Post # 1
I have a book which insists my FI and I have to be totally up front with each other about all past relationships and hookups. When I brought this up to my FI, he scoffed. He wants to know NOTHING about my past. He said as far as he’s concerned I’m a virgin, and that’s all he needs to know. If we talk about exes, he’ll always jokingly say "VIRGIN!" LOL
Does your FI know about all your past relationships?
What about your past sexual encounters?
Post # 3
We’ve known each other for a long time, and we were friends for a while — therefore we know all about each others relationships … we also discussed our sexual history because we’re just really open about everything. We know all about each others ex’s and we know all about our historys (neither of which is very long, thankfully!). I think it just works for us. I know others who don’t care to know. For us, it’s good, so we dont have any questions, we 100% trust each other because we know everything.
Post # 4
I don’t mind telling anecdotes about ex-boyfriends but it just seems weird to talk about previous sexual encounters. He hates talking about his old girlfriend and only tells sex stories that are funny or mishaps so I can tease him. That doesn’t gross me out or make me jealous.
Post # 5
We know about each other’s past boyfriends and girlfriends, and I have a rough idea of his previous partners, but he’d rather not knowo anything about my partners. He’s like your FH, Sapphire. He prefers to pretend I’m a virgin. 😛
Post # 6
Mine knows a LOT about my history, and I know his pretty well. I had only slept with one guy when I met my FH, and it was a very bad situation, so my FH actually helped me get through it. The other 2 guys I’ve been with were since I met the FH, because we weren’t exclusive initially. He had only been with one when we met, and the other two were while we were together (don’t ask *blushes*), so we were sort of there for most of it. All that to say yes, we know a lot about each other’s histories, but mostly because we were there for it.
Post # 7
I was very upfront about my history. I had only slept with one guy as well , but had several serious relationships. He knows about them without having to go into details. I think it’s important to be honest.
Post # 8
My FH and I know EVERYTHING about each others past relationships…we’re both virgins, but if we weren’t we’d still share everything with each other. It wasn’t fun to have the conversation, but we wanted to get everything out in the open so that we could be completely honest with each other.
Post # 9
We have both shared a general overview. I would say that we don’t know EVERYTHING … but for instance, I know he was engaged before, and I wanted to know what plans they made, how his family felt about the engagement and then breakup, and why they broke up. He’s also gotten the shorter-than-Cliffs-notes versions of my serious relationship, but not every encounter. I don’t think it’s worth sharing.
Post # 10
We were best friends for about two years before we started dating so he heard it all 🙂
Post # 11
I guess I should clarify — I don’t know every detail about each encounter, I guess I would say I know his "list" which is short, and he knows mine, which is very short (only 1). We also know the timeline, but again we know because we would discuss our other relationships with each other while we were friends … which I guess is why I always ued to compare him to everyone 🙂
Post # 12
My FI does know everything about my past relationships, whether that is a good or bad thing. He would prefer to think that I am still a virgin, as when I met him, he was. :}
Post # 13
I think we know way too much about each others pasts, but i guess thats a good thing. We were friends since middle school, so we know pretty much from them on, and what we didn’t we’ve filled each other in. No point in having surprises later on in life, and we are just really honest with each other. I guess since we know this is it, and we know the other person isn’t going to leave over something that is in the past
Post # 14
I am the one that doesn’t want to know! I know who (names only) he has slept with and that he had these relationships… but that’s all. I had a few stories to share. He knows everything and really doesn’t care. He laughs that I don’t want to hear anything and am such an open book. He respects it, though.
Post # 15
- Wedding: June 2018 - Holy Family Catholic Church, reception: National Infantry Museum
He knows about relationships, but we’ve never ever discussed sexual partners.
Post # 16
We both know pretty much everything since we were friends before we started dating.
I know some one who lied about how many partners she had to her boyfriend (and he still got upset by the number even though she told him a much smaller number!)…that’s just really a weird situation to me…