Post # 1
J will go out and drink with other people, but he has never had more than one beer when we’re together. Ever. His bachelor party was today (kayaking + dinner + poker and beers) and it just made me so uncomfortable that he would drink with his guy friends, but I’ve never seen him drink. The girls (bachelorette/lingerie shower was tonight too) were all talking about how chatty their SOs get when they drink and all I could think was, “I’ve never seen that side of him.” and it made me feel like a crappy fiancee, like I don’t even know him.
So of course, like any good woman *eye roll here*, I came home and cried and emailed my MOH at 1am.
Post # 3
My SO was really into drinking before we got together. By the time he turned 21 he was kinda over the whole drinking thing and I have only seen him buzzed/drunk once or twice. I went through a short drinking phase before we met and have probably been buzzed/drunk around him less than 5 times.
That being said, we rarely drink whether we are together or out separately so I had to answer “s/he drinks and acts the same around me.”
Post # 4
We both drink a little more around each other when we’re out – I think it’s that feeling of someone else there to take care of you/look after you. My days of binge drinking are way over, and he never did, so it’s kind of a moot point anyway.
Post # 5
My FI and 1 drink the same around each other and pretty much act the same. I don’t really drink at all, I used to enjoy a bourbon and coke here and there but after being pregnant and breast feeding I haven’t really ever gone back to having an occasional drink. Actually the last time I had a drink would of been at a friends birthday over 12 months ago. My FI has a soco and coke to relax if he has had a long hard day at work (or night at work depending on which job he is at). If we go out and he wants a drink he only drinks light beer. But he isn’t a big drinker either. He has seen me drunk….but I haven’t ever seen him what I would call drunk, tipsey maybe, but not drunk.
I have heard stories though of his past, in his wilder days long before we met. There is a not so pretty story floating around where he and his mate finished off 2 bottles of soco between them and he has no memory of a 24 hour period….. I’m glad those days are behind him now.
Post # 6
When me and S met we were both drinking mass amounts..not even kidding. It was nothing for me to down a 12 pack all by myself and nothing for him to split a 30 pack with a friend or two. He’s cut back on the amount he drinks but he does drink beer everyday. I know that sounds horrible and makes him sound like an alcoholic but it’s his way of unwinding after work. And I can’t really blame him as he works 10+ hours a day outside. His job is super stressful and he works so hard that I’m not going to say anything if he wants to unwind by having a few beers after work. I know when I’m outside for just a little bit nothing sounds better than a cold beer so I can’t even imagine having to out working in hundred degree heat for that long. He hardly ever gets drunk and he acts the same around me as he does around his friends.
Post # 7
FI stopped drinking- he never drank that much anyway, but I LOVE it. I always can drink as much as/ if I want to and I always have a safe ride home. I feel so cared for and it seems so responsible to me. He will just get a soda when we are out, and it looks like my captain and coke, so you wouldn’t know he didn’t drink. I really like it!
Post # 8
I think it’s wonderfully thoughtful that J doesn’t drink much around you! It’s a huge sign of respect for you, imo. 🙂
Post # 9
my so is a big drinker but he drinks less or none at all around me because he’s the driver. don’t feel stupid, i felt like that too whenever he goes to the bar to drink with his friends. i think, how come he doesn’t want to go to a bar WITH ME. (even though i don’t really wanna chill in a bar….)
Post # 10
I have certainly seen the buzzed/drunk side of my husband but he definitely drinks less around me. There are nights where he will go out with the guys and will drink more than he would if I were there.
Post # 11
My husband and I usually only have 1 drink when we are together. He has only ever gone out and had a more once when he was out with his family.
Post # 12
We go out, we drink, we have a great time together, and that’s us. Every couple is different.
Post # 13
I actually agree with Mr.Bee that this is a huge sign of respect. It could also be that he is not that fun to be around when drunk and he doesnt want you to see that…if anything if it bothers you I would ask him why. He could have a perfectly good reason that you are totally ok with.
Post # 14
- Wedding: May 2011 - Trinity Lutheran Church & Idlewild Country Club
We don’t drink at all so I’ve never worried about it.
Post # 15
Well, we both drink, but very moderately. He doesn’t change when he drinks…sometimes he get a little, ahem, affectionate. But seriously, he has to have had a lot to get like that. I’ve only seen him like that a couple of times in the 5+ years we’ve been together. Like, a New Years Eve party the weekend he got back from Iraq….and a handful of times in college. In college he used to be extra shy and drinking did help take the edge off so he wasn’t uncomfortable but that was like, 4 years ago. He’s not doing that anymore. So i can safely say he doesn’t “change” when he drinks and is very considerate of me when i’m going out. He’ll often encourage me to have a glass of wine with my friends and he’ll drive (and i often do the same). He’s even offered to stop drinking when i get pregnant, but i told him it wasn’t necessary b/c he couldn’t drink in Iraq and I certainly did (i was in college!)
Don’t worry about those other girls. Psh.
Post # 16
We both drink occasionally, but never binge drinking anymore like we did when we were 21. I rarely have anymore than 1 or 2 drinks when I go out now.. I hardly ever get past a buzz, and same goes with him.