. He knows what it looks like but thats because I can’t sketch my designs. But this is a renewal so….
Post # 12
I’m not showing him my dress because he and I have different tastes. Like you, I showed him dresses online and he would comment on the ones that I thought were only so-so. I already bought my dress and I really love it. I don’t want my FI ruining it for me…haha!
Post # 13
Nope, but he’d LOVE to, lol. He doesn’t like not knowing things.
Post # 14
We’ve gone the traditional path and he has no idea what my dress looks like. He’ll see me for the first time as I walk down the aisle of the church. We’re getting married in Austria and so must also have a civil ceremony and even though he picked a dress out of my closet for it, I’ll surprise him and come out in a short white dress.
Post # 15
I showed FI a picture of my dress and get his opinion because I wanted him to like whatever dress I chose too (he’ll have to see me in it all day, lol). In fact, he wanted to see me in the dress once I got it and he loved it! It didn’t matter to either of us if he has seen me in the dress or not, though he definitely was curious at what I would pick . He wants to come to my fittings to see what the dress looks like when it’s all finished, hehe.
Post # 16
i kept it a secret. i just told him that it was short so he’d have a better idea of what he should wear. and then i’d tell him other random things to throw him off in case he thought anything… like it has a huge butt bow or it’s hot pink. he’d always feel too bad to ask me if i was kidding, b/c if i wasn’t and he made fun of it that would be bad.