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Donation to the Church, when to give?

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    celery    October 2009   Vancouver

    Hi everybody!

    We are getting married in a Catholic Church and the only form of "payment" to get married there is a donation of any value. My question is, when is the best time to give the donation? Before or after the wedding?

    Thanks!

     
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    pren79    10/17/09   SF Bay Area

    The priest I talked to told me that it would be nice to get the donation before. So I just donated the same time I booked the date at the church. However, from the way he said it, it sounds like it's not uncommon to provide the donation after the wedding either.

     
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    Mrs. Spring    May 10, 2009   California

    We paid for the church rental before the ceremony and provided a donation to the priest after the ceremony.  I would ask your church secretary what your parish prefers/what is normal. 

    Ours said that, since the priest isn't paid extra for doing the ceremony (he's basically doing it as a "service" to the church), he is often given a donation in appreciation of his services after the wedding.  She said the best man usually hands over the donation after the ceremony; we didn't have a bridal party, though, so my dad did it instead.

     
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    Miss_Carmel    5/29/2010   Sacramento, CA (wedding in Carmel-by-the-Sea, CA)

    Our "donation" is due one month before the wedding and a portion of it was due on the day we booked our ceremony date and time. 

    Because it sounds like yours really is a donation, I would do it before just to make sure that it doesn't forgotten when everything starts ramping up.  Maybe a month or two before the wedding.

     
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    RumbleBee    07/24/10   Huntington Beach, CA

    Typically, there are a couple of donations. Some of the most common are as follows:

    1) Donation to the Priest/Church for the use of the facilities

    2) Donation to the wedding coordinator who works for the Church who helps you coordinate where to stand, the reading selections, order of procession, coordination of rehearsal, etc...[basically, to keep things flowing smoothly]

    3) Donation to the cantors & musicians

    Good amounts are as follows:

    Church - $200 to $300

    Wedding Coordinator - $100 - $150

    Cantors/Musicians - $50 - $100 per person

     

    These are given the fact that this is your parish. If this is neither yours or your FI parish, it might be more.

     

    GOD BLESS....

     
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    AliOopsieDaisy    July 2010  

    The above post is interesting/informative. I didn't realize one donation entailed so many things.

     
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    celery    October 2009   Vancouver

    Thanks for the information everybody! It is much appreciated!

     
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    cmarie413    September 18, 2010   San Francisco, CA

    We booked a church that is not our parish. Upon booking the church, we provided donations for the church, the organist and the janitorial staff.  I understand it is customary to give the priest a donation on the day of the wedding but we're not sure how much...what is customary?

     
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    Mrs. Spring    May 10, 2009   California

    We gave our priest $200.  I would ask the parish secretary what is common for that church.  I think the amount probably varies depending on location, church size, etc...  Good luck!

     

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