- 5 years ago
So as some of you may know, I’m fairly new the hive, and decided to join mostly due to the fact that I simply CAN’T stop antisipating the day when I’m no longer waiting. My SO has spoken to me numerous times in the past about the “future” and has thrown around the vague “one day” and “soon” lines here are there. Which although it gets me excited, it also drove me nuts! “Enough with the somedays, already!” I felt like screaming… But alas I decided to just have a timeline talk and leave it at that. So there I was, perfectly content with the fact that I have till about Dec to expect any type of proposal. And then dinner happened….
As previously posted, my SO and I do not live together, and will not until I have a formal engagement presented. it’s a rule I’ve had for myself, and one that I know he respects. While we were out enjoying our meal, things were going great. I was on my second day on SIU and to be honest it felt really liberating not being so tempted to discuss anything wedding or engagement related. I was calm, cool, and collected. Then SO decides to shake things up with asking me if I’m happy,and how do think things will change when we move in together (he’s never lived with any of his Ex’s as he is fiercely protective of his space and such) I told him I was very happy, (I’ve honestly never been this happy with anyone before). And about the things changing once we live together, I told him the truth. There were going to be some adjustments, some getting used to’s, like the fact that my DD will be in the room across from us so no crazy loud love play unless she is away at a sitter lol. There were going to be days where one or both of us needed some down time, and that its perfectly normal to want to have a guys night or girls night every once in a while ( something I think is sort of crucial to keep that spark there) and that there will be a lot of benefits too such as not having to drive 45mins to see each other every day, being able to actually relax and not worry about what time I have to pick up DD from sitters, since she’ll be there too. And the fact he gets to come home to “his girls” after work. He gave me a big smile, but I could tell he was getting ready to drill me with more q’s so I kept the convo on my terms by telling him that us living together is something I look forward to, but I won’t break my rule for it.
And he said he understood. I told him that the way I see it, us waking up to each other every morning and falling asleep next to each other every night is a privilege. Not a right, let alone not something you do to “see of it’ll work”. (Some people move in before engagement and that’s fine, I’ve done it before, but it’s not for me.) He agreed and I continued on by saying that I know engagement is a big step, but so is moving in together. And that I didn’t want him to worry about it until he was ready.
Either way I will be moving in Aug. and it’s something I would be doing either way (single or taken) as my lease will be up and ill be relocating to put my daughter in a better school district.
He sat there for a bit then said “I’m ready I just don’t want to rush things” I told him “that’s fine hunny, then lets just not talk about things till you’re 100%” I gave him a smile then proceeded to eat my steak.
We enjoyed the rest of the night and after he dropped me off at home he asked me again “are you happy?” I have him a hug, a quick kiss goodbye and just said “I’m still here aren’t I?”
So that my dear bees was Wed. Last night while we were talking after he got off work, he always calls me on his way home, he asked if I (again) was happy. I said yes, and asked him of he was. He said yes that he was a very happy camper and I told him good that as long as he’s a happy Mr Mans. (My nickname for him) then I was a happy Lady. An he just responded with “happy wife happy life right?” And I just laughed.
Things didn’t really go any further then that. Just the usual joking and how was your day talk that we always have.
So I think I kept to the SIUP As best as I could anyway. Now I’m just curious to see what comes from our dinner convo as it is very unlike him to just brig up the topic. I have a feeling my shiny might be coming before the initial Dec. date now, but we shall see.
All I know is I’m keeping my mouth shut about any engagement/wedding/moving in details as much as I can…. 🙂