Post # 1
We just got our contract for our new venue and the first thing it says after thanking us for hosting the event is a dress code.
It is the responsibility of the host to inform guests that proper dress is required. Denim of any style is not permittted in the club at any time. Gentlemen are required to wear a shirt with a collar or a mock turtleneck. Hats are not to be worn in the dining areas of the club. Shorts are prohibited at any time. Tennis shoes and flip flops are prohibited to be worn inside the clubhouse at any time. The manner of dress, whether specified or not, shall at all times be governed by good taste and in keeping with the character of the club. Individuals improperly attired will be asked to leave the property.
Yikes! FI says I should just copy and paste this onto our wedding website, but it seems so harsh and cold, but I do need to make sure everyone knows that there is a strict dress code set by the country club. Would you say this is business casual dress code? People should have enough common sense to know that you can’t wear tennis shoes or flips flops to work…right?
Post # 3
You would be suprised at what some people would think is acceptable, especially in the summer. I agree with your FH, just copy and paste it to your wedding web site. People will not see it as harsh if you tell people your venue asked you to pass it along. Did they tell you of the dress code when you booked the location?
Post # 4
@tksjewelry: Yeah, they let me know there was a dress code. Maybe I’m just reading it in my mind with a harsh voice. I just don’t want people to be like PSHA the dress code! lol
Post # 5
Yes, ours did/does. THe clubhouse where we had our reception is only open for dinner and you are not allowed to wear jeans. Basically the attire that is permitted is business casual. We didnt say anything about a dress code though because I figured people know how to dress for a wedding. Ive never seen someone in jeans at a wedding before so I wouldnt have even thought about saying anything!
Post # 5
Put it on the website, then it is clear.
Post # 6
I love that they suggest mock turtle necks
But to answer yourquestion, I don’t think we have a dress code beyond no shoes, not shirt, no service. I would put ‘business casual’ on your website and maybe a few key points: ‘no tennis shoes or denim, collared shirts preferred for men’ or something of the sort.
Post # 7
I wouldn’t count on common sense, I’d post it.
Post # 8
Our venue has a similar dress code (business casual/no jeans or athletic wear). Ordinarily I would have thought it was common sense, but then my uncle showed up to my brother’s semi-formal wedding wearing a glow-in-the-dark skeleton t-shirt!
Post # 9
I would copy and paste and put on the website as well. He had a good idea on that. Copy/paste and put a title of “As Directed from the Club please see below : …”
If you state that it’s their rules and you got it from them then all should be good.
I don’t know yet if mine does as we need to get the contract from them. I don’t think so though.
Post # 10
I never seen a dress code for someone elses wedding guests before, that’s pretty intense! I think generally speaking ours would be something like… wear clothes or else were calling the police. hahaha
Post # 11
Mine does not , since my venue is at a park , but I think if you copy and paste it on your website it will be fine.
Would you like to maybe just make your wedding a tie and gown affair or is it more casual ?
If your going with Semiformal maybe you can put a less harsh way on your website like :
” Ladies and Gentlemen please attend in your Sunday’s Best. Per our venue policy, please no denim, flipflops , shorts, or tshirts.”
Post # 12
Oh yea, put this on the website so people know. I wear flip flops and dresses all the time together. It’s too hot in the summer for heels 🙂
Post # 13
eeek I tend to wear flip flops all the time 🙁
Post # 14
@SoontobeMrsA: I wear flip flops 24/7 hehehe
Post # 15
I would like to give people credit, but I bet his mother would be the person to show up in bedazzled jeans.