Doing memorials without having it turn too morbid

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m hoping to keep a small corner of our reception for this. Just put up photos and think of something sweet to say in memorium. I’m sorry this is all happening to you, it’s never fun. 🙁

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@jbbs1222:  OH man. It really really sucks when things happen close to the wedding. I hope your moms turn out to be fine!

Our family always sets up a little table near the guest book that has pictures of loved ones who have passed and a few candles. 

Post # 6
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89 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

So sorry to hear about all that is going on 🙁 My Fiance lost his father several years ago. I never got to meet him, but I think we’ll reserve a seat for him at the ceremony, and have a table for those that are no longer with us, like the grandparents. That way they are still very much a part of the wedding. Also, my future BIL is the best man, so I know that he will mention his dad.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

@jbbs1222:  Only have the people there you want to honor. If some of the grandparents died before he was born or without knowing him, it’s fine to not have everyone.

Post # 8
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931 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

We had flowers in front of the alter (church wedding) and a mention of it in the programs.  

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Hi

 

I’m so sorry to hear… I lost 3 gradparents in 18 months amongst other older family members before the wedding. My husband also only has one living gran but never really got to know his grandparents as they passed away when he was young.  I was extremely close to my grandparents so it was really tough. I chose to put their wedding photos in my locket that I wore on the day (no one knew about this) and in addition we had a memorial candle. I saw the poem somewhere (can’t remember where) but will post photos, we allowed anyone present to add the name of someone who should have been with us but no longer was and lit the candle at the start of the reception. I blew it out just before we left later. It burned the whole reception, we still have the lantern with all the names still attached sitting in our living room.

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