Post # 1
Before we got married, my husband told me he rather not wear the ring on his finger. Instead he would wear the ring on a chain around his neck. He said it’s because he’s not used to wearing a ring and also because his job requires him to move PCs around so the ring would get scratched up. I told him it’s very important for me that he at least give it a try before he decides.
We’ve been married for a few months now. He tried but he still doesn’t really like it. Plush he always forgets to wear his ring but at least he seems happy when I remind him to wear it.
I’m just wondering, should I just give in and give him that chain to wear the ring around his neck now?
Post # 3
I’d say just let him wear the chain, but didn’t Carrie wear Aidan’s engagement ring around her neck, "so it’s closer to my heart."?
Post # 4
LOL that’s what my husband said! It’ll be closer to his heart!
But Carrie did that cz she really wasn’t ready to be engaged with Aidan. So it kind of gives me bad juju feel.
Post # 5
I’m not married just yet, but I’ve told FI he has to wear a band!
@MrBee – I love that you are totally comfortable throwing out SATC references!
Post # 6
My hubby has to take his ring off to work, but when he’s not working it’s always on. He happily said that he hardly notices it anymore.
Post # 7
@rasgoola – If I’m going to throw out SATC references somewhere, this is probably the best place to do it!
Post # 8
I’ll be the odd one out and confess that my husband never wears his rings. Or, only on very special occasions like Thanksgiving or something. At first I was very upset by this, but a few things have made me at peace with it: (1) my dad never wore his ring and my parents have been happily (and I think faithfully) married for 38 years (2) my husband is not a cheater, and (3) even if he was a cheater, the ring wouldn’t do anything to help. He’s the most attentive, sweet, loyal guy, and that’s what counts, not the ring.
Post # 9
my hubby’s wedding ring has that hammered look to it cause he always works with his hands and knew that it would get a little scuffed up anyhow. But, he still tries to not to wear his ring to work cause he’s afraid it’ll fall off when he takes off his working gloves or anything like that. He’s cute though, cause just when i think he’s forgotten to wear it when we’re on our way somewhere…or you know, not at work..he pulls it out of his pocket and puts it on…and i’ve noticed that it’s become a part of his ‘getting ready’ routine. it’s really cute!
i <3 him! [sigh]
Post # 10
@chicagowife – you bring a very good pt. I guess I need to look at the bigger picture. At least he tried.
I’ll be getting that chain this weekend 🙂
@mywedding.com editor – hehe that’s a cute routine! 😀
Post # 11
Mine always wears his. He took a little time to get used to it and stop playing with it all the time. His was shiny platinum to begin with and now it’s all scratched up ("patina"). He says he likes the burnished/patina look better. I just love to see him wearing it.
Post # 12
mine always wears his, and likes it, which makes me happy. like chicagowife, my dad has never worn his because he just doesn’t like to wear a ring. My parents have been married for 35+ years and are very happy! the thing is, my mom just doesn’t care if he wears the ring or not. If you care, its fair to ask your guy to try it out for at least a month or so…..
Post # 13
There are certain professions where it’s actually dangerous to wear a ring (metal-welding for example). If my husband were in one of those professions, I would be ok with him leaving it off for work, but I would still expect him to wear it at home or when we were going out.
My father and grandfather never had wedding rings. My mom says that male wedding rings didn’t use to be universal– she says ~50% of men got rings in 1974 when she got married. On the other hand, I can’t think of any weddings I’ve attended where they didn’t have both partners exchange wedding rings. It seems weird to imagine a ceremony with just the man giving the ring to the woman and not the other way round.
Post # 14
- Wedding: October 2018 - Auberge du Soleil
I think Mr. Pinot Noir wears his ring more often than I do! I usually take mine off as soon as I get home but he keeps is on until bed time.
Post # 15
husband always wears his, though he complained the first few weeks that it was uncomfortable. as the jeweler told me, wedding bands are meant to be worn. who cares if it gets scratched? as long as it isn’t glass, it should be durable enough for daily wear.
Post # 16
Mine has barely taken his off since we were married in Aug. He knew it was a touchy issue for me. He was really uncomfortable at the beginning, because he wasn’t used to wearing rings. But now he says he misses it if he ever takes it off (which I told him he would – because I went through the same thing with my e-ring). He also does a lot of work with his hands, so we intentially got him a ring that was comfortable on his hand (we exchanged a "comfort-fit" band that was too thick for a regular one that was thinner) and that wasn’t fancy. It’s a simple gold band, so he can bash it up and not feel too bad. He recently put his first major scratch in it and was really upset, but it made him feel better when I was completely relaxed. I told him I’d rather him have a dented and scratched ring that he wears than a pristine ring that he doesn’t wear. Now he knows I really mean it.