Post # 1
We are getting married in a Catholic Church and the only form of “payment” to get married there is a donation of any value. My question is, when is the best time to give the donation? Before or after the wedding?
Post # 3
The priest I talked to told me that it would be nice to get the donation before. So I just donated the same time I booked the date at the church. However, from the way he said it, it sounds like it’s not uncommon to provide the donation after the wedding either.
Post # 4
We paid for the church rental before the ceremony and provided a donation to the priest after the ceremony. I would ask your church secretary what your parish prefers/what is normal.
Ours said that, since the priest isn’t paid extra for doing the ceremony (he’s basically doing it as a “service” to the church), he is often given a donation in appreciation of his services after the wedding. She said the best man usually hands over the donation after the ceremony; we didn’t have a bridal party, though, so my dad did it instead.
Post # 5
Our “donation” is due one month before the wedding and a portion of it was due on the day we booked our ceremony date and time.
Because it sounds like yours really is a donation, I would do it before just to make sure that it doesn’t forgotten when everything starts ramping up. Maybe a month or two before the wedding.
Post # 6
Typically, there are a couple of donations. Some of the most common are as follows:
1) Donation to the Priest/Church for the use of the facilities
2) Donation to the wedding coordinator who works for the Church who helps you coordinate where to stand, the reading selections, order of procession, coordination of rehearsal, etc…[basically, to keep things flowing smoothly]
3) Donation to the cantors & musicians
Good amounts are as follows:
Church – $200 to $300
Wedding Coordinator – $100 – $150
Cantors/Musicians – $50 – $100 per person
These are given the fact that this is your parish. If this is neither yours or your FI parish, it might be more.
Post # 7
The above post is interesting/informative. I didn’t realize one donation entailed so many things.
Post # 8
Thanks for the information everybody! It is much appreciated!
Post # 9
We booked a church that is not our parish. Upon booking the church, we provided donations for the church, the organist and the janitorial staff. I understand it is customary to give the priest a donation on the day of the wedding but we’re not sure how much…what is customary?
Post # 10
We gave our priest $200. I would ask the parish secretary what is common for that church. I think the amount probably varies depending on location, church size, etc… Good luck!