Post # 1
FI is from the mid west and apparently this is a tradition at most weddings there. You play a song and the guests ‘pay’ ($1,$5, $10 bills) to dance with the bride and groom. It turns into a compitition, who has the most money at the end of the song. I have never heard of this and my mom was APPALLED when I told her we were planning on doing it (FI really wants to). What do you all think?
Post # 3
Personally, i feel like people are already spending money on gifts. i wouldn’t want to ask them to give us any more money, but i know it’s a tradition for some people so i think it’s fine for them, i just wouldn’t want to do it.
Post # 4
Everybody where I’m from does this. It’s not even a question of tacky, when I’ve told people that we’re not doing bouquet toss/garter stuff, the next question out of their mouths here is: “But you ARE doing a dollar dance, right??” People like having a chance to get to dance with you alone and seriously, nobody cares about the money part. I’ve rarely seen it turned into a competition… I can’t think of ever seeing that someone even counted the money at the reception? That wouldn’t be normal to me.
I used to work weddings in high school, and I’ve never NOT seen it done, by any wedding, no matter how nice. I had noooo idea it was a midwest thing until weddingbee! Haha. It’s as automatic as having a wedding cake around here.
But I think if you rmom was appalled, other people in your family might be appalled too. I could see how some might get offended or something, especially if they’re not used to it or have never heard of it. So maybe you should drop it. Tough call.
Post # 5
It really depends on who is showing up. It is a tradition in the midwest and south. I’ve been to family weddings where we do this and it’s kind of fun. Most people just pay $1 or $5 (which is usually floating around in your wallet anyways) and you get to dance with the bride/groom. Weddings can be so crowded and busy that you might not get a chance to dance with the bride or groom otherwise, so it’s nice to have a minute or two to chat and give your congrats. That being said, you know your family. If they will be uncomfortable with it, well there ya go.
Post # 6
I think this depends on family/culture/etc. I had never even heard of it, but we went to my fiance’s cousin’s wedding and they did it. I personally would never do it, but it is part of tradition for some people.
Post # 7
I’m from the South and lots of people do it here too. I HATE it, but it is really important to Nicholas – one of the things he’s asked me to keep in… and he let me bar the chicken dance, so I guess I’ll go with it.
But i’m NOT happy.
Post # 8
You know if I just heard of it out of the blue I would say Tacky, but I’ve seen it done at several weddings in my family and it’s one of those things that’s tradition in some circles. The weddings I’ve been too that have had it have been a lot of fun. The bride never dances with everyone normally and this way it’s only a dollar (or more, but no one really looks unless you put in a $50 or big bucks) and everyone spins each other around. The most fun I’ve seen is when both the bride and groom are doing it at the same time, so the ladies aren’t left out. It’s a great chance to have a little time of fun with the special guests. I dont’ think we’ll be doing the $$ part at my wedding since the other half’s family wouldn’t be familar so it would be more stress and worry about whether they’d think it’s tacky but I would like to have something where we both dance with all the guests.
Post # 9
There is a post on here somewhere that got quite heated. Taking into consideration area that your wedding is in, your family, any cultural influences, and lots of other things, it can range from widely accepted and weird if you DON’T have it, to the T word with a capital T.
If your mom thinks it’s tacky tho, chances are your family will, and that alone I think is a reason to possibly exclude it if it’s not the norm.
WHY do you want to have it? B/c it’s fun? or b/c you think it’d be a nice monetary contribution? If it’s just b/c it’s fun, you can provide “Tokens” to your guests to “cash in” on a dance with you. If the monetary incentive is there, though, it could come off as greedy.
I’m in the midwest and i have only seen it as ONE wedding. It’s usually seem as money-grabby unless it’s a cultural thing. We talked about having one and donating the money to charity and making that announcemenet, but DH was against it. He said our wedding wasnt a competition and didn’t really want to deal with men dancing with me all night and whatnot. It wouldn’t have gone over that well anyways.
You’re about to get a LOT of different responses =]
Post # 10
I have conflicting feelings about it. We’re doing it at our wedding because it’s something our family has always done, but I did worry about what some poeple would think. Then I just reminded myself that they don’t have to participate if they don’t want to. All the people at our wedding will be there because they love and support us and I don’t think any of them would think badly of us just because of one little dance. Good luck!
Post # 11
The coolest thing I have seen done with the dollar dance is that the $$$ was donated to charity. It was announced before the dance and everyone loved it!
Post # 12
My mom wants me to do it–it’s a Greek tradition. It’s all in good fun–if you don’t want to throw money at me (yep. throw money. Not pin it on.) then don’t. I don’t think anyone on my mom’s side of the family will think it’s tacky at all. To them, it’s tradition and it’s a lot of fun. I hope that any people that are unfamiliar with the tradition are not too uptight about it.
Post # 13
I used to think the whole concept a bit on the tacky side, and I’m from the South! But I’ve actually been to several weddings where this was one of the funnest parts of the whole reception. It’s all about how you handle it. If it’s that important to your FI, then just know that there ARE ways that you can present it tackfully.
Post # 14
It really depends on your culture/traditions. It has been done at nearly all the weddings I have attended. We will not be including it at our wedding though. Back in the day though, this dance was for monetary reasons. The money raised would then be used to keep the venue open for an extra hour or so or it would pay for extra expenses that have incurred but more recently the money is just given to the bride and groom for saving.
Post # 15
I think it’s like “Double Dipping” People are already giving you a gift most likely. We won’t be including it on our day
Post # 16
I’m filipino and its a tradiation at every wedding to do the money dance! Its not a competition though, people can give whatever amt even just a dollar. Guest even get creative with it and make crowns, necklaces, sashes, bow ties, etc! I see it at every wedding I go to!! [attachment=325272,40286]
here’s a picture of my friend’s money dance!