(Closed) Does your in-laws get in the middle of your relationship…

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Does your in-laws bud in and cause you and your fiance to fight?
    Every chance they get : (5 votes)
    8 %
    Off and on : (9 votes)
    14 %
    Almost never : (24 votes)
    38 %
    Not once : (26 votes)
    41 %
  • Post # 3
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Yes, definitely.  Although, it’s mostly my MIL.

    My family can be annoying but I can ignore most of the stuff they say.  I wish the DH could ignore some of the stuff his mom says.

    Post # 4
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I voted “Almost Never”….with that being said they don’t cause us to have full-fledged fights. There are times when they nag and nag and nag him and I lose it and tell him that he needs to stand up for himself. We get snippy with each other because I feel as though I need to constantly remind him that he is a full grown man and not a kid anymore….

    Other than that, they are wonderful. His mother and I have a great relationship. Just came back from a long weekend on the beach with her. 🙂

    Post # 5
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I voted “not once”. I can’t recall a single instance where they did/said something that made FI and I fight. My FIL’s are pretty awesome. 

    Post # 7
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    163 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    yes! it totally frustrates me when they still treat him like a child! but we get on quite well really

    Post # 8
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I said almost never, because we rarely fight about anything the inlaws say or do, except for one thing…

    “When you get a house, we’ll…”

    I hate it, because both of his younger siblings have bought houses in the last 2 years, but we’re choosing to not buy for another 2 (until he’s out of school). It’s really frustrating, because it’s like we’re not good enough. What if we never bought a house? What if we move to a big city and live in apartments the rest of our lives? We have plenty of money to buy a home now, but we know that we don’t have time for the upkeep it would require (and we don’t know where we’ll be in 2 years). 

    I just want to strangle them every time it’s said…

    Post # 9
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    11327 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    Nope. Never. I once dated a “mamas boy” and it was terrible. His parents totally came between us. But my husband is always always on my side no matter what, and his parents know it. So– no fights. 

    Post # 10
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    591 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    My FI’s parents are pretty dang awesome. They are the opposite of naggers and hoverers. They just let us do our thing and support every decision we make! I consider myself pretty lucky because I have girlfriends whose in-laws are absolutely ridiculous and they get into huge fights with their hubbys over it. Feel so bad!

    Post # 11
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    3012 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Nope.  We stay out of their business and they stay out of ours.  I’m sure his mother would like to know the details and have her say, but she keeps to herself.  It’s the way I like it.  I don’t believe it’s anyone’s business.  

    Now my mother on the other hand… she’d be the first to chip in her two cents.

    Post # 12
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    240 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    Yep – although, it wasn’t until recently. My FI is so laid back and very much a peacekeeper and I get incredibly frustrated when he doesn’t confront them on certain issues. But I know he always has my back and we’ve set boundaries for them and so far, they seem to be respecting them. 

    Post # 13
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Nope! I’m very lucky in that regard. They sometimes frustrate the hell out of him, but it’s never about US.

    Post # 14
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I put “almost never” because they don’t usually cause us to have fights with each other, but they do sometimes cause us to get frustrated with each other. Mainly it’s the FMIL, but luckily, since we’ve started wedding planning, FI has realized how much she butts in and has tried to put a stop to it. Before he would get a little irritated with me when I said something about her, but he’s seeing it with his own eyes now and isn’t too pleased. lol

    Post # 15
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    6572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    My MIL is the opposite of the stereotypical MIL. She goes out of her way to let us do our thing and not be pushy. It’s awesome, I got lucky!

    Post # 16
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Absolutely not, thank god.  Apparently my parents suffered through that kind of insanity, though, with my paternal grandmother who was batshit crazy.  Thankfully she died before I was born.

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