Post # 1
A friend and I went to get our nails done this past weekend. While we were in there a girl came in with her boyfriend who was clearly uncomfortable sitting in the salon that was all women except for him. Now I am all for a man who likes getting his nails done, if thats his style. But this clearly was not a case of him wanting to be there to get a manipedi. He looked miserable and embarrassed even. We got to talking and I know with 100% certainty that FI would laugh at me if I asked him to come sit in the nail salon with me while I got my nails done. For the record, I wouldn’t ever ask him to do that because thats like my girlme time. It made me realize that FI just doesn’t do the girly stuff, and Im ok with that. He will sit through the occasional girly movie for me if he knows I really really have my heart set on seeing something (ahem, twilight…) But beyond that, things like shopping, nails, hair, etc, he just stays away from. My friend (the one who was with me) has a boyfriend that is just like FI in this regard and while it didn’t bother me, she said it really does bother her because she feels like he doesn’t love her as much since he wont torture himself just to accompany her to the nail salon or the mall or whatever. I asked FI when I got home (while he was playing xbox of course lol) “hey hun! would you go to the nail salon with me?” his response “hmmmmm ….no. why would you need me there? do you need me there? thats weird…” What are your thoughts on this? Is your guy willing to do this stuff with you? Do you ask your guy to do this stuff with you?
For clarification, if I asked FI to do it and he really thought it was important to me, he probably would even though he would be miserable the whole time and would only be doing it for me. There has been times when I have stopped to get a manicure while out with him running errands, in that case, he would just wander around the mall til I was done. Also, I am not assuming that the girl at the nail place forced her guy there, but seeing how uncomfortable he was started this conversation and Im curious as to how other girls feel about this 🙂
Post # 3
Nope. I don’t expect him to come with me to get my haircut or any other ‘girly’ stuff. We do shop together for things we buy for the house, but otherwise we each take care of buying clothes, personal items, etc……
I think if I asked him to go along he probably would, but it’s not important to me and I don’t want him to sit there being bored.
Post # 4
bahahaha no. Definitely not. If i begged him to he might come with me to a musical or something, but he would hate it so i dont think i would make him.
Same with hockey games. FI wants me to go because he wants to spend time with me, but i get bored at them so i ask if he can take a friend instead. He never forces me.
Post # 5
My Dh will shop with me, but that’s pretty much it. He actually has a good eye for stuff that would look nice on me.
Post # 6
Haha, nope. When we were first dating my SO was so apprehensive the first time we went to the mall together b/c he thought I’d want him to go to Aerie and Bath and Body Works with him. His ex used to drag him in those places every other day and make him pay for her shopping habits!
I told him thanks, no thanks, you’d just annoy me with your impatience and lack of style know-how. I’d so much rather shop or get my nails done with girls or by myself!
Post # 7
We get pedi’s together…he loves them! Now he’s talking about getting a mani before the wedding, haha!
Post # 8
We try to do things that the other enjoys. I will go to a car show with him and he will come shopping with me (if I ask him to). If theres a beer event he would like to go to I try to get him to take a friend because it’s pretty much a waste for me to go, but he won’t go by himself so if he can’t find anyone to go with I will definitely go with him. I’ve asked him to get a manicure with me and he said he would.
Post # 9
My FI LOVES to get pedicures I think it’s all about getting his feet rubbed, lol! He also can out Shop me! He raised his two daughters by himself though so he’s used to girly stuff. Works for me!
Post # 10
No DH would kill me if I dragged him to the nail salon. Neither one of us really get a huge kick out of shopping other than Home Depot or Lowe’s ….you know stuff for our house lol.
He DID use the foot massage I got him for Christmas one year. He was not that thrilled about the gift, until he went there and had the massage. He has flat feet so he really loved the massage, in fact he has me doing it for him sometimes now lol. That’s about THE girliest thing we’ve done together.
Post # 11
@phillybride61513: see thats one thing, if he loved manipedi’s than great! we could so go to the nail place together. But…. Fi is not one of those guys lol he wouldn’t have it.
@hma812: FI goes to run errands with me or for a quick shopping trip so we can enjoy the time out together, but when i go into the girly stores he will just wait for me. So in that regard, he will tag along, but he won’t go in somewhere that he knows he will just be out of place and bored in. Just like I won’t go into guitar center lol or gamestop.
Post # 12
He takes me to the Nutcracker every year for Christmas… and he dozes off before the Sugar Plum Fairies! It’s a tradition for us, so even though he doesn’t particularly enjoy ballet, he takes me anyway.
No pedicures though.
Post # 13
Nope. He doesnt even like to go shopping (mostly because I usually end up buying clothes for him.) But he has asked me before if I wanted him to take me to get my nails done. I dont know if he was planning on staying in the salon with me or not though.
Post # 14
Yep! He doesn’t go everywhere with me, but he likes to get massages and just said the other day that, if we could afford it, he’d love to go and get manicures and pedicures together. He just likes being touched/pampered, though, haha. 🙂 I usually give him manicures and pedicures (otherwise his nails would be raggedly clipped and gross cuticles), but I would never want him to try on me, so I think he feels bad.
Post # 15
Yes, he has been to the nail salon and hair salon with me many times. He always has a car magazine, though haha.
Post # 16
Haha…no mine really doesn’t enjoy doing girly things with me. He hates shopping with a passion, even going to Target or grocery shopping. I don’t really go get my nails done myself, so I have no idea if he would enjoy it or not. I know he would tell me “no” if I asked him though!