Donation in lieu of favors card

posted 3 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
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681 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I think if your card box says “Cards” somehow, and then you had a framed sign saying “In lieu of favours, we have made a donation to the Cancer society” that would eliminate any confusion.

We did something similar-but-different in that proceeds from our twonie bar (totally standard in my part of Canada) went to the Cross Cancer Institute, and our MC’s announced that as well.  We had many people come up to us and say how thoughtful it was, and how much they appreciated it. So I say go for it!!

Post # 4
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3570 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

We put them in a frame on each table on next to the menu.  That way you didn’t really have much chance to miss it, since it was on each table.  We also made a note in the program, I think.

Post # 5
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1327 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I went to a wedding where there was a little card on each table that told about the donations.  You could also put a little sign at each table instead of just one by the card box.

Side note: I really like the donation idea.  I had never seen it until a recent wedding where they donated to two charities dedicated to illnesses that family members had passed away from.  I thought it was a touching way to honor those people that couldn’t be there.

Post # 6
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5697 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I wouldn’t frame it as a favor, frame it for what it really is, a donation you are making beacuse you want to honor those you know and love who have passed from cancer or are fighting it. Put it with a candle and a little phrase, or framed photo’s of the people who have passed away. 

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@MsJ2theZ:  +1

To OP, if you state the donation is a way for you to honor your loved ones that are struggling/have struggled with the disease, you’ll be less likely to have people trying to stuff your cardbox with change.

Post # 8
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3570 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@MsJ2theZ:  ??  They are called donations in lieu of favors.  Instead of receiving a favor, a donation is made in your name. 

We made donations to an illness for someone in our family who is still alive, and was at the wedding.  My friend who had type 1 diabetes, did it for that.    

Post # 9
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10992 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I think that most guests likely would not even notice that you did not provide favors and likely would not even miss them.

Because of this, perhaps you do not need to connect the two issues at all, and, to avoid any confusion, you could just make the donation without even mentioning it to the guests.

Post # 10
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4576 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I think the frame idea is nice.

This trend is lovely, and I’d much rather (as a guest) know the money went somewhere meaningful and not toward a trinket I’ll throw away.

Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think that most guests likely would not even notice that you did not provide favors and likely would not even miss them.

Because of this, perhaps you do not need to connect the two issues at all, and, to avoid any confusion, you could just make the donation without even mentioning it to the guests.


I agree with the above advice. Just make the donation to honor your loved ones and don’t have a favor.

Post # 12
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1190 posts
Bumble bee

@MrsGatito:  What my sister did, is she donated money to the sea turtle hospital in Florida. She had a tiny little chocolate sea turtle at each place setting, and on the wrapper it said- in lieu of favors, we have donated to the sea turtle hospital. It made for no confusion whatsoever. 🙂

She hand made all of the chocolates, bought the little wrappers from hobby lobby, and printed out the top from the computer. It cost her I think $50 for 250 candies.

 

 

 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@MsJ2theZ:  

@Brielle:  +1

Favors aren’t necessary, and I’d bet that no one misses them or even will notice that you don’t have favors. I think that donation is great, but I wouldn’t pose it as “in lieu of favors.” I would set up a memory table with pictures of your loved ones that have passed on, and you can have a sign saying something like, “the bride and groom have made a donation to the ACS in memory of those who could not be here with us today.” Or something like that. Or make the donation and don’t mention it at all.

Post # 14
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5697 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@MrsTVLover:  I just don’t see the point in doing it that way because really, favors aren’t necessary anyway. Just my opinion. I feel like it’s more appropriate as a “in memory of” sentiment than in leiu of favors.

Post # 15
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6273 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

+1 to everyone who said it doesn’t have to be in lieu of favors because favors are not necessary. I fully support the idea of you doing this, don’t get me wrong, but I’d definitely do more of an “In honor of ___ and ____, a donation has been made to XYZ.” Rather than pointing out what you could have gotten for the guests and chose not to, it keeps the focus on the cause itself.

To put it in perspective, all the time on the Bee we hear that gifts are not necessary and not to be expected. Which would irritate you more: A guest neglecting to bring a gift, or a guest bringing a card saying “In lieu of wedding gift, I have made a donation to X”?

 

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