(Closed) Does your FI make jokes about the wedding? *mini-vent*

posted 5 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - The Down Town Club, Philadelphia

Oh, my FI makes jokes like that all the time with his work friends. They are all “dudes”, and they think it’s hilarious to make fun of the wedding.

It ticks me off, but I know in his heart he doesn’t mean it. He would never say those things to me or any of our family. It’s just boys. They are so stupid.

Let it roll off your back, girl.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

Oh dear, there’s nothing worse than a bad joke, especially one that weren’t supposed to see.   Jump on the bandwagon and refer to the bridal party as The Firing Squad.

Post # 6
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911 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - The Down Town Club, Philadelphia

@E_Lynne615:  Hey, at least he’s doing the dishes!! LOL

Yeah, I know what you mean about seeing it in writing. I totally get that. 

It might be worth a brief convo, if you think it will help.

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

My to-be husband doesn’t joke about it, but my father does. When I told him we were engaged, he laughed and went, “A sucker is born every day!”

It made me laugh. Personally I wouldn’t have thought too much into it. Boys will be boys.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@E_Lynne615:  I agree. When I’m upset, then my husband gets upset I protest and let him know that I was upset first and it’s not his turn. This tends to help us laugh and feel better, win-win. πŸ™‚

Post # 10
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2587 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - UK

My FH wants a monkey in the wedding. Or a bear.

He’s promised they’ll be dressed appropriately.

I’ve told him he can only have a monkey if he gets one of these: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pygmy_marmoset

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

I’m not aware of my FI making jokes like that, and he probably doesn’t because he’s older, mature, and him and his friends don’t make that kind of banter.  But I do (back in September, 1 year before the wedding, I arranged for a bottle of bubbly at our Friday night watering hole to mark 1 year until we’re married. I joked that I should have got him a ball & chain so he could get accustomed to it before the big day).

They grow out of it, and it’s not a true reflection of how they feel. Popular culture paints this picture of women chasing the reluctant free spirited man and tying him down. We all know, that’s generally not the case. But many jokes have been built around that image, including the “reluctant groom” cake topper.

 

It’s good that you recognize you’re hyper-sensitive with the stress you’re under.  Try to let it go and not hold it against him.  I really doubt that’s how he feels.

 

Post # 12
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1600 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I don’t know, I’d be pretty pissed. Boys will be boys and sometimes guys tell harsh jokes with their male friends even if they aren’t expressing their true feelings but … man, I’d be pissed.

If he is really, truly joking then I think he owes you an apology. I know a lot of people joke about weddings being “game over” and stuff but I hate that crap. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Post # 13
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924 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

A friend of mine bought this t-shirt for her now husband:

 

 

I wouldn’t read too much into it. 

Post # 14
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983 posts
Busy bee

Eh, lighten up – boys will be boys when they are together. That’s just something you can’t change about men

Post # 15
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Busy bee

@Sugaree I got one of those for my divorce! LOL

Post # 16
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407 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@E_Lynne615:  No. I got married November 2nd and my hubby was over the moon excited. He would happily tell anyone that asked and swears it was the best thing he’s ever done. LOL. But he’s over-the-hill in love too so go figure.

I’m guessing since your FI loves you that maybe him and his friend was joking between them. It could have been they joked in their younger, single days about it being a funeral so he was keeping up the joke. I’m sure it had nothing to do with you.

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