Post # 1
My FI doesn’t cry…he tears up lol – and he doesn’t consider that crying. His eyes will fill with water at a really sad movie or any of the dog videos I watch that leave me hysterically bawling.
I was talking to my brother right now, and he said this video about a dog was so sad, but he refuses to cry because he’s a “man”. My brother is fairly emotional, but he’s also 22 and wants to maintain some sort of manly image. FI is going to be 30 this year…and if something is sad, he’ll tear up, whether it’s “manly” or not.
So what about you- do your SOs cry?
Post # 3
@sunkissed19: I have only known my fiance to cry once and that was when he had to put down his 13 year old childhood dog 🙁 Other than that, no. I have also only ever seen my Dad cry once, and that was when his Dad died. I don’t know many men to be criers.
Post # 4
I have never seen my DH cry. Apparently he cried at his grandmother’s funeral (I wasn’t there) but this was only because he saw his dad crying (I’ve also never seen my FIL cry so apparently it is a very rare thing for him too).
Post # 5
I’ve seen him cry a lot, he’s pretty emotional. I think he cries more often than I do. Usually if he drinks too much he’ll start talking about his brother, who died about a year and a half ago, and it always makes him start crying. He got pretty choked up toward the end of his vows. He told me last week that sometimes when he’s at work he starts to tear up just thinking about me.
Post # 6
Once in the bluest moon. I wish he would cry easier. It’s a good way to let go of the pain and to let me in. I understand crying (except in a situation where a person is an over-crier or crocodile-crier and it becomes meaningless) so it’s frustrating that he can’t really “speak” that “language” well.
Post # 7
He’s gotten emotional and choked up occasionally. But when I cry he keeps it together. I had a big sobbing snotty meltdown a while ago about our relationship, and he was really calm, let me cry and then talked it through with me. I was impressed!
Post # 8
My father, my brothers, and my DH are the strongest men I know. ALL of them are emotional and have no problem crying. It takes a strong man to cry in front of others. I love that my DH is like my dad in that respect.
Post # 9
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@sunkissed19: When he’s drunk and we get into a fight. Never seen it other than that!
ETA: Oh and he definitely teared up during the movie “UP”
Post # 10
If I’m GENUINELY sad he cries with me. And dog videos. That video where the lady found her dog after the tornado? Waterworks. We also cried together one night just talking about the fact that our dog will die one day.
Post # 11
- Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California
I’ve seen DH cry twice! Both very emotional & trying times. I’ve seen my dad cry once!
Post # 12
FI and I have been going through some mental health problems both his and mine, sometimes when he gets so frustrated that he can’t fix himself or me he will cry. He has also cried during misunderstandings (I hesitate to call them arguments) that we have had in the past. I haven’t ever seen him cry because something is sad, I’d say his primary motivation to cry is feeling powerless. He used to have that ‘I must be manly and not do X’ thing going on, but I have been breaking him of that over the years, and he is much happier for it.
Post # 13
I’ve never seen him cry, but once we had a horrible argument and I thought I saw tears welling up…like the frustrated kind. He mentioned wiping away tears a friends wedding once, so he *does* cry, I just havent seen it.
Post # 14
I voted “never” but then I realized that wasn’t true. I saw DH cry exactly once. He had a freshly broken ankle and insisted it wasn’t broken and tried to walk on it. I guess it was rather painful. I don’t really count that, though, since it wasn’t emotional crying — it was trying-to-walk-on-a-BROKEN-ANKLE crying. And it lasted roughly one second.
My Dad cries a lot more now that he’s all grown up, though — they say having children instantly reduces a man’s testosterone levels, and my Dad agrees that while he never cried before he had kids, he cried much more frequently once we were around. Because we were so darn cute, probably. We’d have made anyone cry. 🙂
Post # 15
He hardly ever cries, the only time he really cries is when he is suddenly super stressed, he startes hyperventilating and will cry. The last time I saw him cry was when he was pulled over by the cops, he didn’t even know what they were pulling him over for but he just started freaking out. I had to verbally bitch slap him to get him to calm down haha.
Before that was almost two years go on our anniversary, we got in a fender bender on the way to the restaurant. I wondered why he was so nervous (which in turn was causing him to drive so poorly) but it turns out he had ordered my engagement ring and was supposed to have arrived that day of the day before and it hadn’t so he was freaking out not being able to propose that day.
Post # 16
I’ve seen my husband cry 3 times: once when telling me about a car accident that he was in when he was 18 and his best friend died, once when I walked down the aisle at our wedding… and once during “Up”.
Out of all those things, the last one got me the most. Ridiculous.