Dollar Dance

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Is a dollar dance tacky?
    Yes, it is always tacky : (39 votes)
    64 %
    No, it is a fun tradition : (22 votes)
    36 %
  • Post # 2
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I was surprised the first time I saw one because I had never heard of it before, but didn’t judge. I’ve since seen it a few times, and it’s always been both the bride and groom. We didn’t do one though.

    Post # 3
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    Sugar bee

    I grew up in a predominately Sicilian neighborhood, in a predominately Italian town. The only time I’ve ever seen it done, in my 58 years, was at a wedding about 35 years ago; the bride was Polish and carried a special bag and the groom was a Greek immigrant. 

    Most hosts think it’s not in good form to ask guests for cash in any way, including gifts, a cash-bar, etc.

    Post # 4
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    honeybee2014:  It’s popular where I’m from. Same with a garter auction. We weren’t going to do either, but members of our wedding party and friends urged us to do the dollar dance. We did go against the garter auction (we did a garter dance-off instead), but we did do the dollar dance. Nobody batted an eyelash because it is so common.

    If it isn’t common where you’re from or not a tradition in your family or FI’s family, I would opt not to do it.

    Post # 5
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    I’m Hispanic / Latino and it’s very very common to the point that people know to bring cash for the dance tradition. But now that it’s my turn I feel almost bad doing it . 

     

    Maybe be ask your fiancé and his family for their opinion if you are open enough with them. My family has diffrent traditions than his does so I have asked his family for opinions a few times already . 

    Post # 6
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I’ve been to several weddings where this is done, and I do not think it is tacky when it’s done for traditions sake.  It’s just a tradition – just like throwing the bouquet or jordan almonds as favors.  However, if the DJ was egging the crowd on, or the bride and groom were passing a hat or something, I’d find that annoying.    

    Post # 7
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I think there are other fun things you can do that dont involve asking guests for cash. 

    Post # 8
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I don’t think it’s tacky. It’s traditional for some families. I’ve also been to a couple weddings where they did a ‘dash for cash’. The MOH & Best Man have a competition where they run around the crowd collecting dollar bills seeing who can get the most. I thought it was cute. I didn’t do either because I didn’t want to ask for money, personally. I felt like that’s what I would be doing if we did that. The dollar dance is a tradition for Polish weddings (my husband & I both are Polish), but I would feel so awkward dancing with people AND I would also feel awkward if no one participated haha!

    Post # 9
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Traditional or not.. I think you can find better ways to honor tradition that don’t involve dancing for ones.

    Post # 10
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    honeybee2014:  I’ve never been to a wedding that DIDNT have one. It’s very common in my area for that and a cash bar. 

    Post # 11
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    I love the dollar dance! The wedding is usually so big its nice to get a quick moment with the groom/bride.  I dont find it offensive since its not required to participate and its nice honeymoon money for the couple! Many people will give more than one dollar because they want to! 

    Post # 12
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    I’m not a fan of this tradition. I’ve been to one wedding with a dollar dance. It was really awkward. And the bride wore light up shoes. It felt sort of like I was in a…..club.

    Post # 13
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

     I’ve been to a few weddings where it was done and there were always comments made at my table how tacky it was. I would never ask guests for money but that’s just me.

    Post # 14
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Quite frankly it depends on where you live. The area I am from and live in the dollar dance is a must at any wedding dance.  What one may find tacky another may not.  I would refrain from calling it tacky, to some it is part of their traditions/heritage to others never heard of it. 

    Post # 15
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    honeybee2014:  I don’t know if it is necessarily tacky.. but it is definately awkward. But then from where I am from it isn’t the norm.

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