(Closed) does your FI ever get like this?? (long sorry)

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
690 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think you and your Fiance should seriously talk about the possibility of moving somewhere where he doesn’t have to work for his family. Welders are in high demand in many places and maybe eventually he could set up his own shop. It sounds like his family is the problem, not your wedding. He needs a pep talk for the short term- so you can help undo the lies and damage from his family, but in the long-term, you should discuss putting some distance between you both and his family, and removing yourselves from a toxic situation.

Post # 4
103 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I agree with EmeraldR, you both need to get out of that toxic environment.  Give him lots of pep talks, letting him know you don’t see him as a failure etc.  It takes many times lifting him up, to overcome them tearing him down.  You mentioned suggesting he look at other places to work.  I’m not sure if you have already, but do some research on your own and show him actual job openings at other places.  If one looks promising encourage him to apply.  Maybe him seeing it in black and white will help lift his spirits and decide to make the change.

Post # 6
814 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

wish i could help… what a jerk!

Post # 7
837 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

It sounds to me like after the wedding your Fiance needs to seriously look for a new job.  I know it’s hard in this economy, but things are picking up and hopefully he can find a better workplace.  I hope things get better for you guys!

Post # 9
3125 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

move away! he does a great job at work, and all his dad / boss can do is belittle him? They don’t deserve your time. I’m sorry that you guys are going through this. Move somewhere away from there, and your husband will be able to get a job doing what he does best and be APPRECIATED! and truthfully, probably make more. It sounds like his parents hold things over him and probably don’t compensate him fairly, either. Shame on them! Good luck to you 🙂

Post # 10
2066 posts
Buzzing bee

Fiance deserves better than a miserable job working for his Dad!  Seriously consider moving to get out of that toxic environment. 

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