(Closed) Donation/Cost for priest, how much is customary?

posted 8 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
194 posts
Blushing bee

Well, our Pastor is someone that my Fiance has known his entire life. I’ve only been to church a handful of times in my life, so I’m not a thousand percent sure on any of this. My Future Father-In-Law, got married recently, and he gave our Pastor (who is also his) $200, for both him and to be equally split with the church. Needless to say, our church is very small, so the Pastor showed up at the reception with $200 in a card. As far as you, I would say the same thing. I think it is a reasonable amount, but if you can afford more, then go for it.

Post # 4
6010 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Could you call the priest’s home parish and ask the parish secretary?  I think priests are notoriously ambiguous on this topic, but parish secretaries will usually clue you in on all the details of what’s expected.  If the priest or the secretary gives you a figure, I think it’s totally up to you whether to pay exactly that amount or give a little more.  If you really like the priest, and he does a good job, maybe pay a little extra as a “tip”?

For reference, i think our secretary said a normal gift would be $200 for our parish (we’re parishoners and knew the priest a little before getting married).  My dad handed him $200 cash after the ceremony. 

Post # 5
611 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Personally (that’s just in my case; each case/parish may differ), I try to make sure the priest has $200 (or $300) after all the expenses he would have incurred for my wedding (e.g. traveling or lodging if needed)

Post # 7
88 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

My church has a donation of 500. the church down the road was a minimum of 200. Normally the church lets you know if it is required/recommended

Post # 8
2004 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

Our requested/required donation for the priest was $400. That’s in addition to the fee for the church.

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