Post # 1
The question says it all.
I know it might seem like a silly question….but for example- even though my mom does drive my stepdad’s vehicle, I know he prefers her not to. She doesn’t have a bad driving record (no tickets that I am aware of, and 1 small accident where she backed into someone in her blind spot years before she ever met my stepdad). But either way, I know it’s not as simple as “honey, I’m taking the Explorer!”
So I’m just curious– do you basically “share” cars (yes, I know most people tend to drive “their” vehicle most days)– or is that off limits in your relationship. If no, are there specific reasons why?
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Post # 2
We each have our own car, but we frequently drive each other’s car. I have keys to my H’s car and he has a set for mine. Unless one party is a terrible driver or can’t drive stick or something, I don’t know why you wouldn’t share cars…
Post # 3
No, because DH’s vehicle doesn’t actually belong to him, it’s a work vehicle so due to insurance and work policy I can’t. Generally, I don’t like switching vehicles, it takes me a while to get used to the feel. If I end up with a loaner vehicle or rental, I drive around on quiet streets/parking lots first.
Post # 4
We both drive each other’s cars. But if we’re goign somewhere together my husband generally drives my car because my car has better gas mileage and I don’t like driving and he is incapable of keeping his mouth shut when I drive.
Post # 5
We each have our own car, but we share them all the time.
If I’m out of town for work or something, FI drives mine because it’s better gas mileage.
If his car is blocking mine in, I’ll take his to go somewhere.
Once we can afford it, we plan on getting a third shared car like a jeep or something for fun.
Post # 6
There were two moments in our relationship when I knew my FI loved and trusted me more than any other person in the world. The first was when he gave me his iPod to take care of, the second was when he let me drive his car for the first time.
It’s not a regular thing by any means, and he drives mine much more than I drive his. Mine is newer with better gas millage and is less falling appart. I normally only drive his when we head out and he has drank a little more than he planned or if my car is in the shop and he as at work but I need to run errands.
Post # 7
You don’t have a poll option for me! We have one car that we share. We both walk to work, so we rarely need a car anyway, but it’s nice to have.
Post # 8
Until recently it was only my car. He drove it often. Even when we went out together he’d drive my car half the time. Now he has a new car. I drive it, the other day he drove out and I drove back. We now always take his car. It’s a nicer ride than mine.
The day he picked it up he asked if I wanted to take it on a weekend shopping trip to the US. I’m going Easter weekend with my mum and sister, he’s staying at home. So he’ll have my car. (I said yes, obviously!)
Post # 9
MrsEME: DH has a truck and I have a sports car. Both the same color, so they look sort of like “his and hers” cars. I’m not really a truck driving kind of girl, and he’s not a sportscar driving kind of guy. Also, he is so used to a huge vehicle (and vice-versa for me), that it’s very awkward to drive eachother’s vehicles.
Other then that, we don’t necessarily have some weird territorial thing over our cars… if I can’t find my keys right away, I will grab his and take off to wherever I am going. Once it worked out perfectly because my keys were in his truck and I would have spent all day looking… I even go to work sometimes, since he has a separate work vehicle. So, I usually won’t waste time hunting for keys and being late. That’s really the main exception. He does the same.
Post # 10
My FI lets me drive his car all the time. But I don’t let him drive mine. He has a pretty bad driving record and I have a “nicer” car. My FI hates to drive so I pretty much do all of the driving anyway.
Post # 11
No, but it’s not because we won’t allow it. FI and I have our own cars, and our schedules are so different that it just wouldn’t make sense to share or drive each other’s car.
Post # 12
Well we have his car and our car technically it is my car but it is in our name. We both drive each others vehicles if need to. No issues
Post # 13
MrsEME: I guess, technically, I can’t drive my fiance’s car. Not because he wouldn’t let me, but because I haven’t developed the skillset to drive standard transmission.
Post # 14
Let me? All the vehicles at my house are mine also so there is no “let me”. He drives our older car to work because he drives a lot of miles and we want to keep the miles down on our newer car. We don’t describe vehicles as his or mine, they are the truck, the Taurus or the Chevy.
Post # 15
I have no problems with SO driving my car, and sometimes I’ll ask him to drive it if we’re going somewhere I’ve never been or we’ve been out and I’m tired. He’s been slowly teaching me to drive his manual when we see each other, so I’ll probably drive his car when we want to save money on gas because it’s much more fuel-efficient. He has a state-issued truck for work, and I’m not legally allowed to drive that one. But he has no issues with me driving his car once I learn.