Post # 1
I lost my dad a few years ago. We didnt have the greatest relationship but was still my dad so I already found a way that Im doing a small memorial for him. I have a corsage or white flowers with a small picture of him attached to it that Im just going to have on the picture table or gift table or something like that. Nothing big. But now we have a few more deaths in the family that seem like they may be happening soon. My FIs grandma who he is kind of close with and I love her like she is one of my own grandmas, is in really bad shape and is like 84ish and it sounds like she is about to pass away any day now possibly. I know he will want to have something for her Im sure. but then it looks kind of weird that we do one for her and not any of the 4 grandpas that are all gone.
But then the 2 bigger ones is both our our moms. His mom has something wrong in her stomach that the doctors cant figure out along with a ton of other health problems, but she just keeps getting worse and worse. ot sure if she would just up and die but never know. And then my mom has been having a bunch of heart problems lately. Got a big history of heart issues in our family and her father passed away of a heart attack. Again not saying she will die either but still worried about her. ovibously if our moms pass away we will plan something much bigger. but how do you plan something like that without it turning all morbid? i dont want our wedding turning into a big funeral.
Post # 3
I’m hoping to keep a small corner of our reception for this. Just put up photos and think of something sweet to say in memorium. I’m sorry this is all happening to you, it’s never fun. 🙁
Post # 4
@jbbs1222: OH man. It really really sucks when things happen close to the wedding. I hope your moms turn out to be fine!
Our family always sets up a little table near the guest book that has pictures of loved ones who have passed and a few candles.
Post # 5
I like the idea of the special little table for it. But should we have everyone included like the grandpas? cause they have been gone for a pretty long time and i dont think my FI ever even knew his and I know his moms dad was a really bad guy. where on the other hand i was pretty close with my 2 grandpas. but that seems weird if we would have mind and not his. but then if we dont have them and do have his grandma if she passes away soon that seems weird. idk probably over thinking this.
Post # 6
So sorry to hear about all that is going on 🙁 My Fiance lost his father several years ago. I never got to meet him, but I think we’ll reserve a seat for him at the ceremony, and have a table for those that are no longer with us, like the grandparents. That way they are still very much a part of the wedding. Also, my future BIL is the best man, so I know that he will mention his dad.
Post # 7
@jbbs1222: Only have the people there you want to honor. If some of the grandparents died before he was born or without knowing him, it’s fine to not have everyone.
Post # 8
We had flowers in front of the alter (church wedding) and a mention of it in the programs.
Post # 9
I’m so sorry to hear… I lost 3 gradparents in 18 months amongst other older family members before the wedding. My husband also only has one living gran but never really got to know his grandparents as they passed away when he was young. I was extremely close to my grandparents so it was really tough. I chose to put their wedding photos in my locket that I wore on the day (no one knew about this) and in addition we had a memorial candle. I saw the poem somewhere (can’t remember where) but will post photos, we allowed anyone present to add the name of someone who should have been with us but no longer was and lit the candle at the start of the reception. I blew it out just before we left later. It burned the whole reception, we still have the lantern with all the names still attached sitting in our living room.