Does your SO wish you dressed "sexier"?

posted 3 years ago in Married Life
  • poll: Does your SO wish you dressed sexier
    YES!- he hates my entire wardrobe : (8 votes)
    6 %
    YES!- but only when we go out somewhere super nice : (14 votes)
    11 %
    NO!- He loves the way I dress : (60 votes)
    46 %
    NO!- he doesn't care one way or the other : (49 votes)
    37 %
  • Post # 3
    614 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    DH notices & compliments me when I dress up and look a bit sexier/more polished. But I’ve asked him a similar question before about what he thinks about my (lack of) style, and he said he really doesn’t care how I dress and thinks I look great in everything. *cue sappy “Awwwww!” sound*

    Out of curiousity, how do you normally dress? How does your DH dress?

    Also, maybe he was “in the mood” and was trying to subtly hint at that with his sexy dress comment.

    Post # 4
    2884 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    Nope, he loves it when i put on makeup or going out clothes but he’s not a fan of  super revealing clothes. i wore aslightly too revealing top the other day (ive worn it before and it was fine,but with my new massive pregnancy boobs it was a bit much) and it made him a bit uncomfortable haha

    Post # 5
    367 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    SO has joked on occasion that I’m pretty conservative, but he doesn’t really care. I actually got paranoid once and was like “oh my god, do you think I look dowdy!!??” and he was like “no, you’re adorable and super fashionable, but you get anxiety if you suspect you might be wearing anything with the remotest amount of cleevage. it’s cute. I’d love you if you wore sweats every day..” awwwwww.

    Post # 6
    753 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    I wouldn’t say I dress super conservatively, but I’ve noticed that I don’t feel comfortable wearing what I did a few years ago…longer shorts, longer dresses, etc. My FI has actually, over the last three years of our relationship, made positive comments about that. I think I still look nice (and so does he!) but I don’t dress “sexy” or provocatively. I would feel a bit uncomfortable if I was dressing in a way that is soliciting the attention of other men (feminist angle aside, because I do believe women should be able to wear whatever they want without this fear, I’m just saying…) when I am in a life long, serious relationship with my man. 

    Now my FI does like it when I dress up a bit more- like going out clothes- but these aren’t necessarily “sexier,” just nicer. 

    Post # 8
    783 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    He doesn’t like slutty/trashy looking clothing. He’s into very classic things. We are in Europe and in Belgium, people tend to dress very “clean cut”. He’s a big fan of me in dresses (pretty, girly ones). That’s kind of like the step up for me. Typically I am just a jeans kind of person.

    Post # 9
    2355 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    SO doesn’t care if I wear a burlap sack. He’s a pretty simple guy. He doesn’t like complicated lingerie, either.

    Post # 10
    3360 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    No, I tend to be fairly modest, and DH appreciates that 🙂 When I do dress a little more “sexy” (which is still somewhat conservative – maybe a lower neckline, a shorter hemline, or something more formfitting – never all of the above), he notices and compliments me, but he always says that I look great in anything 🙂 He’s great.

    Post # 11
    3128 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

    DH prefers me to dress more conservatively in public. He thinks I am super sexy when I wear a maxi or pencil skirt to work. I don’t get it…but whatever. I have definitely toned down my look since we got married! 

    I will still occasionally wear a shirt that shows (my small amount of) cleavage when we go on dates, and I wear sexier clothes for him at home, but honestly he seems to be as attracted to me when I am wearing a tank top or gym shorts as I am when I put a ton of effort in.

    Club wear would be a huge “no” to him though!

    Post # 12
    11772 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @the_newlymintedmrs-s17:  DH is constantly begging me to put on more clothing or looser clothing.

    I’m 23 and a size 2-4. I love my short shorts and mini skirts!

    But DH wishes I would wear nothing but Mom jeans and muumuus! He says “I know what you look like under your clothes, no one else needs to see that much skin!”

    Post # 13
    4072 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    I’m pretty sure he is blind to clothing for the most part. He does make a comment every once in a while if he especially likes something – but it doesn’t have to be fancy! He loves this old tshirt that I cut up into a tank top, probably because it’s just for lounging around the house and looks a little slutty. 

    But yeah, for the most part he doesn’t care about his wardrobe or mine. lol

    Post # 14
    114 posts
    Blushing bee

    He’s only ever mentioned my “at home” attire – my 10 year old baggy t-shirts and flannel pajama pants. And when I thought about it, I realized he had a point. I looked like I had given up on life. Now I wear a short satin robe that I love or lacy, comfy shorts and camisoles. 

    Post # 15
    822 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    It is really nice to know that he thinks you can pull of the sexier outfits right?  I think for the most part, my husband thinks I could dress a little less conservative.  But sometimes I think he’d like it if I was wearing a super sexy outfit just sitting around watching TV at home and then throw on a sweatshirt & jeans to go out!  He likes the idea of me dressing up, but if I do put on something a little sexier, he’ll worry that I might get the wrong kind of attention.  He also says he likes that I wear a lot of work out clothes since they’re tight, lol!!!  

    Post # 16
    279 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    It depends on your definition of “sexy”. DH has always been about flattering, fitted but not tight clothes. We both gre up with the understanding of “A woman can be showing no skin and look sexier than a woman in her underwear.” So yeah, I take him along shopping to get opinions on how a shirt fits or if pants are working a miracle and make me look like I have a butt. He’s also the official panty line checker as we both HATE that and it’s hard to check for that in the dressing room.

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