Post # 1
The Mr asked me to look at erings and tell him which I liked…I showed him the one I loved but he’s not really that keen on it, he’s more a traditional ring kind of person which I am totally not it’s just not my style. It sort of put me off the one I love as he has to look at it for the rest of his life, but then I thought I have to wear it and look at it more! Ps its a round halo ring 1crt
I was just wondering if anyone else was the same or the opposite was around (he loved it bought you it and you don’t like it)
Post # 3
Ok I’m literally in the exact same position you are in. I chose a halo that I fell in love with, and when I showed it to SO he said “you like that setting?” He explained he pictured me wearing something more simple. It kind of took me back a little bit, and I was bummed out. He could tell I was and said “it’s your ring, you have to wear it every day, not me, so I want you to get what you want.” So I’m sticking with the halo, but I definitely know exactly how you feel.
Post # 4
@Anamenoonehas: I picked out my first one and he did not love it but he bought it for me anyway because he wanted me to have something that I liked (it was a round solitaire with sidestones). When we went to upgrade I made sure that he liked what I picked out (he loves princess cuts) so that is what I got the second time around. He now says “I love it because you love it”.
There have been many threads posted on here, where Bees don’t like the ring that their fiance picked and really I think that it depends on the guy on how to handle that situation. But I think for the most part, they end up saying something to their FI and it gets resolved by the girl getting what she wants..haha
FYI: My DH does not like the look of Halo settings eaither…
Post # 5
@Anamenoonehas: We kind of chose it together: I picked a couple of settings I loved (at his request), and then I told him to choose which of those that he liked best. Then we looked at center stones together.
Post # 6
He chose it and I think it’s very pretty.
Post # 7
He chose it. The only guidance he wanted/asked for was that I wanted something antique. I absolutely adore it!
Post # 8
Lilliepad – yeh it’s such a pain…I love it and showed him n he said “really”like he was surprised I liked it which then made me realise he didn’t like it he said “it’s a bit crazy” lmao! But I dont just want a plain one…just have to wait and see what I get…eeeek can’t wait!
I didn’t really want any input in the ring I wanted a total surprise but he said that I’m sooooo fussy he needed some help as he wanted me to have something I loved!
Post # 9
I picked “He chose it and I love it”. In all fairness we picked it together, but, he picked the solitaire style vs halo/three stone, and I picked the metal type, and we agreed on the solitaire setting. The diamond size he picked on his own with a range of what I would like.
Post # 10
I have ALWAYS wanted a blue sapphire halo ring on yellow gold (inspired by Princess Diana’s!), however when my now-husband and I first started discussing engagement rings and I told him about that ring he really wasn’t down for it. Like your SO, he wanted something more traditional looking. I now wear a very traditional and classic looking wedding set, but instead of diamonds (I’ve never really been attached to daimonds) I have moissanites, so I think that is a good compromise! I LOVE my wedding set and so does he!
Plus I will probably get my Princess Diana inspired ring someday for my right hand.
ETA – I picked out my rings, but with his needs/wants in mind.
Post # 11
We picked it out together and we both love it.
Post # 12
My SO is the exact same way! He asked me to pick out a ring because he said he felt clueless in that department. So, I chose a few to show him, and I was especially excited about one that was a halo and he hated all of them. He thought that all of them were gaudy, even solitaires with side stones! He also has more of a traditional taste while I like rings that are very intricate; so, it was definitely a battle to find something that we both liked. In the end, I found a petite pave halo that I really liked. He was okay with it, almost indifferent. When we finally got the ring, he was really surprised to see how good it looked in person. It grew on him, and he loves it now, but probably not as much as me! 😉
Good luck! Maybe you can find something to suit both of your tastes?
Post # 13
Hmm.. you need a “we picked it together and we both love it” option (that’s the case for us)
Post # 14
I was surprised when we went ring shopping that he had so many opinions! I expected him to like whatever I liked but he really was a huge part of the process and I’m glad because in the end, the ring we chose is both of our favorites.
Post # 15
Neither of us like halos, which is good. However, I like pave bands and he doesn’t. I originally loved the look of the Tiffany Lucida with split shank and diamond band, but when I showed it to him he said it was “gaudy.” Well then!
He got me a solitaire with a twisted and slightly split shank. I love it! I will probably get a half-eternity wedding band though. That’s the nice thing for us ladies- we can always up the bling factor with the wedding ring!
Post # 16
I hadn’t looked at rings before he asked, so then no matter what he got me I would love and be happy with…but because he asked me to look I saw the one i loved and let him know which one it is. He doesn’t hate it he just doesn’t love it…we couldn’t really compromise as he only likes plain band and small diamond which isn’t my style and plus he was engaged before and used that style so I wouldn’t want it to be compared so need something totally different.