Post # 1
- Wedding: September 2013 - Pavilion at Rocky Neck State Park
My fiance wants to do the dollar dance at our wedding. His family does it at all of their weddings. His parents and grandfather automatically assumed we were going to do it at the wedding without asking us what we were going to do. It’s not that I don’t want to, because I love most of his friends and family, but there are a few people I am uncomfortable with whom I know are going to do it and I really don’t want to spend my entire night dancing with people I barely know. I am already am doing the garter (which he wanted to do and I didn’t originally), but I just don’t know what to do. I don’t want to be a jerk about it and I feel like I make it sound like I am… HELP!!!!
Post # 3
Dollar dances are tradition in my family as well. We’re doing the first dances, dollar dance, garter & bouquet tosses.
I’m not sure how many people you have at your wedding, but it usually doesnt last longer than 2 hours [for the largest wedding]. You don’t dance an entire song per person, it’s usually anywhere from 30 seconds to 1:30, which makes it go by really fast.
Post # 4
@jenilynevette: wow! Two hours is a really long time! We have it at all our family weddings, but it never lasts nearly that long! Usually the bridesmaids limit it to 15 or 25 seconds per person. You can definitely finish in far under an houe. I always enjoy that, especially at big weddings, I get to say hello to the busy bride and groom personally. Plus, even if you don’t know the guest well, if they’re important enough to your FI that they’re at the wedding, theyre important people to your marriage!
Is there something holding you back besides the worry if how much time it will take?
What is it about those few guests that makes you uncomfortable?
Post # 5
@OnceUponATime: Oh, I was talking 2 hours for very large weddings [200ish guests]. I would imagine it would take that long, but maybe not!
I do enjoy them though and I can’t imagine having my wedding without one!
Many of the bees on here frown upon it, because anything where the bride & groom get money for something besides their wedding gift is considered tacky here. However, you can easily add a fake dollar to each place setting or something and still call it the dollar dance!
Post # 6
@jenilynevette: The weddings I’ve been to had around 200 guests. Each person just doesnt last dance for very long. Every wedding is different! And you’re right! The bees don’t like it very much. It’s so much a cultural thing. Here in Pittsburgh, every dj has the bridal polka and guests a never forget their crazily folded dollars! Or fives, or tens, or twenties!
Post # 7
The bridal dance is extremely popular in my area. In fact, I’ve never been to a wedding that DIDN’T have one.
That being said, it usually only lasts a half an hour or so. Even at huge weddings, each guest only dances with the bride (and sometimes the groom) for, like, 30 seconds a piece. They take a shot, drop money in the bag (or not), take a spin with the bride (and groom) and go on their merry way.
It’s an awesome way to mingle with as many guests as possible without having to travel around from table to table and chit chat.
I’m Polish, so we typically dance to polka music, which practically no one knows how to dance to anyway, so we just fool around and act crazy. So even if you aren’t a “good” dancer, it’s still fun because no one knows what they’re doing.
I think you should give it a shot. Usually the bridal dance is the most fun part of the weddings I’ve been to. And if it fizzles out, the DJ will know right away and he can just wrap it up and move onto other music.
Post # 8
If you feel uncomfortable with it I think you should say so to your FI. It’s your wedding as well, and I personally would have had a huge issue with anyone just assuming me to go along with that tradition. You DON’T sound like a jerk, so stand up for yourself!
Post # 9
@mandyhartwell: tradion here as well. it’s not all night, at most 20 minutes, if that. and you have your MOH cut the people out fast that you don’t care to dance with for tha tlong 😉
Post # 10
Yeah a dollar dance is definitely a tradition here and most of my family is all for it. Looks like i’m having one too but we are definitely going to limit our time!