(Closed) Does your FI/DH/SO push you…

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Does your partner push you to conform to his ideals?
    Yes, and he pushes me a lot. : (11 votes)
    8 %
    Yes, but he doensn't really try that hard. : (23 votes)
    16 %
    No, but he might if I let him. : (23 votes)
    16 %
    No! Are you kidding? I am perfect! : (78 votes)
    53 %
    Other, and I'll explain myself. : (11 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    4755 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    yes he does, but it isn’t one way, he’s “pushed” much the same way I am.

    Post # 4
    Member
    186 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    My husband (wow, THAT feels weird to type) makes me want to be a better person. He doesn’t push me or demand that I do anything – but I want to be healthy (physically and mentally) and happy for him so that he and I can grow and become a better and stronger couple together.

    Post # 6
    Member
    5012 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    No and I wouldn’t have married him if he did. 

    Post # 7
    Member
    5273 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    We are very similar, so in most things we are right on the same page. However, he has helped or “pushed” me to become more organized, but at the same time I also help or “push” him to not be so uptight.

    I don’t think its healthy to conform to anothers idea of the “perfect spouse” BUT, I do think it is very important to learn from each other. Why not take the best part of your SO’s personality and use his/her support to make that aspect of your life more positive as well. There is always room for positive personal growth! 
     

    Post # 8
    Member
    594 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    My SO wants me to evolve. I mean, if I constantly complain about an issue in my life, he will push me to change/pursue. It’s awesome. 

    Post # 9
    Member
    2403 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    We both know our limits. He knows that I will never change my opinion on religion and nor will he. We work around it. He doesn’t continue to try unless I bring it up. I respect him more for knowing when to quit. 

    Post # 12
    Member
    119 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    We complement and influence each other nicely. It’s not in a demanding way and like @PhillyProper: said, we are both better off because of it. It’s mutually beneficial.

    Post # 14
    Member
    2867 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    No? I guess I don’t understand why anyone would need someone else to push them. I am who I am, that’s it. If he doesn’t like who I am then he knows where the door is. 

    Post # 15
    Member
    3943 posts
    Honey bee

    I dont think ‘push’ is the right word for it. He has helped me to understand things better, and opened my eyes more but I wouldnt call that pushing. We both just learn and grow with eachother.

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