- 3 years ago
A conversation with my SO:
“Why don’t we have my cousin’s daughter as a flower girl?”
“I don’t know her, what’s her name?”
“Uh… erm… that doesn’t matter!”
Am I unfairly dominating the bridal party if the ring bearer, flower girl, and 2 jr. bridesmaids are my relatives? SO’s relatives live all across the country, I’ve never met any of them, he rarely talks about them, and doesn’t seem close with them (see above). Whereas, I have a huge in-state family that’s super close to me and my SO has met at our family parties.
Reasons I picked the flower girl and one of the Jr. BM
- I was the FG at their parents’ wedding
- The FG is the only little girl both me & SO know
- SO & I are really close to the other Jr. BM, but I didn’t want this Jr. BM to feel left out since she’s the same age and her sister is the FG
I’m wondering if I should just skip the Jr. BM altogether? Or maybe ask SO’s niece to be a flower girl? I don’t want to offend any of his family, but I also want Jr. BM and at least have those two as my RB & FG.