(Closed) Does your SO drink around you?

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Does your SO's drinking behavior change around you?
    S/he drinks MORE around me : (4 votes)
    5 %
    S/he drinks LESS around me : (7 votes)
    9 %
    S/he drinks and acts the same around me : (59 votes)
    72 %
    S/he drinks the same amount, but acts differently (more or less affected by the alcohol) around me : (3 votes)
    4 %
    Other : (0 votes)
    My SO does not drink : (9 votes)
    11 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    2006 posts
    Buzzing bee

    My SO was really into drinking before we got together. By the time he turned 21 he was kinda over the whole drinking thing and I have only seen him buzzed/drunk once or twice. I went through a short drinking phase before we met and have probably been buzzed/drunk around him less than 5 times.

    That being said, we rarely drink whether we are together or out separately so I had to answer “s/he drinks and acts the same around me.” 

    Post # 4
    Member
    5263 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    We both drink a little more around each other when we’re out – I think it’s that feeling of someone else there to take care of you/look after you. My days of binge drinking are way over, and he never did, so it’s kind of a moot point anyway. 

    Post # 5
    Member
    879 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    My FI and 1 drink the same around each other and pretty much act the same.  I don’t really drink at all, I used to enjoy a bourbon and coke here and there but after being pregnant and breast feeding I haven’t really ever gone back to having an occasional drink.  Actually the last time I had a drink would of been at a friends birthday over 12 months ago.  My FI has a soco and coke to relax if he has had a long hard day at work (or night at work depending on which job he is at).  If we go out and he wants a drink he only drinks light beer.  But he isn’t a big drinker either.  He has seen me drunk….but I haven’t ever seen him what I would call drunk, tipsey maybe, but not drunk.

    I have heard stories though of his past, in his wilder days long before we met. There is a not so pretty story floating around where he and his mate finished off 2 bottles of soco between them and he has no memory of a 24 hour period….. I’m glad those days are behind him now.

    Post # 6
    Member
    363 posts
    Helper bee

    When me and S met we were both drinking mass amounts..not even kidding.  It was nothing for me to down a 12 pack all by myself and nothing for him to split a 30 pack with a friend or two.  He’s cut back on the amount he drinks but he does drink beer everyday.  I know that sounds horrible and makes him sound like an alcoholic but it’s his way of unwinding after work.  And I can’t really blame him as he works 10+ hours a day outside.  His job is super stressful and he works so hard that I’m not going to say anything if he wants to unwind by having a few beers after work.  I know when I’m outside for just a little bit nothing sounds better than a cold beer so I can’t even imagine having to out working in hundred degree heat for that long.  He hardly ever gets drunk and he acts the same around  me as he does around his friends. 

    Post # 7
    Member
    7771 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    FI stopped drinking- he never drank that much anyway, but I LOVE it.  I always can drink as much as/ if I want to and I always have a safe ride home.  I feel so cared for and it seems so responsible to me.  He will just get a soda when we are out, and it looks like my captain and coke, so you wouldn’t know he didn’t drink.  I really like it!

    Post # 8
    Member
    2765 posts
    Sugar bee

    I think it’s wonderfully thoughtful that J doesn’t drink much around you!  It’s a huge sign of respect for you, imo. 🙂

    Post # 9
    Member
    244 posts
    Helper bee

    my so is a big drinker but he drinks less or none at all around me because he’s the driver.  don’t feel stupid, i felt like that too whenever he goes to the bar to drink with his friends.  i think, how come he doesn’t want to go to a bar WITH ME.  (even though i don’t really wanna chill in a bar….)

    Post # 10
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    3762 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I have certainly seen the buzzed/drunk side of my husband but he definitely drinks less around me.  There are nights where he will go out with the guys and will drink more than he would if I were there.  

    Post # 11
    Hostess
    18646 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    My husband and I usually only have 1 drink when we are together.  He has only ever gone out and had a more once when he was out with his family.

    Post # 12
    Member
    408 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    We go out, we drink, we have a great time together, and that’s us. Every couple is different.

    Post # 13
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    2054 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    I actually agree with Mr.Bee that this is a huge sign of respect. It could also be that he is not that fun to be around when drunk and he doesnt want you to see that…if anything if it bothers you I would ask him why.  He could have a perfectly good reason that you are totally ok with.

    Post # 14
    Member
    529 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011 - Trinity Lutheran Church & Idlewild Country Club

    We don’t drink at all so I’ve never worried about it.

    Post # 15
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    14186 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Well, we both drink, but very moderately. He doesn’t change when he drinks…sometimes he get a little, ahem, affectionate. But seriously, he has to have had a lot to get like that. I’ve only seen him like that a couple of times in the 5+ years we’ve been together. Like, a New Years Eve party the weekend he got back from Iraq….and a handful of times in college. In college he used to be extra shy and drinking did help take the edge off so he wasn’t uncomfortable but that was like, 4 years ago. He’s not doing that anymore. So i can safely say he doesn’t “change” when he drinks and is very considerate of me when i’m going out. He’ll often encourage me to have a glass of wine with my friends and he’ll drive (and i often do the same). He’s even offered to stop drinking when i get pregnant, but i told him it wasn’t necessary b/c he couldn’t drink in Iraq and I certainly did (i was in college!)

    Don’t worry about those other girls. Psh.

    Post # 16
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    2402 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    We both drink occasionally, but never binge drinking anymore like we did when we were 21. I rarely have anymore than 1 or 2 drinks when I go out now.. I hardly ever get past a buzz, and same goes with him.

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