- 6 years ago
I was wondering if any of you could give me some advice? Sorry long post to set the scene!
My Fiance has had a little Terrier Dog for over 12 years, it is actually his family dog but we look after it every now and then and he loves it to pieces! I unfortunately don’t really like her but I can see Fiance cares for her so I am happy to have her around she can be quite cute sometimes (FI knows I’m not so keen).
She has had a few bladder infections on and off for the past year and Fiance has been taking her to the vests recently for medication to try and sort it . Now last Tuesday she had to go for a scan to see if they could get to the bottom of it and Fiance took the day off work. I work from home anyway so when he got back I asked if all was well with little Treacle and he said ‘yes not to bad’ and went upstairs into his study to catch up on the days work.
I later went up to offer him Tea and he was busy on the phone and seemed himself so I thought nothing of it. We had dinner as usual, washed up and he went back upstairs to get on with work (this is usual). I like a late evening shower before getting ready for bed and when I come down stairs Fiance is sitting in the living room in the dark with his brother chatting (we are all very close so the fact that he had just arrived out of nowhere wasn’t strange) Fiance then tells me he has a headache (hence the dark) and is going to go to bed early.
The next day when I am in the office working (not at home) I get FIs family asking how he is, I am assuming they are asking about the headache here and reply with a ‘yes he is fine thanks’. His mum gives me a look of death in the morning which I don’t understand as we usually get on.
FI’s brother makes a point about Fiance being very depressed about everything and I am starting to become very puzzled so I ask what on earth is going on and why does everyone keep asking me if he is Ok? FIs Brother comes out with the fact that Fiance got some very bad news at the Vets after Treacles scan yesterday hence the reason he came around last night to see if he was Ok and he wonders why Fiance hasn’t told me.
I then find out Fiance had been over to his Mum and Dads to drop the dog off and had spent a good 30 mins in tears before he came into work.
When we got home from work yesterday I asked him if there was anything he wanted to talk about and he said he didn’t want to talk about it which I guess is fair enough.
I however feel furious the he has been able to tell EVERYONE apart from me and he has made me look like I don’t care for him in front of his friends and family when I don’t know what is going on and I STILL don’t know whats wrong with the Dog.
Should I be annoyed? He doesn’t want to talk about it buts its difficult to give him any sympathy when I don’t even know whats going on.
Help Bees, I am just going through an Anger stage at the moment.