(Closed) $ DOLLAR DANCE DISCUSSIONS. waaaah. $

posted 5 years ago in Reception
  • poll: to have or not to have ?
    do it - it can't hurt anything! : (53 votes)
    33 %
    steer clear - too tacky : (71 votes)
    44 %
    we did it - good success! : (5 votes)
    3 %
    we did it & i wish we hadn't. : (0 votes)
    we didn't do one - thank goodness! : (31 votes)
    19 %
    i wish we would have. : (2 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 3
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @wifegoodman:  Every wedding I’ve been to has had the dollar dance. I’m still not entirely sold on the idea but it doesn’t really matter to me. Most people don’t even notice the dollar dance anyway. They think about it for a second when it’s announced and it’s gone. Partly because it’s pretty common place and partly because if they think it’s tacky, it’s the dance itself. Not you. So I think I’m doing it and saying oh well. LoL 

    Post # 4
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    325 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I didn’t have one. And honestly I’ve never seen it done in person and I didn’t know what it was prior to the Bees here discussing it. Is it a regional thing?

    Post # 5
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    4328 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 1992

    @wifegoodman:  I’ve only been to one wedding where this was done, and I think it looked tacky and gift grabby, BUT it may be a regional thing and more popular / acceptable in your area. Good luck on your decision.

    Post # 6
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    1015 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    It’s huge down here. We call it a money dance. FI and I discussed not having one, but sometimes you don’t have much of a choice – I have been to weddings where they spontaneously happen because an uncle or grandparent started one. It’s usually a nice way to spend a little one on one time with guests. There’s no minimum amount, and it’s not like an auction where the highest bidder wins. The older guests really seem to like them here. 

    Post # 7
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    9057 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I didn’t have one and have never seen one. If its socially acceptable/expected in your area though, I say go for it. Personally I attend weddings with the amount intend to gift already decided and enclosed in card, but if there are other opportunities to give cash it doesn’t really bother me. Ijust don’t participate 

    Post # 8
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    5664 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I’m finding through reading the bee that this is pretty regional.  No one really does it here but if it’s commonplace in your area then you might as well do it. People probably will come ready to participate!

    Post # 9
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    5408 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I have never been to a wedding where there wasn’t a dollar dance. They are extremely common in the Midwest. I think it would be tacky if nobody did it in your area, but if it’s common, it’s not usually seen as gift grabby at all. Most people just give singles….some are generous though. It’s just kind of a fun thing here, not for the money. 

    Post # 10
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    2699 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I honestly thought this was just a Greek tradition!

    Tbh as a guest, if I’d already paid to be at your wedding and written you a cheque as a gift, I wouldn’t feel comfortable being under pressure to stick money to you also. However, I wouldn’t judge you for doing it.

    Post # 11
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    2073 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    We did one at ours and my husband wasn’t initially sold on he idea since it’s not something that’s done at weddings where he is from.  But he ended up having a blast with his friends.  The little kids enjoyed it too and we did not hear a single complaint about it.  

    I think it’s a great way to have a short moment with each guest that wants to participate. We got a ton of singles from little kids, but our friends and family were quite generous and we received way more than we thought we would.  On a funny note, I was done way before hubby was..and he was the one who wasn’t sure his friends/family would participate.  

    Post # 12
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    314 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    It is pretty common with my family and pretty much every wedding I’ve been to has had a dollar dance. However, I find them a bit awkward, but I know my family expects me to have one… so…

    We will be having a dollar dance at my wedding, but we’re adding a twist and calling it a donation dance, you can dance with the bride or the groom, and for every $1 dance that is bought, we will donate $9 to a local charity that supplies food and shelter for battered women and their children (and is a charity that I volunteer at). So, basically for each dance we’re giving $10 to the charity. I know not everyone will agree with me on this, but I feel this is a suitable compromise.

    Post # 13
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    807 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I voted steer clear it’s too tacky. It’s not something we do over here and even if it was I wouldn’t have it especially as guests would have spent enough money as it is. 

    Post # 14
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    200 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I never heard a dollar dance before I joined WeddingBee.

    Post # 15
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    1042 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Is this regional?  I’ve never seen it done and I’ve attended at least several dozen weddings.

    Post # 16
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    5081 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    It’s also part of the Polish community (of which I belong lol), but I honestly haven’t seen one done at a wedding since 1990 or so.

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