Does Your SO Have Any Say In What Gender Gynecologist You See?

posted 3 years ago in Wellness
  • poll: What Gender Does Your SO Prefer You To See?
    Female : (13 votes)
    4 %
    Male : (0 votes)
    SO does not care/never has said : (123 votes)
    41 %
    SO doesn't care but I prefer female : (101 votes)
    33 %
    SO doesn't care but I prefer male : (21 votes)
    7 %
    Neither of us care I just want the first appointment window available : (45 votes)
    15 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1067 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @Mrs_Amanda:  Whaaaaaaa??? I think I’d honestly be so turned off by a SO that was so insecure as to worry about the gender of a doctor I was seeing, I wouldn’t stay in the relationship.  That’s so strange to me!

    Post # 4
    Member
    2696 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    My SO cares nothing about the gender and everything about the credentials and skills. If you are a good doctor, you get the job. Male or female we just want quality care. There may be a bit of insecurity behind the “wierded out” comment.

    Post # 5
    Member
    9219 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I’m with you – that’s a strange attitude!  My doctor (for everything, including pap smears) is male and my husband’s doctor is female.  So weird that it would even occur to anyone to care what sex a doctor is.  All that matters to us is good medical care and we both have that.  We had our doctors long before we even met each other so no point in changing.

    Does your friend’s SO have a reason for his preference of her doctor being female? 

    Post # 6
    Member
    8903 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

    Weird!  My guy has never even thought to ask what gender mine is.  That would be a bit of a red flag for me, but I am NOT into insecure controlling behavior at all.

    Post # 7
    Member
    5421 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @Mrs_Amanda:  For smears I go to my family planning clinic and all the nurses there are female. Similarly, at STD clinics they have more female staff and typically you see someone of the same sex. For my endometriosis I see whoever I think is the best, so have seen a man and a woman. 

     

    OH doesn’t care who I see and I would not be at all impressed if he tried to insist on me seeing a woman; my health should come first and foremost. 

    Post # 8
    Member
    111 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Mine doesn’t care; at least if he does, he’s never said anything. It’s a doc after all as long as it’s good care. I actually prefer women. I had one male gyno who was so insensitive and not gentle at all. He couldn’t understand tensing like it was something I had control over. I never went back to him. Though general doc care I don’t care who I see. Thought lately I’ve been seeing mostly women.

     

     

     

    Post # 10
    Member
    141 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I wouldn’t see a male gyno, even though there is nothing ‘sexy’ to having a pap smear, I am still uncomfortable with it. The only reason I would be ok with a male gyno is in an emergency situation. That is just my personal preference. I never discussed it before with my SO but he would want me to feel most comfortable.

    Post # 11
    Member
    11300 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @ANGELaaimt:  For real. My FI does not care. I prefer female, but I’ve also only ever dealt with female and I happen to like her.

    Post # 12
    Member
    10219 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    When I shop around for a Dr, the last thing I am thinking about is their Gender.  (Seriously, this is a thing ??)

    I am waaaay more concerned about their education / credentials / reputation as an EXPERT at what they do.

    IE… When I was considering my second baby, I was uber-concerned about which Drs had excellent credentials when it came to emergency C-Sections… as that is what I had had the first time (in the interim I had moved to a different city, so couldn’t go back to my first OB-Gyn).  I wanted a Dr, and Hospital where I would get the best results / care.  Period.

    Sorry, but this just sounds a bit cra-cra to me…  don’t know who’s worse the SO for making such a ridiculous demand of his partner (her body = her choice), or the woman for going along with this idea.

    PS… Over the years, I’ve had both Male & Female Doctors.  And both genders have seen me naked (all of me naked).  I mean… goodness gracious, they are Drs for pete sakes.

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    EDIT TO ADD

    I DID NOT VOTE… Because, my choice would be:

    I DON’T CARE ABOUT GENDER … JUST WANT THE BEST DOCTOR AVAILABLE.

     

    Post # 13
    Member
    3557 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    Soon I’m going to have to get my 4th new gynecologist in as many years. I thought I’d be able to keep my last one for awhile, but she retired. When I make the appointment I’m just going to pick the one that has a slot that is most convienient for me. I’ve never had a male gynecologist, but I’m not opposed to the idea. FI has never cared, as long as I don’t make him go into the appointments with me.

    Post # 14
    Member
    2697 posts
    Sugar bee

    Why would he even care?  That would strike me as odd and if he cared about this, then we have wayy more problems to deal with.

    Post # 15
    Member
    860 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @ANGELaaimt:  Whaaaaaaa??? I think I’d honestly be so turned off by a SO that was so insecure as to worry about the gender of a doctor I was seeing, I wouldn’t stay in the relationship.  That’s so strange to me!

    My thoughts exactly. 

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