Post # 1
I’ve seen in a couple of threads recently brides talking about hiding their grooming habits (eyebrow plucking, shaving, piles of various beauty products) from their fiances/husbands. I found this interesting because it never occurred to me that I shouldn’t do these things in front of my FI. I’ll pluck my eyebrows on the couch with a little mirror (the lighting is better in the living room) and I never really broke my single habit of leaving the bathroom door open when I shower or pee (we have cats and they scratch at the door if it’s closed, so I just don’t close it). He doesn’t make a habit of watching me shave, but he’s seen it happen before. And I don’t have a secret hiding place for my 10 different moisturizers. They’re all out on the counter in the bathroom 🙂
I was just curious- do any of you hide these things from your men? If so, why?
Post # 3
He knows everything!!! I have lots of beauty stuff I do, I could never not do them, so he sees everything. Recently I jumped in bed next to him, teeth whitening trays in, green clay mask on face, white mask under eyes, lip scrub/mask, tanning cream on body … LOL.
Of course, I just let him assume that it was effortless at first, and he was clueless. Now we both see what each of us does.
Post # 4
I lived with my FI for two months, so he pretty much knows I keep a stock of supplies around to look pretty. I’m not excessively high maintenance though, and he’s VERY good about keeping the B*tching to a minimum if i’m taking longer than expected. He wants to know why I curled my hair for example, and I said because it was dirty and I didn’t wanna look greasy!!! haha, true story. I am trying to limit my products…using up what I have and not replacing it. Quality, not quanity.
I did decide to see a pro bikini waxer from now on. I used to do those myself when I was a po’ college kid. Well, that’s an awkward moment-to-be if he ever came in whilst I was waxin’ away.
I do shut the bathroom door. I’m really uptight about that. My parents have an open door policy (as in mom comes in while i’m pooing to *chat* with me….i hate it!!!) so now FI and I have a closed bathroom policy and make it a point not to talk to each other while business is being done….athough I’m with the OP…my cats like to scratch their way in, but seirously…i’d have to be in there for like 20 minutes…..
Post # 5
There are no secrets between us…. I concocted a homemade exfoliator with some sugar and olive oil the other night and after I made him feel how soft it made my skin he wanted to use some too! So now when I make it we have facials together. I have also gotten him into filing his fingernails so that the edges aren’t so rough 🙂
Post # 6
Considering I Nair his chest for him…yeah, we know everything about each other.
We close the door while using the toilet though…well maybe not when he pees all the time…He’s seen me shave (is there really an issue with that one). We go tanning together, he steals my teeth whitening strips, facial scubs and tinted facial moisturizer…He borrows my tweezers, lets me give him pedicures (without polish of course) etc. I just don’t see the big deal.
Now, do I want him to come with me to the salon for 2 hours…uh no. Does he really need to see what all I do to my hair…nah. But he knows how much it costs, how long it takes, the conditioners that I use and all that stuff.
Post # 7
I don’t hide any of this either. I guess maybe I did for awhile in the beginning, but it’s been almost 5 years, so I don’t even remember a time when it changed. I guess it was gradual. Sometimes we close the door when we pee, sometimes we don’t. Sometimes we talk to each other during that. We don’t keep the door open when we do that other thing in the bathroom though, ha! And we never will! We have discussed that as being one thing we really don’t care to share with each other! However, we also don’t hide farts (although I try not to be TOO gross in front of him, I have by accident..haha!) or burps or anything really. As for my plucking/waxing/makeup/hair routines, he’s seen all of that too. He doesn’t like all the bottles, but only because they clutter the counter, so as long as I keep those in a certain spot he is ok with them. I have to admit though, I have not shared how much my facial products cost. And I know that is going to happen and I know it’s going to be a "WHAT!?!" because I use all Shiseido skincare and Sephora/MAC makeup.. I am waiting til we’ve tied the knot to be open with that one 🙂 For now, what he doesn’t know about why my skin looks good is not going to hurt him!!
By the way, I have read in multiple places that the key to maintaining intimacy (particularly sexual) and lust/desire is to keep some of this under wraps.. it makes sense but I just don’t know how I’d ever feel 100% comfortable with someone that I had to hide my plucking habits from.. If anyone has any thoughts on this I’d love to hear them.. I think it is probably true, to a certain degree.