- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
I thought I typed this out earlier but I guess it didn’t submit… I was in a hurry—- so I guess it didn’t work.
Fiance and I move in together last Oct. I have a somewhat “special” dog. She’s very into her routines and what is “normal” to her. She’s such a sweet, affectionate and nice dog. Except when we’re gone…
Knowing how routine-based she is I started to “ease” her into spending time with FI (we lived 1/2 hour away…. so he wasn’t over at my house a lot… and when I was at his my parents watched her… technically his apartment was supposed to be pet free…. we bent the rules the last few months and she was there every weekend). When I began taking her to his house… for whatever reason she began to show signs of seperation anxiety. I got her meds from the vet… but they didn’t seem to work much. This was only when we were away at his house.. At our house she did fine when I was gone.
Fiance and her get along fine. He doesn’t love her to the extent that I do… he’s just not a “dog” person.
Then the move happened….. MAJOR seperation anxiety set in. I had to up her meds…. didn’t help. She was getting herself allllll worked up in her cage while we were out… then she started to poo and sling it all over the bathroom. FIance started to lose patience here….
I started walking her as close to everyday as I could to burn off energy. (We have a fenced in yard for her to run around in)
Then she started getting so upset that she gave herself diarrhea for a few weeks. I had to take her to the vet… about 100 dollars of meds and office visit and that worked itself out.
I thought maybe it was being confined in the cage…. so we bought a babygate to put in the kitchen. She was so happy… for about 2 months… Then poo slinging started again and getting overly worked up.
So I read about Thundershirts… and how wonderful they are supposed to be. She’s had it for 3 days now… and yesterday she started to chew on the babygate. She’s NEVER destroyed furniture… and has been past the chewing puppy thing for years. It wasn’t destroyed… but it was just weird that she started doing this.
This morning I had to leave for work and typically FI is home, so she goes back to bed with him. This morning he had to go to a meeting… So she had to go into the kitchen with her thundershirt on…. and let the poo slinging begin! He said he came home to a huge mess.
He has NO patience left with her. His schedule for work is anything but regular… and he often has to “deal” with the brunt of her messes. (i’m gone from about 7-6 each day through the week)
I am just so sad b/c this is causing issues between FI and I. He is no longer patient with her at all. I feel like he thinks that I’ve “let” her be like this…. and that’s not true. I only started to see all of this when we were with him on the weekends (coincides with another event in her life… will explain ) and now in the new house. At our old house…. she wasn’t perfect by any stretch…. but none of this craziness was going on. At All.
I feel like my only option here is to get rid of her. And that absolutely just makes me want to cry. I love her so much… and if I get rid of her…. how will she feel? She’s been through so much in the last year (not only with the move but at my old house I had both of my parents’ dogs… 1 died of old age and the other went to stay with my mom again)…. The loss of her 2 best buddies was HUGE to her (and also when I started to see the seperation anxiety). She’s had a traumatic year…. and now to think about finding a new family for her…. she’ll be a wreck!
She went to stay with my mom this weekend when we were out of town for my shower near FI’s family. Mom said she was fine when she left and was put in her cage… no issues. So apparently it has to do with the new house/me/fiance and possibly all of above??? IDK
I’ve tried everything under the sun that I can find to do online. I cannot afford a behaviorolist to come to my house- but I’ve talked to the vet- and I can’t up her meds anymore than what they are right now.
HELP! My heart is absolutely broken and I just can’t deal right now. FI and SO mad right now…. and I just hate living where he’s all grumpy b/c of the dog. I know he’s absolutely Done with her….. (and part of me is worried… what if we have a kid with behavior issues???… )
Anyone have an advice.
Sorry I kinda rambled on here… Upset me is very wordy I guess