- 4 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
My Mother-In-Law seems to have some interesting feelings about my baby (currently pregnant), and I wanted to see how prevalent this is with moms, MILs, or other relatives. Not all of this is of a major concern to me, I’ve just noticed some things that may need to be dealt with when Dirty Delete arrives.
Originally, mil wanted be called “Mommy [her first name]”. Uh weird, but I wasn’t worried about it since Dirty Delete will probably call her whatever she calls her in spite of her wishes. Anyway, she has since changed her mind, but it was a little weird to hear.
Mother-In-Law has mentioned things to Darling Husband that make it seem like she is going to be keeping my baby overnight. She is not going to be regular child care or anything like that, and growing up, I was never personally left over my grandparents’ house for no reason, so this isn’t something I’m familiar with. However, I wasn’t about to tell her not to buy her own items (like possibly a crib, etc) because it wasn’t worth a fight, and if it doesn’t get used, oh well. Plus, her comments were always to Darling Husband, and not while I was around, so I didn’t bring anything up to her. At a recent baby shower hosted by my in laws, some of her friends started giving her baby gifts. I’m a rational person, so I know it isn’t her fault if people want to give her things (though it’s entirely possible she has told people she will be keeping my baby overnight regularly or something). Some of these items were things like diapers, a diaper bag and it wasn’t the items that bothered me, but the fact that she loudly proclaimed “oh so baby girl can spend the night!!!” to me while showing off her gifts in front of everyone. She then continued to talk about the fun she’ll be having taking my baby on vacation with her. LOL, no.
Trust me, Darling Husband is on the same page as me, and I’m not going to start any kind of unnecessary confrontation before presented with an actual issue (as in, when Dirty Delete is here and mil starts actually trying to take her), but I would be lying if I said it didn’t bother me a little.
Tl;dr: have you had any issues with MIL/mom etc possibly overstepping boundaries and thinking they are “mom”? How did you deal/share your stories!