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He has attended every wedding with me thus far except one. My cousin was married in Colorado right after FH and I started dating, and I was not given a +1.
Also, all of the weddings we have been to together have been for his friends - plus three more coming this year - only one that we have been to and one upcoming are for my friends.
Well being engaged to a pilot I understand what you're going through. The mister can't always get the days off we would like. but I've learned to make the most of the days we do have together. This past weekend I was a BM in a wedding (my cousins wedding) and he couldn't come. It was no big deal, I sent him a text picture of me in my dress and talked to him a couple times during the night. Also, my family put the heat on him at our gatherings and he took it really well.
FI and I have gone to all of the weddings that have come up together since we've been dating. It's fun for us.
FI goes to things that are in town or if it is an event for a close friend. I have attended family weddings alone, though, which I don't mind because, well, I get to see family. I've never lived very near a cousin, aunt or uncle, so though I have a history with that person, FI doesn't know him or her.
We are both going to two out of town weddings this year for two of my close friends. It is nice that he is going to come, but I wouldn't be too upset if he didn't go because it is expensive to fly back east. For an in-town wedding, I would expect him to go unless he had actual work to do. And if he is reading this, hunting is not work.
LOL at the hunting comment!
His job is very important, and if he isn't there, he usually gets a few phone calls with questions to answer. So I understand how it can just seem like it's not worth it since he doesn't know them well. But I guess I'm just being selfish. Like what about me? I want a date!
Abbee- my girlfriend is coming to our wedding and she decided to leave the kids home with the hubby and bring a girlfriend instead. She called to ask if that was okay and of course I'm okay with that. I want her there number 1, plus that means 3 less people on the headcount. So it is a win win for both of us. And at the wedding this weekend it was kind of nice not having to make sure the FI wasn't alone all night. I actually spent time talking with my grandparents and their friends who I see on occassion.
I don't think he's attended any since he's always had to work (usually overseas) when they're being held.
Actually I've attended plenty of weddings without DH! I don't even blink anymore. I even gave him the chance to "opt out" of one in June because one of my good friends is going. Long story short, her ex will be there and she's like all uncomfortable about it and I told DH i may leave him home to hang out with her instead of just ditching him.
He doesn't dig 'em, but he comes if he can. I think he feels like he should but I never force him to go. Especially if he had to take off work to go! No way, I'd just go and have fun unless I knew nobody or it was just his family.
Will you know people there? I'm all about having a few martinis at weddings and dancing and catching up with friends. And DH sits there and "guards" the purses and sips and gin and tonic.
If he gets an invite he tries to make it, if he cant he cant. He actually now likes going to weddings because he thinks he can 'steal ideas' lol. I always ask and say we have recieved an if invite for blah blah blah if you want to come come.. and he will tell me straight out if he does or doesnt.
I will only know a few people there, including my mom and step dad. Guess that plays a bigger factor into it for me too. If I knew a lot of ppl there I wouldn't think twice. Guess I'll just have to find some other wine drinkers and make new friends!
Teddy always goes to weddings with me...even when he doesnt know who is getting married...He actually went to a wedding of one of my friends that he had never met before during a beloved Clemson game. (He went to Clemson and is pretty much obsessed with Clemson football) So yes...every wedding...BUT he does not work saturdays and does not do anything work related during the weekend...
For the most part, yes.
But there is a wedding coming up this summer for one of my old friends who the boy has only met once or twice. A lot of my girlfriends will be there without dates, and the boy has never met any of them. We both agreed that he'd rather not go and be surrounded by girls he's never met (he's shy) and I'd rather go alone and have a girls' night.
I've been to three weddings alone since we've been dating. Two were coworkers and I was invited without a plus one, and another was when we were invited to two weddings in two different states on the same day, and we split up. Three might sound like a lot, but we are like, professional wedding guests. We've been to 22 together in the last five years.
In our vast wedding experiences together (two weddings), we attended the first one together and I drove eight hours south with friends for the second. So 50/50?
I work every single weekend in summer, so if he gets invited to the wedding of one of his friends, and the wedding is in the daytime, he almost always goes alone. Most of his friends go without dates too, so it's not like he has no one to hang out with.
My FI and I have been invited to 5 weddings. We went to three together and we split up for the other 2. Now, normally we would go to both of those weddings, but they were back to back weekends, one in Aruba and one in Idaho. I was interning at the time, so I couldn't take two long weekends in a row, plus airline tickets were over $400 per person for each wedding. So, we split the weddings. I got Aruba. :) I was in the wedding, so there way no way around that!
It ended up working out well since his grandparents threw an anniversary party during the Aruba wedding weekend and were quite disappointed that I couldn't go, so he went for the both of us.
We've been to almost every one that either of us was invited to. The only exception was a couple college friends of mine who got married at the courthouse and with about 1 month notice invited friends and family to a BBQ at their parents' house to celebrate. They live in San Diego and I live near San Francisco, so I ended up buying a cheap last minute plane ticket and flying down just for a few hours, then right back up again. I think I was home for both breakfast and dinner. Grad school was working my boy pretty hard as usual, so he did the sane thing and stayed home.
The FH has tried to make all of the weddings I've been invited to, except for one that he couldn't it was my cousin's and it was out of the country.
I figure as long as he tries to make an effort, especially when it really counts, it's not a problem. Does he have friends who have recently been married? Maybe you should ask him how he would feel going alone? And btw, I think it's hard with his scehdule, but depending on WHO is getting married, if he's close to them as well, then he should try to go.
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My guy has a pretty demanding job (sometimes) that he is very loyal and dedicated to.. which I have total respect for. The unfortunate thing is that he usually works Tues through Sat and has Sunday & Monday off. So if there is an event that he is invited to on a Saturday it is kind of a big deal for him to take that day off sometimes.
Also, we have been to at least 8 weddings in the last few years... and since our friends and family sometimes give him a hard time about not getting engaged to me yet, I understand how another wedding might not be his number one choice way to spend a day off..
So my question is, should I expect that he goes with me, as my date, even if he doesn't know the couple well, but I do? I guess I just want him there to enjoy the evening with me, but I love weddings, so I guess I would enjoy it either way. But I'm still kind of sad that he's not into going no matter what.. silly me I guess.
What say you hive?