Post # 1
Funny to see the first (I think?) post on here about dogs, since I was planning to write this post today!
The hubs and I are discussing getting a dog. We’re not sure when we will start TTC (it depends on if I get an internship next year- I’ll know in Feb) but either this spring at the earliest (Feb/March), or next winter (Dec 2011) at the latest.
Did any bees get new dogs that soon before they had a baby? If so, did you regret it? We are hearing two things- that it will prepare us for a baby, so we should do it- or that it will be too much work and we’ll regret it. Also, I’m worried about how a young dog would be around a baby. An old, familiar dog is one thing, but dogs are still animals after all, and I get paranoid about it hurting a baby.
What did you do/what would you do? Thanks!
Post # 3
I’m not a mom yet but have you considered an older dog, one that has less energy (maybe a senior)?
Post # 4
I think we’re planning to get back on the TTC train in spring. DH wants a dog, but I just don’t want a dog (that would still be kind of a puppy) and a brand new baby at the same time. I just think it would be too difficult to arrange its walks, and getting outside to do its business around the baby’s schedule.
But… people do it all the time, so clearly they don’t think it’s an issue.
It never really was a big worry to me about the dog hurting the baby.
Post # 5
We have two dogs – the young one is 8 1/2 months now and our baby has a little over 6 months before it makes an appearance. We’ve been really lucky with this pup, she harasses our older dog and so has left our couches and everything in one piece, though she’s also less than half the size of our older dog. I guess it might depend on the size of the dog then. Because with our older bigger dog it would have been difficult with him and a baby before he was 2 but maybe we’ll have regrets with our pup but she’s really well behaved all-ready so I’m not that worried that she’ll still have a lot of baby in her herself when our real baby appears.
Post # 6
We were considering getting another dog (we have a 4 year old Newfoundland dog) and were planning on getting a Newfoundland puppy, but we decided to wait and see how we feel about it until after we have a baby (we are TTC now). I still remember the sleepless nights, and all the time and effort into training and re-enforcement and socialization, that a puppy requires, and that wouldn’t work well when you are pregnant or have a newborn, in my opinion.
We hope that we can make it work when we have young kids though.
Post # 7
We got a puppy last December thinking that we would have plenty of time to have him trained before we had a baby. Well we had our son in July when the puppy was a year old and he still wasn’t trained. We tried everything we could think of but ended up finding another home for him. It was just too much with a new born. I would get up to feed in the middle of the night and he would mess on the floor while I was up so I would have to clean that before I could go back to bed. It was really hard to enjoy having him when he was causing so much stress.
Post # 8
Thanks for the feedback ladies. @Derbybride, that is good to know. I feel like we should maybe have done it this year instead of closer to TTC….but now it’s on our brains. I guess we’ll see!
Post # 9
I don’t know that I would want to take on a puppy, but I think adopting a 4-6 year old dog (with a good “first” life) could work really well. The other nice thing there is that their personality is already developed so you know that you’re getting a mellow, calm dog rather than a super energetic one.
Oh, and I think if we were planning on going baby then dog, the dog wouldn’t happen for years.
Post # 10
I have two dogs. Our youngest one is 10 months and I feel that at 2yrs they are at a very good age. No more crate training, 100% house broken, and the even start to be under voice command. I know for myself and our dogs I would like my youngest obne to be at least 2 when a baby enters our family.
Post # 11
if you get a dog now you’ll have plenty of time to train, especially if the earliest you might start ttc is february. dog training is not that difficult – it just takes time and consistency. make sure you take a class (any petsmart or petco has them – the classes are much more important for you than for your dog).
Post # 12
I think getting a dog to ‘train’ you for having a baby is only a good idea if you aren’t 100% sure if you WANT to have a baby in the first place but definitely want a dog. If you for sure want a baby, you’re right about it possibly complicating things having a new dog and a new baby at the same time. But like you said, people do it all the time so as long as you definitely want both the dog and the baby then the extra work will be worth it.
Post # 13
I agree with Roxy and others, 2 years old is a good age for a dog when a baby comes around. They are trained at that point and adjusted to being a good part of the family.
Having a puppy really does help “train” you in what having a baby would be like
Post # 14
We got our puppy last May and she is know a little over 1 and a half years old now. She was a lot of work as a puppy, but in the last few months she has gotten soo much easier. I could not have handled having her and a baby when she was younger, but now at 1 and a half or 2 I think that it would be possible. I think it does depend on what type of dog you have too. Our dog is only 23 lbs and she needs a few walks a week, whereas my friends have a 75 lb dog that needs two or three walks (preferably runs) a day. I think it would be harder to have a baby and a dog if the dog had high exercise requirements since it takes a lot of time to take a dog for all of those runs/walks, and if you don’t, they aren’t normally as well behaved. Something to consider.
Post # 15
We are planning to get a puppy (Norfolk Terrier!) shortly after the wedding.
We’re waiting a few years on kids until we feel we’ve prepared a good home for them, and prepared ourselves as parents… haha, we are so young (22)!
Post # 16
Sometimes I think we’re crazy for considering this, but my husband and I are due in April and looking into getting a second dog now.
We would only consider an older (probably age 6 or above) dog, and baby or no baby, the primary qualification is that we are looking for a very calm, laid-back (even lazy would be good!) dog. Our current dog is pretty high anxiety and has separation issues, but seems to do better when he has a friend around, so that’s the biggest impetus for looking for a second dog.
Dogs are definitely a lot of work, but I think that it helps that we’d only consider a calm, older dog to begin with, and that we have a fenced in yard with a dog door. Plus, I expect that for many weeks around when I deliver, my mom will be staying with us, so she can help with both the dog we already have as well as any new one we’d get.