Post # 1
Just curious if your husband know you use OPKS. My husband and I both have wanted a child for a long time but he has reiterated that he wants to keep it fun and not feel pressured. We BD throughout the whole month not just the fertile window. I dont tell him when I am fertile and I just started using OPKs but didnt tell him. I think he would be weirded out and feel used. Every month he looks forward to me POAS so I dont feel sneaky but a friend of mine said that OPKs are sneaky? I think if youve had the do you want to have a child talk then it is not sneaky.
Post # 3
I don’t use OPKs yet, this is our 3rd month trying- After 6 months I am probably going to try and use them but would definately keep DH in the mix. I think it’s fun to share the journey together. There is nothing sneaky or shameful about trying to want to make life together…you can still keep it fun!
Post # 4
I used OPKs for a few months and stopped for a few months. Back to using them now, DH likes to know there’s been a surge for some reason even though I’ve explained to him that it isn’t a guarantee that i’ve O’d.
Post # 5
I use them, but didn’t tell him. A) I think it would be wierd to talk about the many reasons I’m peeing on something B) we BOTH want a kid and C) If I can keep it spontaneous for HIM, but with a bit of careful planning, we both get what we want.
I don’t feel bad or dishonest, getting pregnant IS a science.
Post # 6
I said No, but really it’s kind of. He knows you pee on it x amount of hours after your fmu BUT he still didn’t get how to read them. He thought that since there was a line it meant we were good to go… since hpt’s are an “any line” counts! lol
Post # 7
@runningcali: I totally agree with all of your reasons! My husbie just doesnt get there is a science to it. Up until 6 months ago he thought that you could get a girl pregnant any day of the month… his mom brainwashed him in jr high 😉
Post # 8
Yes, he doesn’t understand them at all… or ask. Lol he just calls it my science experiment in the bathroom lol.
Post # 9
He kind of knows. As a concept, he knows I do OPK’s and that they help us know when to really get with the BD’ing. But I don’t tell him when im doing it. I don’t leave evidence easily visible in the bathroom, and I don’t tell him the results.
He still wants sexy time to be fun and spontaneous, not because a line on a pee stick tells us to 🙂
Post # 10
Basically everything @runningcali said. DH didn’t like the pressure and I didn’t feel it was necessary to add any by telling him directly. I got KU the first month I used OPKs.
Post # 11
My DH doesn’t know I use OPKs. We both want a baby and he knows we are actively trying, but he doesn’t like the idea of sex just for baby-making purposes. Right around O time, if he doesn’t initiate sex that night, I will. I guess that’s a little sneaky, but I’m pretty sure he wouldn’t want to know if I’m ovulating or not!
Post # 12
He knows I use them, but I don’t tell him when they are positive or negative. We’re NTNP at the moment, but if we were actively TTC, I’d tell him, no big deal.