(Closed) Dogs are more important than my wedding?

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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3183 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Honestly if there was absolutely no way I could find a person to watch my dogs overnight (not including a kennel) I probably would have to stay home with my pups too.  But I find that situation to be unlikely.  Has anyone asked him about checking with the neighbors?

Post # 4
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9147 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Old people are weird.  He might not like the idea of sleeping away from home and he is just using the dogs as an excuse.  Buy him a ride home so he enjoy the festivities and sleep in his own bed.  Everybody wins.

Post # 6
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1329 posts
Bumble bee

Can he not bring them with him, lots of hotels allow pets or could the dogs not stay at your house for the night. My mom brought her dog with her for our wedding, she just stayed at my house for the day… no biggy.

Post # 7
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1235 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

One of my coworkers declined because “she cant leave her dog for a few hours” at first I was like…really?! I think hell be okay for 4 hours…but then I realized that if she doesnt want to be there, I certainly wont force her. Its their loss anyway. 

Post # 9
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2104 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Yeah..old people just ARE weird. My husband’s grandmother lives in the same city we do and didn’t attend our wedding. That’s just crazy to me. Her excuse was her allergies. It was an outdoor wedding, indoor reception. Literally, a 15 minute ceremony, so she wouldn’t be outside that long….It’s not like she never ventures outdoors. It didn’t bother him, though, so it didn’t bother me.

I do understand how you feel…but again. Old people.

Post # 11
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51 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

It’s not just old peopple. I have 3 dogs and I won’t spend the night away from them. If I put them in kennels which I’m not a fan of (I only did this once and my dog came back with all of his nose cut open)  plus the dogs all have to be treated for kennel cough and some other non standard inoculations, with the price of the kennel this costs a lot. I can’t leave them with anyone else because one of them bites, he is old and unpredictable. I know you feel hurt but I’m just trying to help you see it from somone elses point of view. If you can afford it keep him happy and pay for the ride home 🙂

Post # 12
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11287 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

the elderly are just so set in their ways.  they can be very stubborn.  good luck.

Post # 13
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3485 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

It’s probably not what you want to hear, but if I were a guest I would have to make the same decision.  I have a dog that is epileptic and needs medication every 12 hours; there are only a few people he is comfortable with enough to take his meds from, so if me, FI, or FFIL aren’t available to give him his meds, it’s a huge problem for us.  You mentioned one of his dogs isn’t well socialized– could that be part of the issue for getting someone else to watch them? 

Post # 14
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9956 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Agree with the others, be nice to him, give him the opportunity to do both… offer up the cab fare / ride back home at the end of the day.  Then at least you’ve done your best by him, and he can make an informed decision.

As for the old people comments.

As someone over 50, I guess I can understand BOTH sides of this discussion.

YES Older People are set in their ways… (lol, that ladies starts a lot sooner than you think… certainly so if you have children) routine for many is what HELPS them to get thru life.

Grampa has pets… he loves his pets, BECAUSE no doubt at his age, they ARE IS FAMILY.  They rely on him, and he on them (a reason to get up and get going each day)

This doesn’t make him WIERD… this makes him HUMAN (and probably no doubt one of the reasons that the Bride here LOVES her Grampa and wants him at the Wedding)

When we don’t understand things we tend to label them WIERD… when we understand them, we tend to just call them quirks… EVERYONE has quirks… be you a newborn or an elderly person.  Just is what it is.

We will all be old soon enough… trust me, you don’t want anyone calling you wierd no matter what age you are.

 

 

Post # 15
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2104 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I ammend my statment. “Old people can be quirky!” Same idea, though.

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