- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
I hate when I see the word “help” being used to ask about somone’s FI or husband. Similarly I hate when one of our male friends says “He can hang out because he has to babysit his kids”.
ExCUSE me? Those are YOUR children, that is YOUR house. You shouldn’t be HELPING, you should be rightfully doing YOUR half of the work, fulfilling YOUR half the responsibilities.
I HATE that women all over are “expected” to be the primary responsible person when it comes to the housework or the kids.
Now I know there ARE women who do most of the housework and child-rearing because it is their CHOICE, but what angers me is the ASSUMPTION that these are responsiblities of ALL women.
Never have I hear a woman say they “help” their husbands with the chores or the kids. That would be blasphamous so to speak. I also cringe when I read/hear a woman kind of bragging about how much their SO is “untraditional” because, you know, he does most of the housework.
WELL CONGRATUFRACKINGLATIONS. Do women get praised or bragged about when you wash the dishes or fold the laundry? Unless they were incapable idiots to begin with, nothing merits acknowledgement or recognition for women. When it’s a MAN, it means he’s a CATCH. WHAT?!
It continues to irk me that so many men also PLAY DUMB when it comes to doing housework. Someone one commented about “how cute” it was to see her fiance figuring out how to work the washing machine. Um no. Nothing is as SAD as an incompetant fool. He should’ve learned that YEARS ago. So fine, he learns it now, does he really need to be praised and pat on the back for aquiring basic knowledge?! I find that not only to be offensive to me as a woman but condescending to MEN EVERYWHERE who are given the “get out of jail free card” for housework because they simply “don’t know how to do it properly” or that their women “does it better”.
It does BOTH sexes and immense disservice.
When you see a woman in the park pushing a stroller, you GUSH about the baby. But when it’s a MAN pushing a stroller, suddenly OHMIGOSH he’s a great dad. Wow.
It’s not about putting down men at all, it’s about raising your children (both boys and girls) to be equally competent in LIFE SKILLS. A boy should be able to have the same motivation to clean and cook because it’s his LIFE RESPONSIBLITY as a girl’s to learn how to use a saw or change the oil in the car.